Aaaand….I did a livestream on my youtube channel this week – I share my #1 secret for doing amazing Tarot readings and then I do a bunch of one card readings. I had so much fun with this and want to thank everyone who was there live 🙂 If you missed it, here it is!…
Contrary to what many free loving, hippy Tarot readers will tell you, there IS a wrong way to read Tarot!
I know, because I’ve done it. Countless times.
When you’re Tarot readings feel shallow, confusing, unhelpful and unsatisfying, it’s not because you didn’t sage hard enough or that you ate too much dairy and it clogged up your aura.
It’s probably because you’re making one (or more!) of these seriously shitty mistakes….
Mistake #1 – Reading too frequently on the same topic
So you’ve been having a fling with a hot 23 year old named Ben. After a night of passion and confessing your love for his chiseled Crossfit bod, he suddenly ghosts you!
Wondering why you haven’t heard from him, you do a reading and ask “why hasn’t Ben texted me?”
But you don’t like the cards that come up, so you make yourself a hot chocolate and look at naked pictures of Orlando Bloom on the internet. But an hour later you bust out your cards again and you ask “why hasn’t Ben texted me?”
I used to do this kind of crap ALL THE TIME. And it would usually happen when I was all in a tizzy over some problem.
Why should you avoid doing this? I think it cheapens the readings and leads to confusing and shallow experiences with your cards. If you don’t love the cards you got, re-doing the reading can go two ways. Either you’ll get similar cards again, which will further frustrate you or you will get totally different cards which will make you doubt the validity of the whole Tarot reading experience.
But I know you – when you’re thirsty for info, you’ll stop at nothing to get it! So here are two sneaky workarounds for this type of situation:
Workaround #1: If you feel unsatisfied with a reading, it’s okay to keep probing. In fact, probe away! But ask different questions. So instead of continually asking “why hasn’t Ben texted me?” every single day, try going deeper with “what do I need to know about this relationship?” or “what action do I need to take?”
Workaround #2: Instead of reading on the issue itself, do a reading for yourself that will help you feel the way you want to feel. Ask yourself “how do I want to feel in this situation?” Once you’ve figured that out (and yes, it can take a while), then get your cards out and ask “what do I need to do to feel _______?”
We all Google random, stupid questions from time to time, like where can I buy Chakra tuning forks? Why is my BF repulsed by my high sex drive?Can you wax nipple hair? or How can I fill this dark chasm of loneliness inside my soul?
This is all fine and good but when you start asking your Tarot deck stuff like this, it never ends well. Except for the last question though – that one’s actually pretty deep.
Think of your Tarot deck as a mystical oracle of divine wisdom….or a really good friend. Either way, the more you respect your deck and treat it right, the more helpful and satisfying your readings will be.
But if you pull a card for every inane question that pops into your head, well, it’s just going to piss your deck off!
Remember this: the energy you put into your readings is reflected back to you. If you come at your deck with a frivolous and impatient energy, you’re cards will feed it back to you in the form of a confusing and unsatisfying reading.
Don’t think of your Tarot deck as a tool for getting answers – think of it as a tool for self exploration.
Sometimes readers want their deck to do all the heavy lifting, but it never works like that. Once you ask a question and draw a card, don’t expect instant crystal clarity! You may need to do some contemplating, some soul searching and some creative thinking to figure out what message your cards have for you.
Mistake #3 – Not setting an intention for the reading (or having a murky question)
I’ve lost count of all the times I’ve sat down to do a reading for myself with an overly vague question. It usually happens when I have a desire for clarity and comfort but I’m not entirely sure what the issue is and I’m too lazy to figure it out before drawing cards.
This is a big mistake because it usually leads to a murky and confusing reading. You’re Tarot cards crave direction and the clearer you are about why you’re doing this reading, the better your reading will be.
Before doing a Tarot reading, ask yourself this: what do I want to get out of this reading?
