How to Connect With Your Tarot Deck in 3 Easy Steps

Have you ever felt like your Tarot deck just didn’t “get” you? Like it wasn’t really attuned to you at all?

It’s hard to get anything out of your Tarot readings if you feel your deck is just “off”. Your Tarot deck might not be the problem – it could be that your relationship with your deck needs a little TLC.

For the purpose of this article, I want you to think of your Tarot deck as an actual person or conscious being. I know that seems nutsy…..but bear with me! Doing this will change your whole experience of reading Tarot….

Step #1: Stop asking your Tarot deck questions! Show your appreciation instead.

You can imagine your Tarot deck is probably tired of hearing you ask the same old questions again and again. I know for a fact that if my deck were a person, it would be sighing and rolling it’s eyes at most of my questions by now.

Try this! Instead of asking your Tarot deck a question, tell it something. Hold it in your hands, get a sense of its unique energy and vibe, and tell it (silently) how much you like it, how pretty it is, how much fun you have with it – really communicate your overall appreciation for its presence in your life.

*Tip: There are other ways you can demonstrate respect for your Tarot deck, like wrapping it in silk before putting it away, placing a crystal on top of it and thanking it after a reading. Call me crazy, but sometimes I like to give my deck a kiss before putting away!

Step #2: Get to know your Tarot deck.

Make a date with your Tarot deck and take the time to ask it some juicy questions about itself. For each question, draw a card to answer it and record your impressions in your Tarot journal. Here are some possible questions you might ask:

the world tarot card meaning
I got this card when I asked my Crystal Visions Tarot deck what our relationship would be like…
  • What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
  • What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
  • How can you best help me?
  • What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
  • How do you see our relationship?

Each and every Tarot deck has a unique personality and asking these questions will let you know if you mesh well with this particular deck. This will certainly give you a clear idea if your deck has a cheeky sense of humor or not!

Step #3: Spend quality time with your Tarot deck

Your Tarot cards will closely attune to your energy when you spend quality time with them, making for better readings. Some Tarot readers suggest sleeping with them under your pillow (I haven’t tried this one yet – I am afraid I will ruin my cards!).

You can also meditate while you hold your deck in your hands, practice regularly with them and take time contemplating each card. If these things aren’t always possible, simply placing your deck on your coffee table or bedside table will do the trick.

And one of the best ways to spend “quality time” is to journal with your cards. You can create your own Tarot journal or you can check out the one that I made 🙂

I would love to hear what you do to connect with your deck (in the comments section below).

Read Part II: How to Connect with Your Tarot Deck

328 thoughts on “How to Connect With Your Tarot Deck in 3 Easy Steps”

  1. i just got my very first tarot deck. i was so nervous when i got it i didnt know what to do. i have a friend who helped me. so i first slept with mey deck next to me. well actually i was hugging it lol. and the next day my friend and i tried to get to know my deck.
    1 Please interduce yourself
    2. your strenghts as a deck
    3 your limitations as a deck
    4. what can i learn from u
    5 what is the best way to work with you
    6 outcome of our relationship.
    that was what my friend suggested to first do. and then we i just kept trying to get to know them. i ask a lil quiestions but also talked to my deck since its kinda annoying if i ask so much
    but ye im rlly happy rn lol

  2. Even though I already felt connected to my deck the moment I got it, my journey has been nothing but special. after reading on how to connect with my deck I was already doing things like sleeping with my deck either next to me or in my pillow case.
    I carry them everywhere and I shuffle the deck every chance I get even if its sitting for 10 minutes without pulling a card I would just shuffle and speak to it .

    When I finally did ask what our relationship would be like I pulled the Magician Card.

    guys an overwhelming happiness came over me I am very excited to have started this journey, also i’m not sure if it has anything to do with the energy from my deck but Ive noticed that I’ve been sleeping better….my dreams are starting to feel more real. but I cannot remember in detail only small parts that usually trigger something when I wake up

  3. This actually helped a ton. When I started the getting to know you questions, I got some very disturbing results. The first card was a reverse ten of wands and it went downhill from there. So I asked if there was a way to improve our relationship. I got the moon. That was when I realized I had been using my JAPANESE UKIYOE tarot deck mostly during the HOUR OF THE OX. THE JAPANESE WITCHING HOUR! Now the two of us are working on mending our relationship.

    1. Thank you for this! I just started out tarot and I got a beautiful holographic rider-waite-smith deck asked it how it felt about me and got the lovers in reverse I wasn’t surprised I knew the deck was tired of our one-sided unbalanced relationship. I’ve only been using the deck for a short tie so hopefully I can use these tips to balance our relationship.

        1. Hi Kate ! Thank you so much for this amazing advice! I have a few questions.. I have a learning tarot with key words on it . Since I’m trying to connect and also learn the images and bond with my deck , I’m spending time with each card and sleeping with the deck and practically bringing the deck with me every where I go. Doesn’t this confuse the energy since I’m around different people through out the day
          ( like let’s say at work I bring my deck and hold it in the break room to connect ). Would I need to cleanse it again when I get home so it’s only use to my energy?
          Also I’m connecting to this deck but I’m not sure If this is deck i will use for readings for others as it has key words on it. Or is perfectly ok to use this deck for readings for others? I would imagine I would need to connect with a second deck with out the key words for other people. What are your thoughts and advice? As always I’m extremely grateful for all the help and insight! Thank you in advance for your help

          1. Hi Salina! Great questions 🙂
            I don’t think you need to worry about your deck picking up other’s energies at work, but if you are, you can always cleanse your deck each day or before each reading. I do this by knocking on my deck and shuffling with the intention that the shuffling clears it. You can also use sage smoke or palo santo to cleanse your cards.
            I think you can use your deck with keywords when reading for others, unless you don’t want to. But it’s not necessary to get another deck if you like working with the one you’ve got 🙂 Hope that helps!

