Veronica is my evil, Tarot reading twin. She is a lover of all things mystical and smutty, and between drinking martinis and chasing after boy toys, she hardly has time to write this column. But despite her busy schedule she is about to dish out some “Goddess Guidance” from my Goddess Guidance Oracle Deck….
Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries!
Fuck, I love that word.
Say NO. Just say NO. NO. NO. NO!
I love that word too, and so should you.
Ishtar, while sporting some impressive cleavage, says “love yourself enough to say no to others demands on your time and energy.” Amen to that.
This weekend, practice saying “no” just for the hell of it. Say no to as many things as you can think of. Even things you want to say “yes” to. Except if its a free drink or a free lap dance….or anything free for that matter.
Okay, let me amend that – just say “no” to all things that will require some amount of effort or sacrifice on your part.
Remember when you were two years old and said “no” to everything just for shits and giggles? Do that! Channel your inner two year old.
By the end of the weekend you may find that you have created a tantalizing expanse of free time, deliciously devoid of annoying friends and demanding family members. Pat yourself on the back! The only downside is there won’t be anyone left to say “no” to.
I cannot tell you how handy this advice is for this weekend! I have some family members that are pressing me to do things their way and I think I’m just going to have to say, NO! Politely of course, I do love them very much, I’m just not going to change my plans as I usually do because they have their own ideas! Thanks for this! 🙂
Family! They can be totally annoying! Good luck with this and hope all goes smoothly for you 🙂
Amen sister, I am already heeding your advice. You can add thank you to the end of No too. If you do an impression of a southern belle you can say no and everyone will walk away thinking your no is the best idea they ever heard.
I love that Southern Belle idea!
xoxo
Veronica
Great idea to have a wonderful weekend
I am going to say no to self imposed rules how I “should behave”. I am going to do what I want. Instead of playing the good mom, the good wife, etc
This will definitely involve a lot of me-time instead of we-time
😀
Aha! So you will be saying no to your inner judge/nag – I like it!
xoxo
V