Do you want fresh ideas? Clarity? A new perspective? Comfort? Peace? Secret smutty info?
This will set the tone and help you create an intention for the reading. This makes all the difference!!!
Mistake #4 – Not sitting with a card long enough
These days everyone’s in a big fucking hurry all the time. I actually know a guy who listens to self-help podcasts on fast forward so the voices sound like chipmunks and he can get all the self-help he needs in half the time. I know, right? He needs help.
And so do you….if you are the type of Tarot reader who spends only a few seconds contemplating a card before zipping on to the next one, that is!
One of the biggest sins committed by Tarot readers everywhere (including me) is that we assume we already know what a tarot card means without truly diving into it.
We’re in such a big rush to draw our conclusions and hurry on to the next thing that we don’t take the time to just sit with a card and let it reveal it’s secrets to us. This is a big mistake!
Everyday Witch Tarot by Deborah Blake
The other day I asked my Tarot deck “what do I need to focus on right now?” and I got The High Priestess. I immediately thought oh, right. I need to focus on developing my intuition and paying attention to my dreams.
But then I sat with The High Priestess for a little longer and just gazed at her and when I did this I noticed that behind her were stacks of books and in front of her was a crystal ball that she was meditating with. The card seemed to be saying turn your back on books (aka other peoples ideas) and focus on your own experience (aka intuition). I also noticed that the cat on the card was pawing playfully at a bag of runes – this detail seemed to be conveying that I should be playful about exploring my psychic side and not take it too seriously.
When you sit with a card for a little while, specific nuggets of advice and wisdom reveal themselves!
Mistake #5 – Not turning inward
Or…immediately looking a card up in your Tarot book or online.
Most of us are so used to turning to some outside authority for answers – a book, the internet or another person – that turning inward can feel almost unnatural and unsettling.
In fact, I’m willing to bet both my left AND right ovaries that the entire success of the entertainment industry is dependent upon our rampant avoidance of our inner selves, serving as the perfect distraction. Why traverse the universe within when you could kill a couple hours watching Bachelor in Paradise?
God, I could ramble on and on….
But back to Tarot! Within every Tarot card is an opportunity to turn inward. Think of a Tarot card as a portal or doorway into your inner universe – an invitation from your soul to plumb its starry depths!
For example, let’s say you’re pissed at your live-in boyfriend because he leaves his B.O. laden t-shirts and socks draped over your red velvet chaise lounger. So you ask your Tarot cards “how can I get my boyfriend to pick up after himself?”
Universal Waite Tarot, published by US Games
Then you pull the Seven of Swords, which at first makes no fucking sense. The Seven of Swords is about deceit, being sneaky and abandoning the group.
So you consider these things and you look at the imagery – a man tiptoeing away from a tent village, clutching a bunch of swords – and you dive inward!
Where in your life are you tip toeing? What do you feel you need to be sneaky about? What do you long to get away from? What does this card remind you of?
And now the answers are obvious. You’ve been tip-toeing around your BF’s messiness because you want to avoid seeming like a bitch. You’re being sneaky because you want to influence him to pick up his mess without having to confront him directly. And of course you want to escape from this caretaker role, always cleaning up after him. It all makes sense! These are the things you must overcome if you want things to change.
But what if you’d just looked this Tarot card up in a book? You may have gotten a few ideas but the experience wouldn’t have been as personal or meaningful.
Mistake #6 – Forgetting to “make a plan” after the reading
Pop question: what do you do once you’ve finished a reading? Take notes? Record your reading somewhere? Forget about it?
If you’re like me, you probably just forget about it. I feel terrible saying this, but most of the time when I finish doing a reading for myself I think wow, that was really illuminating! and then immediately forget all about it.
But if you’re NOT like me, this is what you’d do: you’d take the advice and insights you gleaned from the reading and you’d make a plan to put that advice into action.