  4. Hi! Thank you for this! I have 2 decks (the Quantum Tarot 2.0 and the Constellation Tarot), the former being alot older and more weathered, the latter being a newer one I haven’t really gotten a feel for yet. I tried doing a quick reading on the upcoming election, and used both decks cuz I wasn’t sure which one would fit the query better. Unsure of the results so I started googling the meanings, better spreads I could use and how to pick which deck to use. I think these questions will help me with that! It’s true and kinda sad, I’ve tended to neglect my decks and not give them enough attention, I never thought to ask how *they* are feeling. I always feel a sense of competition since I tend to have 2 versions of a thing (2 tarot decks, two orgonite pendants, 2 succulent plants, etc) and always worry if one feels unloved in favour of the other. I think I will sleep with both decks and ask them tomorrow these questions about themselves, as well as how they feel about eachother.

    Ps– do you think you could use these similar questions to get to know a crystal or plant you have, better (just using tarot cards?)

  5. I love this. I have a tarot deck that I just started using. Do I need to reshuffle the cards for each questions? Also can you do this with oracle cards too?

    1. Hi Mel! Yes, you can do all of this with oracle cards, too. You don’t need to reshuffle for each draw – I would just shuffle once. But you CAN shuffle each time if you want to – there are no hard and fast rules to it 🙂

  6. Hi Kate,

    I do have a beautiful Druid Animal Oracle set.

    Can I do asking the questions to this set as well?

    I do have no knowledge /experience with Tarot or Oracle at all.

    I bought this set ,just because the animal pictures drew my attention in the shop!

    Would love toe hear your views/recommendations.

    Kind regards,


  7. I hope i don’t sound like nonsense. one of my biggest desire is finding clarity in understanding and explaining, to find balance with my life and priorities .self-love and taking care of me to take care of others. this is my 1st deck ,I’m doing all I can for myself and anyone else that I can offer to share
    I prayed a blessing, passed the deck through burning sage, meditated . It took so long to get one? Tried over and over, hours and hours reading researching opinions and knowledge on how to doi
    . For 6 mos things hung me up, couldn’t afford it or recall which one, 2 many decisions password errors. my card didn’t work, one thing after another til I’d feel like nevermind,, try to make my own, printing, drawing. a few days ago saw one didn’t look like one ld @choose to begin with , dark and a littleGore ..
    So for me to think ld be qq onaAÆ%to the right foot in this path it’s absolutely a deck that I would choose for a collection i wanted it but fear was at me , you cant start with that, you have to have holy and moral you can’t be dark and scary
    I thought my password wont work my card wont or email or it’ll get lost or it won’t be what I paid for on and on

    it was here in 2 days ,
    not one hicc, i got a message it was in my mailbox. Iater I took the cards to a quiet place and now hrs later I’m still shaky silly right? one of my fears was I would somehow pick and choose what I wanted to hear, as I got into the actual connection I feel kind of toddler esque what if im rejected by the cards Oh the shame… not gory and the box has a beautiful face with blood on her head the word tarot appears to be blood xiII 13? One of my favorites so in my interview.
    1. What is your name?
    * Hush
    +++ confusion for a … Wait . your name or instructions? ? … Smirk?
    2. What do I need to know to be able to take the best care of you?
    * Continue reaching for awareness from your guides while listening to your own intuition always seek to learn and grow keep me safe in lovely protection converse with me in correct truth center and ground yourself hold me with energies of heartfelt content have an open Flow drawing in and allowing out like breath or water.
    (I don’t know where that came from it just was.)
    3. What blessing do you have for me?
    * Your blessing will flow as you choose. you receive worth of self. I bring you light to balance with dark, you will gain long-awaited clarity.
    4. What blessings will you help me bring to others?
    * Countless, as deep as you travel to find, as far as you reach in light. You will bless others with love compassion, acceptance and comfort, you will bless them with levity and pleasing regard. ( to the funny farm I had look things if I didn’t know meaning. . how strange for me)
    *Cont.. to ease discomfort and feelings of loneliness, you have endless dream pools for others to swim in and the purity of will to lead and inspire as dained. (!)
    5. Is there anything else that I need to know at this time?
    * Everything is you.
    All will always be. What lives in you moves through me and touches forever. Be.
    Stand, see, love, feel, awake.
    I wrote that it feels like I slept with a quote Bible in my pajamas I don’t even know people that talk that way just flow out easy answers like that and how come I had to look up words that I wrote down myself?
    6. What kind of deck are you?
    * Five of cups . Really??
    ….sadness, loss, heartache, grief, despair, loneliness, mourning.
    (that just described my entire existence I live it breathe it every song that makes me cry that tears my guts out that is me sorrow
    7. How can you best help me?
    * 3 cards flipped out.
    Eight of cups, ace of cups, wheel of Fortune
    Female emotional Love helping me release what is no longer serving my better good clearing away delusion of self leading into new awareness stepping up to the beginning of my own happiness increasing myself love embracing a new life empathic abilities fate destiny positive change.
    8. What quality is most needed to grow and fortify in me to help others and read intuitively?
    * Two of pentacles. Balance resourcefulness Life choices manifesting your life how to make things happen finding your way through ups and downs learning to prioritize doing what needs to be done how can you help if you don’t make sure you take care of yourself, you are realizing the benefit and good a balancing your mind body and spirit.
    9. How do you see our relationship or connection?
    * Queen of cups, mature emotional security sensitive kind soft vulnerable psychic empathic intuitive..

    Holy cow..
    . Thank you for your time I really enjoy your site and what you write it really hits home with me.

  8. Oh my goodness! Kate, I want to say, “Thank you”! I did as you suggested with my new tarot deck and the card I drew was Temperance. The description of the card’s meaning is exactly what I would hope my relationship with this deck to be all about. Your guidance was pivotal to reaching this understanding.
    Bless you.

  9. Ohhh, my goodness Kate! Hopefully you can help me out a little bit here!

    I’m a total newbie, just bought myself my first deck on 2 days ago and I flipping love it, it is gorgeous and I want to use it all the dang time. I’m using the Crow Tarot by MJ Cullinane. But I digress…

    I asked my deck your 8 interview questions last night. IMO, the results were amazing and it was making me cry because I felt so touched. Now, I consulted the little book that came with my deck because I don’t know enough about the cards to just “get it” and what they’re saying to me, so I’m doing my best with interpreting but still need help. I think I’ve got a very good handle on most of them and what the deck is trying to say, except for question #7’s answer… Knight of Swords, reversed?!

