I recently had the bizarre experience of getting completely ghosted by a friend. One minute we were great buds and the next minute she was giving me the cold shoulder.
I have no idea why.
My first thought was what did I do wrong? Was it something I said? And then I backtracked and replayed our last interactions in my mind, looking for the pivotal moment when she must have thought yuck, I want nothing to do with Kate anymore!
At this point I realized I could drive myself crazy by guessing and speculating, so I decided to take a deep breath and create a new Tarot spread….because I know there are others out there like me who have been ghosted and thought WTF?
After trying out this spread, I felt calm, peaceful and ready to let this friendship go. It can be hard when someone disappears from your life and you don’t know why, so hopefully this spread will help you put it all in perspective and get clear on how you can feel better about this whole shit charade!
Hey Kate, You’re The Best! You ALWAYS make me smile with your raw sense of humor I love it! Thank you for all that you do with Tarot. It is my passion and joy as well! So fun 🙂 Great Spread I luv it and you! I was ghosted twice this week so your message comes once again, at the perfect time!! Keep up your great works & God Bless you always. Margaret
Thank you so much Margaret!!! I’m so happy you enjoyed this and that it came at the right time for you. Sorry you got ghosted. I know from experience that it sucks.
I was ghosted twice this week – once by a friend of SIX years and another by a FIRST date. It’s clearly their loss because I am awesome! I was taught that Tarot Readers should avoid reading cards about Other People because it’s kinda being like a peeping tom into their private thoughts. I wonder what your thoughts are about this? Thanks! Love the spread!
Ghosted twice in one week? That sucks! I feel for you.
As a general rule I usually avoid reading about others in my Tarot readings because it feels a bit sleazy. However, there are some ways around it. I feel like as long as the reading is focused on you, it’s okay to get a bit of insight into what’s going on for someone else as it relates to us – like what do we need to understand about our relationship with this person, in order to improve things and communicate better. This isn’t the same as prying into someones private thoughts/feelings. Hope that makes sense 🙂 But yes, sometimes it can be a fine line!
Thank you this is helpful! I appreciate your thoughtful response.
Yes Kate the Ghost Spread it’s wonderful I love the concept Thank you so much for this column..my apolagies for such long reply but it’s awesome to see so many years and beautiful people come together late you are amazing no I do not know you but I became highly interested in your column it’s wonderful..I hope to get to meet you in person in the near future take care of you..and keep up this amazing column” you Glow,😘😘😘
Thank you Maria! I’m so glad you enjoyed this so much 🙂
Just giving my sympathies to being ghosted – never pleasant
Thank you Karl 🙂
Hi Kate, I was recently ghosted and this spread comes at the perfect time! I kept thinking it’s me, but realize now, it’s them! Something wrong with those ppl😁
Hey Lisa,
I’m glad this was helpful for you 🙂
It wasn’t me, Kate! I love ya!
Tho’ I have been ghosted by one French biker before…
I remember him! It was probably just as well 😉
Great spread! Thank you, Kate! It gave me a little perspective on a friendship that has certainly changed!
Thanks Denise, glad this was helpful 🙂
Kate
Would like to try this “GHOSTING” spread. I was wondering…do I need Significators for ‘me’ position and for ‘Other Person’ position. Do ‘you’ use Signficators?
No, you don’t need signficators (I actually never use them).
This is AWESOME!!! Thank you Kate!
So glad you enjoyed, Celia!!!
Thank you, Kate! I will try this in the morning! I feel I, too, have been ‘ghosted’ by a dear friend! For the life of me, I don’t know what has occurred.
I truly believe people come into our lives for a reason…..be it a moment or a lifetime. We don’t understand it, but when that purpose is done, the relationship ends…my only explanation. Though it makes us sad.
That’s a really good way of looking at it. I tend to just assume the other person is a complete asshole, LOL! But I think I like your perspective on it better 🙂
Hi Kate I have been reading and learning about Tarot and my psychic self from a shaman exponent for about nine years, also with guidance from Biddy Eslemont and practicing with Biddy’s Free Tarot Readings as I live alone and do not have a large circle of fr4iends, and my own little family have all passed over.
Your ‘ghost’ problem has answered a request asking almost what you are having at the moment. I did not know what to tell her, but read the cards for her, but she did not like the answer. Thank you for your ‘ghost’ lay out, that means a lot to me, as I know how to answer this question in future. BTW Biddy has now taken me from ( a learner, Aspiring, and now through experienced) and I will in the very near future starting my own web site for readings etc, as I am a medium and also do channeling. Dont think I am in opposition as I am in Australia, but I sometimes do get stuck. I love reading your pages. Blessed Be Freda Grossman
Hi Freda,
I’m so happy you found this to be a useful spread 🙂
Sounds like you’re on the fast track to tarot reading success – best wishes to you as you start your online business 🙂
Cheers,
Kate