A few months ago I did a reading for myself where I asked how can I feel more inspired and creative in my work? I pulled a bunch of cards and each one had a brilliant suggestion for me.
The Three of Swords said confront your heartache! The Ace of Cups said do Reiki on yourself each day to get the energy moving!The Hierophant said sign up for that class you’ve been thinking about taking!
At this point I could have whipped out a pen and paper and started writing down action steps, such as 1. sign up for that class and 2. schedule in a Reiki session for myself each morning, etc.
Did I do this? NO! But if I had, who knows where it would have taken me and what transformations may have occurred as a result.
Mistake #7 – Not signing up for my 4 week Tarot course!
And this my friends, is the biggest mistake of all!
My upcoming four week course The Daily Tarot Girl’s guide to Intuitive Tarot Readingbegins on Sept 18th – have you signed up yet?
This course is designed for beginner to intermediate Tarot students who want to read Tarot with more intuition, confidence and skill!
It’s a fresh, fun Tarot course that’s packed with videos, worksheets, challenges and more! There’s a private Facebook group where you get to meet fellow students, ask me questions and interact. I will also do a live Q&A session each week.
After you take my course, you will be able to…
Tap into your intuition the moment you turn over a Tarot card
Interpret a card with your own unique flair
Read a Tarot card in ANY context
Feel connected to your Tarot cards and to your own inner wisdom as you do a reading
Clearly see the message in a Tarot reading (well, most of the time!)
Have a personal bond with your Tarot deck so that doing readings is like having a convo with a good friend
With a little help from my evil twin Veronica, this blog series aims to answer the two burning questions that are probably on every Tarot enthusiasts mind: 1) If this Tarot card were a person, what would they be like in bed? 2) What advice does this card have for you about your sex life?
Rider Waite Tarot, Published by US Games Systems, Inc.
The Foolis both moronic and deliciously refreshing! He approaches life (and sex) with an adventurous fearlessness which kind of makes him an idiot – but in a hot way.
What would The Fool be like in bed? Let me put it this way…
Have you ever had sex with someone who always does the exact same thing, in the exact same way, over and over again, never deviating from the monotonous routine? Someone who balks at the suggestion of trying something new?
The Fool is the exact opposite of that!
The Fool embraces sexual adventures and isn’t scared of being vulnerable or looking stupid. In other words, he doesn’t live in fear of losing his boner or feel like a twit when he’s role playing in a cheesy pirate costume. Life is too short to be sexually self conscious!
Despite past rejections and mishaps, The Fool remains open, flexible and optimistic, both emotionally and sexually. This is a dude who is not afraid of taking big risks in the boudoir, whether he’s confessing his most bizarre kink or holding eye contact for longer than two seconds.
And did I mention he’s up for anything? He’s like an ardent (and sometimes naive) tourist in Sexytown, yearning to see all the sights and become fluent in the language of lust. Basically, he’s someone you’re gonna wanna bang.
Guess what? The Fool has some valuable advice for you:
He says stop being so uptight in bed – let your hair down and let go of inhibitions. Ignore your fear of having your partner laugh at your weird sex fantasies. So what?!!
Be willing to take some erotic risks. Yes, sometimes you end up with a scraped knee, a broken heart and/or genital herpes. That’s life. Get over it.
Like a horny Columbus on the high seas of eroticism, be willing to explore, embark on sexy adventures and discover new things about yourself. You’ll be glad you did.
Tune in next week when I reveal the oozing charisma of The Magician!
The Magick and Mediums Oracle by Anielle Reid is modern, mystical and powerful! Join me as I go through this deck and explore the cards…
This deck is ideal for meditation and using in any kind of magickal practice. Personally, I love sitting with just one of these cards and contemplating it in a relaxed and lazy manner – I had so many cool ideas and insights when I did this! Even got a few creative writing ideas!
So far I’ve only used this deck a handful of times, but each time I did it was a special experience, like I was dabbling in a new dimension or something. Ah, good times 🙂
Have you ever done a juice cleanse? Well, I hadn’t. Until now.