    The reversals were a complete accident with shuffling/picking the deck up the wrong way, but I left it as is since that is what was pulled. Are you able to provide any insight to what my deck’s personality is/what it’s trying to tell me? I feel overall that it’s a very positive, optimistic deck and it wants to be a team. I just can’t figure out this personality card or the best way to interpret it. (pic of the spread)

    1. The Fool
    2. Two of Pentacles
    3. Seven of Swords, reversed
    4. Ace of Pentacles
    5. Ace of Wands
    6. Four of Cups
    7. Knight of Swords, reversed
    8. Three of Pentacles

    thank you so much!!

    1. Hey Andrea!
      Congrats on diving into the world of Tarot 🙂
      I’m so glad you enjoyed the interview exercise.
      I don’t do interpretations for people, but I will leave your comment here in case anyone reading this wants to jump in and answer this one.

      Happy Tarot Reading!

  10. so i asked my deck the questions you suggested and i got answers but how are you supposed to know if they mean the upright or reversed meaning? that’s what i’m steugfling with right now. i have my answers but don’t understand them haha

    1. Hi Jewliette,

      If a card is upright, you’d go with the upright meaning. And if the card is upside down, then it’s the reversed meaning. Not all readers read reversed cards – I don’t. So I just read cards upright, which makes it simple 🙂

        1. Healing by Five

          Sorry to be a bother ladies, I do agree that reading reversed readings isn’t for everyone. This style of Tarot reading called out to me more so than me actually wanting to use it.
          I drew a card in reverse order one day and felt the energy. I recommend identifying what a few of your “psychic hits” may be. For me its an intense body chill regardless of the temperature in the room. I use this tool to confirm things within a reading.
          Is there anything that happens to you when drawing tarot that may be a bit out of the ordinary?
          Look out for these signs to confirm meanings of readings and card orientation and understanding answers.
          If this doesn’t provide any answers I recommend clearing your deck or possibly buying a new one from your local spirit shop. The deck should show you some form of appreciation. For instance,
          If you’ve ever worked with crystals (Quartz, Onyx, Cintrine etc.) when you first encounter one that resonates with you, your had “usually” changes temperature. You will feel a warming sensation through out the palm that’s holding your crystal. The very first time I touched my tarot deck, I got this feeling.
          This is the beginning to bonding with your deck’s energy, which is a very real thing.
          I could ramble on all day about this stuff so hopefully this provided a little clarity.
          Have a great day ladies!

  11. Thank you for sharing the advice that it is important to connect with your tarot deck by asking specific questions because this way you can see if you click well with the personality of the cards. Also, it makes a lot of sense that you say to spend quality time with your cards in simple ways like holding them in your hand while meditating. I am thinking about buying some new tarot cards in a few weeks and I will make sure to follow these tips so that I can connect with the cards I get!

  12. Hi!
    Thanks for all the advice in this article! I just recently bought my deck and I have been having a hard time connecting to it. I have previously coquetted with cartomancy, with 24 cards, but those didn’t feel like a person to me…they were just like tools cut out of a regular deck (even though they had a pretty incantation)…and I just read your article and gave a try to talking to my deck….one question that left me almost crying was when I asked was what they think of our relationship….and I pulled the 5 of pentacles which means for this deck (Sorcerer’s tarot deck) lack, and poverty and insecurity…and I lost all hope…but I observed as I had the cards spread out, that another card pulled out of the deck when I plucked the first one…I chose to flip it and there it was! The wheel of fortune! I lightened up, it felt as if it told me that if now I feel lacking and insecure, the fortune is ours and our union will bloom into success and that it is time for a change! It clicked on my mind, the idea just appeared there and I already felt as maybe the world was finally turning for me and Fortuna is finally smiling at me! Thank you so much for your help and great article! I have many more things to try with them, but this made me feel more confident!

  13. Dear Kate,

    I want to thank you so much for all the resources and guidance you provide on both your website and your YouTube channel. I’ve always been drawn to Tarot but I was always nervous about it. I was brought up to believe many of the negative things you mentioned in one of your videos. However, after watching several of yours and others videos about the subject I realized that all those negative things I heard came from a place of ignorance. I bought the Rider Waite deck and got to know my deck a bit. After conducting and interview with my deck I found that in some ways we were similar. I want to thank you for helping me see past the negative and see how much of a positive influence that Tarot can be.

  14. Hi Kate,
    I absolutely loved this article! I’ve had my deck for years, but would only take it out intermittently to do some readings and then put it away to be forgotten when I became busy with work and school. I recently started using my deck again and was wondering how I could properly connect with my deck when I came across your article. I never thought about asking my deck questions about itself and the answers definitely surprised me.

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    Two of Cups – I enjoy sharing a connection with others and bonding with them.

    What issues do you specialize in?
    The Fool – New beginnings and/or opportunities, taking a leap into the unknown

    How can you best help me?
    Two of Cups – I can help you with your relationships and bond with others or help you find balance in the relationships that you already have.

    What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    Ten of Pentacles – This one really confused me but I took it to mean something along the lines of “someone who is generous with their readings and pass along their knowledge of the cards.”

    How do you see our relationship?
    Four of Pentacles – You’ve kept me for yourself, maybe it’s time to let me out and read for other people.
    I wasn’t sure if that’s what my deck meant so I drew another card for clarification and got The Tower which I interpreted to mean that I should shake up my roots and change how I use my deck, i.e., start reading for others.
    I then shuffled and drew another card, asking my deck if it meant that I should start reading for others and got Judgement which I took to mean an emphatic YES!

    I still consider myself to be a beginner, so I hope I interpreted the cards correctly. My deck definitely seems to be outgoing and is trying to give me a strong push to read for others. I don’t think I’m ready for that yet, but my deck certainly thinks I am! All things considered, I definitely feel more connected to my deck as I feel like I understand it more now so thank you!

    1. Welcome Candice!
      I’m so glad you tried this exercise out and interviewed your deck. I love the cards you got – you certainly got a very clear reading! I would agree that it seems like you’re being guided to explore reading for others. Best of luck to you on your Tarot journey and I’m glad you stumbled on my site 🙂

  15. Hi, Kate! Thank you so much for this article! I found it super interesting and helpful! I interviewed my favorite deck (the Eight Coins Tattoo Tarot) after I did a reading for myself that just didn’t quite feel right. I haven’t had it long and was looking for a way to better connect with it anyway but after that I felt particularly inspired.

