Nervous? Drawing a Blank? Here’s My Fave Technique for Getting Unstuck During a Tarot Reading

I always tell people that the key to being a good intuitive tarot reader is relaxation, because insights and ideas can’t enter your head when it’s a solid block of anxiety.

But what if you just can’t relax when you’re giving someone a Tarot reading?

Being all chill and laid back doesn’t come easy to everyone, myself included, and sometimes giving a reading can feel as awkward as dancing in public when you were thirteen.

Here’s a sad confession: despite all my years reading Tarot cards, I still occasionally struggle with this and relaxation exercises only take me so far.

But then I discovered a totally new way to kick back and put my critical “but you’ll screw this up!” part of my mind on pause. No, it’s not weed, it’s even better….I created my very own alter ego.

Now when I’m caught in the throes of self-consciousness, I ask myself what would Veronica do?

So before we go any further, let me introduce you to my alter ego Veronica Noir…

Veronica is everything I’m not but wish I could be – fearless, slutty and independently wealthy with a hankering for day drinking, younger men and eating chocolate for breakfast.

At first I used to hide behind my alter ego whenever I wanted to write bitchy tarot readings or blog posts about dicks, but pretty soon Veronica went from part-time nom de plume to full fledged alter ego status.

An alter ego is basically a fearless, naughtier version of yourself! Tapping into your alter ego gives you permission to kick back, explore, play and make mistakes – which is exactly the kind of attitude that helps unlock your intuition and heighten your Tarot reading abilities.

In order to be a great Tarot reader you need to know how to let go, relax, shift gears. Stepping into your alter ego self helps you do this. Think of it as a relaxation tool, but way cooler.

Your Turn!

The good news is you don’t need to create an alter ego because your alter ego already exists inside of you. You just need to uncover it.

So pour yourself a drinky poo and ask yourself this:

1. Who would you be and what would you do if there were no rules or consequences?

For example, if sleeping around and copious day drinking didn’t result in chaos and problems (for me), I’d probably do it! Therefore, Veronica does it… All. Day. Long.

2. What are your guilty pleasures and true desires?

And don’t feel you have to get all weird and kinky here – just be honest with yourself. What do you really want?

The answers to these two questions make up the backbone of your alter ego. From there you can exaggerate and embellish to create a character, adding in little details like clothing style, hobbies, career, etc.


Once you’ve got your alter ego all fleshed out, try drawing a couple Tarot cards for yourself. How would your alter ego read these cards? What would they say? Have fun with this. Use a notebook and pen if it helps you.

Test it out

During your next reading, if you find yourself stuck or nervous, try asking “how would my alter ego see these cards?”

I want to be clear: I’m not suggesting you go all drama student and start channeling your alter ego in a really over the top way. I’m just suggesting you allow your mind to become playful and elastic, letting go and seeing where it takes you!

So tell me…

Who is your alter ego and did this exercise help you limber up your Tarot reading muscles? Tell me all about it in the comments below 🙂


8 thoughts on “Nervous? Drawing a Blank? Here’s My Fave Technique for Getting Unstuck During a Tarot Reading”

  1. Nirmala Edelstein

    Dear Kate,

    When I received the newsletter that you were taking this course down, I immediately went and purchased it! I’m very grateful for the price reduction, obviously, becuase I’ve had some unexpected bills to pay, but I couldn’t let this slip through my fingers.
    Well I want to tell you that I am SUPER excited about this and I can’t wait to get stuck in journalling, it’s an awesome course and I cannot believe it’s your worst seller! Tarot can get pretty damn self indulgent and goody two shoes after a while, what with everyone crying about “how can I be a better person” bla bla bla, and to be honest, we need a radical breath of fresh air and basically, I wish you wouldn’t take this course down, just promote it some more, and more and more and more, because people NEED this more than they know!!!!
    P.S: I miss Veronica Noir. Where is she? We haven’t heard from her in AGES!!!

    Lots of love,


    1. Thank you Nirmala!!! I am so glad you’re diving into this workbook and so happy that you recognize the value of exploring your alter ego. Veronica hasn’t written a blog post in a while (honestly, I started to run out of ideas and got overwhelmed with trying to do too many blog posts a week) but I do miss writing the Veronica blogs so maybe in the future I will resurrect her 🙂
      Thank you so much for your enthusiasm over my work 🙂

  2. I think my alter ego would be hair raising,so,I shall not create it.I am happy as my own true self.
    Interesting reading Kate. Thanks.

  3. Hi Kate! while exploring your lovely website some time ago, I came across Veronica Noir. I absolutely love her! She made me laugh so hard coffee spewed through my nose! Haven’t come up with an alter ego yet, but will definitely explore this and let you know. Thanks as always for great advice that puts everything in perspective!

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