I’d fantasized about doing one for years. I pictured myself smiling as I drank green juice out of a mason jar through a biodegradable paper straw. And then skipping barefoot on a sandy beach, feeling so light, free and clean since all I’d consumed that day was juice.
But I’d avoided doing it because, well, the part of me that didn’t bullshit myself knew it would totally suck.
But then I went camping.
And after that I got a Brazilian wax.
And I thought you know what? I’m on a roll of doing horrible things, so why not try a juice cleanse?
green juice = spiritual purification???
There was another reason I wanted to try a juice cleanse. Years ago I’d read that if you eat fresh fruits and veggies and avoid dairy, wheat, sugar, meat, alcohol, drugs and everything fun in life you can raise your vibration.
Having a high vibration is supposed to be awesome. It makes you more psychic and intuitive. You can tap into energies, communicate freely with spirit guides and have divine, ecstatic experiences. Life becomes magical. Or so I’d been told.
So I decided to give it a whirl and see if doing a juice cleanse would blast me into a whole new stratosphere of psychic ability.
My scientific methods
Here’s how I decided to conduct this psychic/dietary experiment… 1) Self evaluate level of psychic ability on a scale of 1-10 2) Do three day juice cleanse 3) Re-evaluate my level of psychic ability on a scale of 1-10 and see if it’s changed
How I evaluated my level of psychic ability
1) I closed my eyes and randomly opened a page in one of my art books, placing a hand over that page and trying to discern what was on that page with the palm of my hand (and NOT my eyes!). I then gave myself a score of 1-10, depending on how close I was.
2)I kept a journal of “psychic experiences” for the week before, during and after the juice cleanse. I also kept a dream journal. Was there an uptick of wild psychic activity and crazy ass dreams during or after the juice cleanse? You’ll find out!
My dream journal….where it all happens!
Now let me roll out the details of my juice cleansing psychic adventure in a linear fashion…
The week before the juice cleanse
Nothing special happened here. In preparation for the juice cleanse I began craving things like pizza, cheese, apple cider, brownies and potato chips. I ate these things.
Cheese: the creamy seductress
I had zero psychic experiences to report in my journal and I didn’t remember any of my dreams. When I evaluated my psychic ability by doing the magazine exercise above, I failed miserably. I rated myself a 2 out of 10 on the psychic front.
The 3 Day Juice Cleanse
I decided to do a modified juice cleanse and just drink juice, water and herbal tea until dinner, which would basically consist of a bunch of raw veggies and maybe some beans or something. Yeah, I know. I really know how to have fun!
I ordered the juice from a fancy company that makes really nice raw, organic, fresh pressed juice. I have a juicer but it’s a total pain in the ass to clean and I couldn’t imagine doing it like five times a day. I’m not a rich lady, I just act like one.
Day 1:An epic failure
I woke up starving and so I ate breakfast anyway (chocolatey oats with raspberries and brazil nuts) but then I also drank two glasses of juice along with some tea.
I caved and ate a cuke. I’m SO bad!
By 3pm I was going batshit nuts with hunger (even though I’d had a full breakfast, drunk a shit tonne of juice and had probably only burned 2 calories), so I caved and made myself a full plate of stuff from my garden – tomatoes, green beans, cucumber, home made sauerkraut, fancy green olives, half an avocado and some black beans with olive oil. Not exactly junk food, but also not exactly juice.
By dinner I was insane with hunger again, even though I’d eaten breakfast, lunch and like five huge glasses of juice and a huge mug of herbal tea. For dinner I made a green salad with fried tofu and a spicy peanut sauce. It was fuckin’ good! Then I washed it all down with a few more glasses of juice!
In conclusion I will say this: I ate what I normally eat in a day, plus an exorbitant amount of juice. So day one of the three day cleanse was not perfect. Okay, it was a total failure. Maybe I’ll do better tomorrow.