    1. What kind of a Tarot Deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    Page of Swords- I have clear messages for you. I am direct and will lead you to answers quickly.

    2. What areas of life do you specialize in? How can you best help me?
    Seven of Swords- Illustrating the consequences of actions. Focusing on moving on and gaining confidence as well as seeing potential negative outcomes.

    3. How do you see our relationship?
    Judgement- We will work together to lay out choices and make decisions. We will work toward personal growth and inner peace by looking at past mistakes and moving past them.

    4. What can I do for you to ensure we have a good relationship?
    Ace of Pentacles- Actively look for and be open to messages and opportunities to receive insight.

    5. What is your favorite card in this deck?
    Knight of Swords- Bold, striking, emphasis on focus and new ideas.

    Overall impression of the deck- This deck is very focused and definitely not shy. It seems to know exactly what it wants to tell me and has a clear intention of helping me receive those messages as directly as possible.

    I’m pretty new to tarot so forgive me if my readings aren’t great. I feel so much more connected to my deck and am excited to work more with it! It also makes me feel better about some of the more negative readings I’ve done with it as it seems to want to lay out potential consequences.

  16. Hello,
    I have the Thelema Deck few months ago, and this morning, im thinking of getting a new one, more simple for the beginner like me. When i read and listen to your audio, i took my Thelema and 1st ask for a question, something about my new house. 2nd, i ask about the relationship between me and The Deck. I clear quite well before drawing but both time, i get the 3 of swords which show an image of pain, sad, lonely. I think the deck is upsetting with me. Isnt it? He feels pain when i think of changing a new one. Anyway, I will fix this relationship. Thank you.

  17. Winnie Spencer

    Hi Kate, and thanks for these little “get to know you” questions we can ask our Tarot. Before I do that, I wanted to share what I have done to become better acquainted with Tarot. First, of all, I refer to Tarot as if it is a person…yes, it’s name is Tarot. Of course it’s not a male or female, although it’s the RWS Radiant mini deck. Came in a beautiful tin box, and I cleansed each and every card plus the tin, as that is where I keep it. The first night, because it WAS in a hard tin, I slept with it beside me. During the day when I’m not using it, I keep Tarot on my altar, and during the day if I’m out and about, my purse has a zippered pocket for Tarot to ride along. I wanted it to be with me all the time, and really get my energy into it. Also, while I’m reading at the kitchen table, I will often take Tarot out and flex the cards, which are quite stiff. Or I’ll shuffle over and over. I love the mini deck because my hands are too small for the larger cards. I draw a daily card, and just recently did my first 3 card spread. To my delight, Tarot has been perfect for me to get to know myself better, and has already helped to reveal to me a couple very important issues that I needed clarification on. I often just look at the cards, and today I went through the Fool’s Journey with my cards. I love journaling about the daily draws, as it helps me become better acquainted with each card. Yes, I, too, have kissed my deck! I really feel Tarot is an energy that is working with me, and we are working together to help shape up my life. My goal was never to do readings for others, only myself…but I’m open to wherever Tarot leads me! Thank. you for your site. I think I will ask Tarot your questions now and see what it says to me! How fun!

  18. Hi Kate!

    First off, I wanna say how helpful this website and your youtube channel has been! I just started practicing and your work has really helped me feel less overwhelmed for sure! So, thank you!

    So, I did the exercise where I interview my deck with the questions provided, but I got some pretty curious answers, especially for the question “What kind of deck are you? What card sums you up?”

    Now, the deck gave me The Empress (coincidentally, my favorite card) but in reverse. I’ve been researching all sorts of kinds of meanings for reversed cards, but my best guess for what the deck was trying to tell me was that it’s a deck that is hesitant to bring new things into existence. I decided then, to ask the deck if that was true.

    So, I asked, “are you a deck that is hesitant to bring new things into existence?”

    and just *guess* what card it gave me.

    The Empress reversed.

    Now, between each question I made sure to shuffle, send the question the deck with lots of light and love, and then cut the cards. I really tried to listen to your suggestions in your 16-minute audio tutorial.

    So, I’m starting to think this is a deck with a STRONG and STUBBORN personality and it was sending me a very strong message of what kind of deck it is. I read your part 2 on this article and I saw that I should try and consider the most positive interpretations of odd cards, but it’s still stumping me.

    For some context, here’s what else my deck said:

    “What issues/areas do you specialize in?”
    Justice –> interpreted that to mean that this is a good deck to use for weighing options, making difficult decisions. Specifically, issues that require objectivity to make those decisions.

    “How can you best help me?”
    Two of Pentacles –> Interpreted that to mean that it can help me balance the physical aspects of life like money and health. It’s helpful for weighing options and making decisions. I’m sensing a bit of a theme…

    “What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?”
    Three of Cups reversed –> Interpreted that to mean that it’s important for a Tarot reader to know what they want from the deck and is pragmatic about what the cards are saying.

    “How do you see our relationship?”
    Six of Wands –> Interpreted this to mean that we’ll have a successful, harmonious relationship, but there’s a lot of work to be done on my own. Basically, I shouldn’t depend on the deck.

    I also asked what color silk bag it wanted (I assigned a color to each suit and then one for the Major Arcana–it picked Emerald Green) for fun 🙂

    So, my initials thoughts are that this is a no-nonsense deck that will help me weigh my options, but doesn’t want me to depend on it for everything.

    I am curious if you have any insight to that reversed Empress coming up twice? That’s stumped me the worse so far, but I feel like it’s sending a very strong message that I’m not yet adept enough to understand. Any thoughts?

    Thank you!

    1. Welcome Jessie!
      Thanks so much for trying out this exercise and sharing your reading here 🙂
      I think your interpretations are bang on and I really can’t add much more – looks like you’ve got a great deck to work with!
      Glad you’re finding my videos and site helpful 🙂

  19. I am so happy to have found this site. I just got my deck and was having a hard time connecting with it. Asking your questions has helped.

    (1) Deck personality – The Star

    (2) Issues the deck specializes in – Page of Wands reversed

    (3) How the deck can help me – The Chariot

    (4) What quality is most important in a tarot reader – The Hermit

    (5) How do you see our relationship – Ace of Pentacles

    I am not completely sure what everything means though.

  20. so question to tarot readers… i use to have a deck in high school… when i picked it up(didnt know how to do tarots) but, just picking up the deck… My hands would get cold and i would get raised hairs and goosebumps everytime. Just picking up the deck… freaked me out. Threw them away. Know the meaning of it?

    1. Hi Sarah,
      What were your beliefs about Tarot at that time?
      What did your family think of Tarot?
      I find that if we’re brought up to fear Tarot and to think it’s this mysterious, nefarious thing then we can have reactions like the one you describe. I’m guessing that Tarot freaked you out before you even encountered this deck – I don’t know, just a guess!

  21. Hello, Kate. 🙂 How are you?

    Thank you for the wonderful tips. 🙂 I had fun doing your exercise about asking your Tarot Cards questions about themselves last night. It was a very interesting experience. 🙂 Here’s what I got from my Mystical Manga Tarot Cards:

    1.) What kind of Tarot deck are you? What Card sums up your personality?

    The Knight of Wands – “I am strong, magical, and happy.” (I love magic and believe in it so I see why my Cards said that.)

    2.) What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? How can you best help me?

    Three of Coins – “I specialize in helping you become a better Tarot Card reader while adding fun, humor, and magic to that.” (I DO need to lighten up when doing readings and not take it so seriously and not worry about making mistakes. Just have fun when doing readings and learn to laugh more at myself when I make a mistake instead of beating myself up over it.)

    3.) What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?

    Judgement – “Don’t judge yourself when doing a reading. Just relax and let the answers flow into your being.” (This makes sense because I DO judge myself as a reader and have trouble interpreting the Cards I draw out of a reading either for myself or someone I read for even though I’m getting better at reading the Cards. I feel like I can’t read for myself and others and this is what blocks me as a Tarot Card reader. The doubts. I need more faith in myself and in my abilities.)

    4.) How do you see our relationship?

    Ten of Coins – “I see our relationship as loving, uplifting, happy, and full of magic as well as making money.” (Looks like I’ve got friends who will help me through difficult time and when I need them the most. As well as believe in me. 😀 As for the money thing, I think they’re saying that when I get better at reading Tarot Cards, I can go into a Tarot reading business. But this is just an option. I just want to read for other people for free because I know how it feels wanting a Tarot Card reading but can’t afford one. Plus this gives me a chance to practice reading for other people and myself and to strengthen this ability.)

    So from what I picked up from my Cards, they’re a very happy, light, and strong deck. They’re very easygoing, friendly, and have a magical feel to them. As weird as this sounds, they’re my friends. I love them all and am happy they chose to work with me.

    Thank you for the awesome reading exercise, Kate. 🙂 I had fun and it was fun learning about my Manga Cards’ personality and why they chose to work with me. 🙂 I can’t wait to see what my Clow Cards have to say when I do this exercise with them(I’m an anime and manga fan.). 😀

    Thanks again and much love goes out to you.


    1. Thank you Yalanda, for trying out this Tarot exercise! It makes me so happy to see that you had fun with it and gained some deeper understandings and a connection with your deck. Thank you for sharing your reading here 🙂

  22. This was fun lol. Happy Tarot gives interesting answers. I already feel connected with the deck. I just wanted to see what it would say.

    Hi, Happy Tarot, how are you today?
    Moon (fell out)- I’m feeling intuitive and psychic.

    What kind of deck are you?
    Judgment reversed – I can help you learn to listen to your inner voice and find your calling.

    What issues or areas of life do you specialize in?
    2 of Cups (fell out) – Relationships between people.

    How can you best help me?
    9 of Cups reversed – I can help you overcome a lack of happiness, accept your imperfections, not use poor judgement.

    What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    5 of Wands – To allow yourself to be challenged.

    How do you see our relationship?
    Tower – I will tear down everything stable and familiar, create chaos, but you’ll learn and grow from it.

  23. Hi Kate,
    Thank you so much for the ideas. I spent time asking the questions. I decided to also tell my deck what my favourite card was (the moon) and when I asked the question “do you feel like we know each other better after these questions?” I drew the same card so I’m feeling a lot more of a connection with my deck now. Thank you! X

  24. Hi Kate! After your webinar last night, I thought I’d try this exercise on the Fountain Tarot deck that I just received yesterday. I’ve heard people say they think it’s a “cold” deck, but from the cards I pulled, I think it’ll be more of a “hold no punches” deck and help slap me out of my overly active thoughts. LOL… but at the same time … I think it’ll just help me relinquish control and BE present and silent.

    What kind of Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?

    8 of Swords.
    At first I was like “uh-oh,” but I think it means it will help me open up my eyes and get out of my mental bondage; recognize my fear and move on.

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?

    Knight of Coins
    I’ve been told I’m a very practical person and the meaning of this card in the booklet talks about Methodical Victories..being consistent and dependable. Since I read that Coins deal with health and money matters, I’m thinking it’s a good deck for those areas, but I wasn’t quite sure?
    What would be your take on the best areas the deck specializes in with regard to pulling this card? This was the one question I wasn’t quite sure of the answer.

    How can you best help me?

    This will help me with the “right now” in reality, and help me get out of my mind. I might not like it but it will be FAIR.

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?

    The Fountain Card, which is their extra card for the deck.
    Relinquish all illusion of control and remain quiet. Just BE.

    How do you see our relationship?

    Wheel of Fortune
    Life is never predictable, but change is necessary. Don’t judge or evaluate. There will always be forward movement.

    I hope I interpreted the card meanings well enough. I used the booklet to help me. I think the only one that didn’t give me a clear picture was the Knight of Coins with regard to the areas of life the deck specializes in. Do you have any insight on that one?

    It won’t be a warm and fuzzy deck I don’t think, lol, but it seems that it will be my go-to deck when I need some tough love.