Day 2: The Juice Binge
I woke up and told myself I’ll drink juice until dinner, it won’t be that hard. Juice after all is FULL of calories in the form of sugar.
But by noonish I felt my brain going fizzy and fuzzy and my emotional state become more fragile by the second. I didn’t want any more fucking juice. I wanted normal food that would actually sustain me.
So I ate a bunch of white bread with cheese. Yum. Better than green juice. I washed it down with two huge mugs of black tea. Finally, I feel normal again.
For dinner I ate a huge plate of pasta with pesto sauce and olives. God I love food. Lest you think I’m cheating on this juice cleanse, fear not – I continued to slam juice every couple of hours.
At the end of the day as I was cramming my mouth with my bedtime snack of cashew milk (part of the cleanse) and crackers and cheese (not part of the cleanse), it occurred to me that what I was doing was the opposite of a juice cleanse – it was a juice binge!
Day 3: Juice Cleanses are Bullshit
The idea behind a juice cleanse is that by drinking only juice, your body gets a break from digesting solid food and when it’s not busy breaking down food it can get to work expelling toxins.
And toxins are the new agey/yoga version of demonic possession.
I figured once all those pesky toxins were out of my system, my vibration would skyrocket and I’d morph into a sacred vessel of love and light. Sadly, that didn’t happen.
Despite drinking my body weight in juice, nothing magical occurred. I am still the same person. Fuck.
Yeah, I know what you’re thinking – but Kate, you aren’t even doing the juice cleanse correctly! You’re just eating whatever and drinking tons of juice. Don’t expect miracles here.
Maybe YOU should try a juice cleanse then, if you think you’re so perfect.
Can you tell I’m cranky? It’s because I’m cleansing.
Psychic Evaluation Results
After my juice binge, I re-evaluated my psychic abilities.
Not only did my psychic journal not reveal any noticeable uptick in psychic experiences, the pages were totally blank! I didn’t even remember any of the weird sex dreams I’d undoubtedly had over the past week.
When I re-did the psychic exercise where I try to discern a picture with the palm of my hand, I once again failed miserably. So no change there.
The week after the juice cleanse
A few days after finishing my “cleanse” I was noticeably more bloated and gassy. I actually thought I’d gained a solid ten pounds. Thankfully it turned out to be extreme bloating. I think all the sugars in the juice messed with my gut bacteria and caused things to go haywire. I took a few probiotic pills and within a few days, I looked and felt somewhat normal again. Phew!
Did I notice any change in my psychic and intuitive abilities one week after the “cleanse”? NO. But maybe if I’d actually done a cleanse and not a binge, I would’ve had results. It’s hard to know.
Would I do a juice cleanse again? NO.
Do I think there is a link between diet and psychic ability? Possibly. I’m still really interested in exploring this further, as long as I don’t have to suffer too much.
What do YOU think?
Have you noticed a link between diet and psychic/intuitive ability? Have you ever felt that certain foods blocked your intuition or ability to sense energy? Or that certain foods enhanced things? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!
The Ember & Aura Tarot by Jamie Richardson is my newest Tarot deck and I’ve been having such a blast exploring it and doing readings!
The artwork of this deck is simple in it’s style and calming in its colours. I love how when I read with it, the cards help me re-connect with my center of being.
Reading with this deck has helped me come home to myself, especially in these last few days.
Last night I did two readings with this deck:
The first reading I did was about something that happened relationship-wise that was still really bothering me. The reading gave me some new insights into what was going on and what I needed to do, but most importantly, it helped me feel less stressed about the whole thing.
The second reading I did was concerning a new creative project. I wanted some ideas for characters and plot lines for a possible story or play I’m thinking of creating. I drew a crap load of cards around this and got some fantastic ideas that I can’t wait to write about! Yay!
So what I’m saying is that this deck is versatile, gentle and a pleasure to read with.