    Thanks again for the webinar last night! I truly appreciate you giving of your time.
    Kind regards,

  25. I just want to pop in and say thank you for this post with the included exercises.
    I’ve been having a really difficult time connecting to my Paulina Tarot deck… I like the art (and my husband bought it for me, so the fact it’s from him makes it feel extra special), but I feel like I keep getting lost, and the readings end up feeling really muddled and elusive… BUT, I really, really want to connect to this deck in a way that I can with some of my other ones.
    So, yesterday after buying it a really pretty bag I happened to come across at an amazing local shop, I googled, and found this post. I just finished asking some of the questions and just spending time with this deck…and I feel like there’s a major shift! The answers were lovely and eye opening, and I feel like this is going to be a really wonderful relationship. Thank you!

  26. I just got my Wild Unknown Tarot deck. I did the excercise you mentioned. This is what I got:

    1. What kind of Tarot deck are you? What sums up your personality?
    – Wheel of Fortune

    2. What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    – Strength

    3. How can you best help me?
    – Ace of Wands

    4. What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    – Father of Pentacles

    5. How do you see our relationship?
    – Daughter of Wands

    I really liked this. I love the result what came from this.

  27. Hey Kate,
    So I’m new to Tarot and just purchased my Rider-Waite deck a little while ago. I’m still learning all the cards and their meanings and getting to know my deck, so I did this, before I really get into learning the spreads. I still have A LOT to learn and discover about myself and my deck, but I wanted to share what I got for each question, because it was amazing.
    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality? – 3 of Wands
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? – 5 of Wands
    How can you best help me? – The Chariot
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? – The Magician
    How do you see our relationship? – The Lovers
    I could not make this up even if I tried. I still have chills now, as I type this. I just spent time with my deck twenty minutes ago. Thank you so much for this post and everything else. I’m a new subscriber, but I can’t wait to dig into more of your videos/tutorials. 🙂

  28. Hey guys I just received my first tarot deck today. “The Wild Unknown”. I asked it a couple of these questions and these were the answers. Very open to other interpretations considering my lack of experience here, but I’ll share what I think was being communicated.

    What kind of Deck are you?
    Six of Wands
    “I want to bring victory/advise you in a way that will help you to rise and see your full potential.”
    What is your weakness?
    Ten of Cups
    “I may be insensitive to high energy situations/get too emotional with my answers.”
    How best can you help me?
    Nine of cups
    “I can help you learn to focus more or recognize the positive things in life rather than the negative/learn to enjoy things more.”
    How do you see our relationship?
    Mother of swords
    “I can be therapeutic, but at times I may seem harsh or strict for your own good. I know what I’m talking about.”

    This was actually really fun and interesting. I want to find out a little more about the cards personality.

  29. An acquaintance suggested this (and other) exercises to me since my cards seem to catch others’ energy much easier than mine, probably because they don’t know me too well, and I’ve never really found it, usually spacing cards as I felt like on the go, instead of using any spreads. Just tried this kind of spread with my first deck, Primavera:

    Q: So what kind of deck are you? What’s your most special trait?
    A: Queen of Chalices – intuitive, emotional, creative… adaptive (since Cups => water)? Seems like a very dignified way of speaking “I’ll help and I’ll be what you need me to be, but don’t expect blunt answers” 😛

    Q: What are you good at?
    A: Five of Swords – conflict – “I can tell you which battles to fight and which to avoid -I’d rather not be bothered with what’s peaceful and boring, though.” Lol, that’s a bit of attidude ^^

    Q: What’s your weakness?
    A: Page of Swords – communication, information, enthusiasm, immaturity – “I can get too hasty and enthusiastic, and give you the answer even without enough data, which can lead to misinformation.” Not sure if it’s this or a warning to not use it for immature people who could hear only what they want to hear? Or maybe it has problems with a fresh look on old problems (so don’t repeat questions)?

    Q: How can you help? What can you teach me?
    A: Strength – “I can help you believe in yourself and give you the strength to overcome the troubles-”
    Ohh nice!
    “- since you should only come in trouble, see Q2.”

    Q: How can I be your best student?
    A: 7 of Pentacles – “Work hard and it will pay off.”

    Q: What will come out of our relationship?
    A: King of Pentacles – “Success and stability.” I’m not sure why, but I feel like it’s not the best kind of success that could be achieved with this deck though? Since it said it’s so emotional and intuitive, and King of Pentacles seems a more grounded and down-to-earth successful person. Kind of as if it has to lose itself somewhere in the process, and I don’t like that thought. 🙁

    Thanks for the posts, and I’m just wondering whether or not I could interview more than one deck in a given day / some other amount of time? As in, wouldn’t it somehow mix their energies or something?

    1. Thank you Jay for sharing the results of this exercise with us! Love your interpretations and thoughts here 🙂 I don’t think there is any limit to how many times you can do this with different decks in one day, the only danger is that if you do multiple decks in one day then the answers might all blur together.

  30. Hi dear Kate,

    Thanks for this amazing website and article! Came across your website just when i needed this in my life!

    I tried to get to know my cards by asking the questions. Below are the responses:

    1. What type of tarot deck are you? what card sums up your personality?
    -Knight of cups!
    My interpretation – Charming, lovable and creative, having a very deep passion for something/someone, slow and steady, deep and intense

    2. What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    -Nine of pentacles!
    My interpretation – She will help me with being disciplined, self reliant and mostly in issues of earthly charm

    3. How can you best help me?
    -Knight of swords!
    My interpretation – She will help me with my intellectual ability, to slow down my energy and channel it in not taking any hasty decisions in life…

    4. What quality is most needed for a tarot reader?
    – (Jumper card): Four of wands!
    My interpretation – Happy, harmonious, stability and should not hesitate to celebrate the small achievements that life has to offer
    – (Drawn card): Temperance!
    My interpretation – Ability to find harmony and balance, moderation. Should posses self confidence and patience…

    5. How do you feel about our relationship?
    Now this really got me worried 😐
    – Nine of swords!
    My interpretation – worrisome, depressing, disturbing…. 🙁
    (so, i pulled out a second card and requested to elaborate)
    – (second card) The Devil 🙁 🙁
    My interpretation – Addiction to the cards??

    All was well till I picked the card for the relationship…..Please help me Kate what could my relationship with my deck mean??
    Also, majority of all the answers were either Knights or Nines..Could this have any meaning?


    1. Your deck says you should be self reliant,and that you use it too much.No, that dose not mean you should never use your deck,it just means you should stop asking it questions like: “will I get married this year”,and start asking it questions like:”what can I do to help me get married this year.”

  31. Hi there,

    Ive been told I should be doing readings so I took your advice on asking my tarot cards the questions and this is what it came up with…made me laugh but need to understand the meanings of it….
    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? The Empress
    What card sums up your personality? Knight of Pentacles
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? Ace of Swords
    How can you best help me? Justice
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? The Chariot
    How do you see our relationship? Knight of Wands

    Could you please clarify for me please

    Kind Regards


  32. Hi I just want to thank you, really found your tutorials very helpful. I’m new to this.
    Bought my first deck, universal Waite.
    I dud you exercise and got

    What kind of deck, personality are you?
    9 Swords- is my deck depressed?!

    What issues/area of live do you specialise in
    Queen of wands- girl talk?

    How can you best help me?
    8 Swords – seeing my blind spots

    Quality most important in a reader?
    Death card- really not sure what to make of this.

    How do you see our relationship?
    The tower – not really sure what to make of this either.

    I’m not sure this is positive at all 🙁

    1. Welcome Colette!
      It’s nice to hear you’re finding my site helpful 🙂
      Since Death is all about letting go and transformation, I would say that is the quality most important in a reader (according to your deck). The Tower is about demolishing the structures that keep us comfortable yet stuck but it is also a card of chaos. So maybe your relationship with your deck will be chaotic but the readings will help you break out of old patterns.
      Hope that makes sense!

      1. Hi Kate
        Thank you for your reply. Maybe because I’m going through a transformation the death card related somehow. Ok that makes sense with the Tower card. I’ve done a few readings now and I feel like I’m really connecting with my cards.

        1. Hi!
          I also got 9 of swords as what kind of deck are you and then to clarify i got 3 of swords with a new deck…
          I currently have a favourite deck “wildwood tarot” and it’s my first and we get on super well and stuff, but this is the new deck which is more traditional and based on rider-waite.
          When asked how this new deck sees our relationship i got 5 of wands, which is a competition to say the least.
          In the end i asked if the deck wants me to leave it be until i am fully familiar and comfortable with the wildwood and i got 6 of swords, which i took as a yes, that once the journey with wildwood is done, then i can start a new journey with this deck
          But really not sure how to feel about 9 and 3 of swords

  33. Hi Kate,

    I stumbled across your website when looking up how to attune with your tarot cards. I (along with many others on this thread) am new to tarot. I bought my second deck today, the Rider-Waite deck, and I love it! The first deck I got I did not like (the Quick and Easy tarot – it has the meaning written on the cards). So anyhow, I did your exercise with the new deck and here’s what I got:

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality? – 8 of wands; Positivity and communication.

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? – For this one, one card flew out – 5 of swords (reversed); oppression and conflict.
    The card I picked was 3 of swords (reversed); not too sure how to read this one. Can I get someone’s take on this one?

    How can you best help me? 2 of Pentacles; Finding balance.

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? Wheel of Fortune; use your intuition.

    How do you see our relationship? For this one the results were a bit scary. Two cards popped out and all three cards were reversed.
    – Jumper 1 – The Fool (reversed); Irresponsible
    – Jumper 2 – Page of Swords (reversed); Manipulative
    – One I picked – 2 of cups (reversed); not too sure what this one means.. I read that reversed it can mean to rely on your intuition.

    In an exercise like this, should you include the cards that escape while shuffling?

    1. Welcome Brittany!
      thank you so much for giving this exercise a go and posting your results 🙂
      I think the 5 and 3 of swords is telling you that your deck will help you in times of relationship conflicts – it will help you get clarity on what you need to do or say to smooth things over and overcome petty drama. That’s just my two cents!
      Yes, definitely include the cards that come flying out – those ones are special! And you sure had a lot of them.

      Happy Tarot Reading!

      1. Thanks for the response Kate! I like your interpretation of the 5 & 3 of swords I would not have thought of that. What do you think about the cards meant when I asked “How do you see our relationship”?

  34. Hello!

    I also wanted to tell ya’ll about the personality of my Morgan Greer deck (a deck that I turn to a lot):

    Who are you? What card sums up your personality? The Fool
    What are you specialized in? Ace of Rods (wands)
    How can you best help me? Two of Wands
    What quality is most important for a reader? King of Pentacles
    How do you see our friendship or relationship? 9 of Cups

    Im so grateful to my cards and feel like Im getting to know an awesome spirit! So happy I did this exercise. 🙂

  35. Hello Kate!

    My name is Lexi and I discovered (and subscribed) to your youtube channel today. I had a really tough time at my job and I just wanted to come home and reconnect with my cards, so I searched for different ways to interview or bond with the cards and you came up! I used your questions as an outline and wrote them down in my journal along with my answers. I have four decks, but only interviewed two so far. TBH, Ive been dependent on my cards for quite some time, and though I do thank them after a reading and do my bit of cleansing, I don’t think that I took them time to really get to know the personality of each deck, to familiarize myself with their spirit, so this was a great exercise. Im not sure if your familiar with this deck, but this is what I got from my Guidance Guidance Oracle Cards:

    Who are you? Ishtar (Boundaries)
    What are you specialized in? Eireen (Peace)
    How can u best help me? Hathor (Receptivity)
    What quality is most important for a reader? Sekhmet (Be Strong)
    How do you see our friendship or relationship? Kuan Yin (Compassion)

    I apologized to my decks 🙂 But I also made sure to let them know that I appreciate them immensely. Tarot is a big part of my life, but I fell off the wagon a bit and I want to recharge my relationships with each deck as well as make tarot fun again for myself. I cant wait to see how I evolve through this process!

  36. Hi Kate! I’m new to Tarot and I came upon your blog because I didn’t really know how or where to start. I loved this article! But before I did anything I listened to your free 15 minute audio about how to read tarot. Then I did the above exercise. (One thing to mention is I don’t have the traditional deck. I bought the Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine Angel Tarot cards, so some suits are different, but I could easily know which was which. I put them in parenthesis below) One thing I didn’t know, was do I shuffle before each question? So I did exactly as your audio suggested for each question. Before each question I would shuffle, close my eyes, hold the cards in my palms and try to envision white light. Then I’d ask the question, cut the deck with my left hand and pull the card from the right side. I can’t tell you how pleased I was with the results. This whole thing (Tarot) feels very overwhelming to me, so doing this exercise helped me immensely feel a little closer to the deck, and also feel like we’re (me and my deck) are going to have a very nice relationship. Thanks again and I can’t wait to devour your blog. 🙂

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    Ace of Cups (Ace of Water-DC/RV deck)

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    The Fool (The Dreamer)

    How can you best help me?
    Three of Cups (3 of Water)

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    Six of Pentacle (6 of Earth)

    How do you see our relationship?
    The Sun (The Sun)

    I think this is the beginning of a very wonderful and meaningful relationship. Thank you again for the exercises. It truly helped.

    1. Welcome Vera!
      I’m so happy that this exercise and my audio download helped you out 🙂
      As for your shuffling question – it sounds like you’re doing it right. I like to shuffle before I ask a question, then I hold the cards in my hands while focusing on my question. I suppose you could shuffle after you ask a question as well, but I’m just used to shuffling first. I don’t think there is really a wrong way to do it, so whatever feels good for you is what you should do!
      Thank you for sharing your reading results here – you got some fantastic cards there!
      Happy Tarot reading,

  37. I got a Five of Cups when I asked my deck what its sense of humor is, but overall it’s very motherly and scarily accurate as to what it wants to help me with. I got the Queen of Pentacles when I asked what card best describes it so I’m feeling very happy and confident with my deck, but the sense of humor has me stumped.

  38. My first deck I purchased was the Universal Rider-Waite deck. Initially, the readings were roughly 50/50 in terms of accuracy. I admit, I wasn’t keen on the idea of tarot cards, and was/am worried about the ramifications of what this means in terms of my religion and relationship with God. As my deck gave me readings, I would make petty comments about the pictures, not to mention I drew clothes on the naked figures (I know lol), such as The Lovers, The World, and a couple others- except for The Sun.

    So while I carried my deck around, we had a disconnect. Unsurprisingly so. However, very recently, I got the Tarot de Marseille. I liked the art on this one even less, and made more petty comments (but not as bad as with my URW deck) here and there.

    Surprisingly- Tarot de Marseille gave me very accurate results to my readings. I would feel almost pulses that I couldn’t tell came from the deck or from my fingers. It seemingly liked me, which made me feel like an ass lol. I read your article and went to bed with Tarot de Marseille. My URW deck was irked I could feel, and I felt like a jerk, so I went to bed with that one also. I told both decks I appreciated them. I also apologized to both.

    The next day (today), I told the URW deck that I was going to ask it some questions about itself:

    What tarot deck are you?/What card sums up your personality?
    -I felt similar pulses that I got with Tarot de Marseille, and drew a King of Wands.

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    -The Hanged Man.

    How can you best help me?
    -Reversed King of Swords (and i have been having extensive problems in that area)

    What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    – Seven of Cups.

    How do you see our relationship?
    I got two cards for this.
    -Wheel of Fortune and Queen of Swords.

    1. For Tarot de Marseille:

      What kind of Tarot deck are you/What card sums up your personality?:
      -Eight of Pentacles

      What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
      – Ten of Swords

      How can you best help me?
      – Ten of Pentacles

      What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
      – Strength

      How do you see our relationship?
      – The Hanged Man.

      Does anyone have any insight on what the Hanged Man could signify?

  39. i was worried about wrecking my deck by sleeping with them putting them under my pillow but i put them in a sock that way they don’t get wrecked

  40. Hello,

    This is kind of off topic but I’m just starting off with my tarot cards and I find I’m having a hard time focusing and concentrating on the “question” I’m asking the cards if I have one to ask. I do really bad under pressure in life in general and it seems to apply here as well, haha. It’s like I get nervous and want to do it perfectly and not mess anything up so it works well, but end up essentially distorting my reason for doing a reading. Any suggestions?

    1. Hi Caitlin,
      Don’t feel you need to ask your deck specific questions – you can certainly do a “general” reading, which sounds like more your thing. I prefer asking questions because it narrows the reading down and gives me something to focus on, but even if you just use a spread, that should give you enough of a framework to work with. Good luck!

  41. After reading this I feel like I need to apologize to my deck! Lol anyways, I just recently discovered tarot reading and bought the wild unknown deck last week. I am so in love with the art and the colors and just the general vibe I get from looking at it. I really feel like I see my personality in the imagry and style. So of course I jumped right in asking a billion questions for myself and my husband and most of the readings were kinda shady and confusing. But we did get one Celtic cross spread that was so spooky accurate I started to shake with excitement and nervousness. Yet I still get the feeling that my deck doesn’t really trust me and doesn’t want to truly open up to me just yet. Last time I asked how it was feeling I got the three swords. It must be an introvert like me! I don’t really have a question but I’m open to advice about how I can build more trust with my deck. This whole website is super interesting.

    1. Hi Rachel,
      First of all, I’m super jealous of you! The Wild Unknown is at the top of my “Decks to buy” list.
      I find that when I do tons of readings with a deck in a short time span I start getting confusing results. I think you could build trust with your deck by doing exercises with it that don’t involve actual questions or reading. My article on learning tarot meanings has a bunch of ideas for this: – this way, you’ll get to interact with your deck and get to know it without tiring it out!
      Good luck and let me know how it goes 🙂

  42. I’m new to tarot and I just got my first deck (Crystal Visions, which I fell in love with the more I saw others online using it). So for my first reading, I decided to ask it about itself!

    My deck is very traditional and to-the-point, and wants me to know that I can be successful if I keep on trying with what I’m passionate in.

    Since all of its answers were so clear-cut to me, I decided to ask about its sense of humor, and I got the Three of Swords! I can’t help but feel this is saying “I don’t have a sense of humor, sorry,” but I’m interested to hear how someone else would interpret it.

    Either way, I already love my deck. 🙂

  43. So my deck is amazing! I just started working with it and I find it funny that everything it’s showing me just seems right!

    What kind of deck are you?
    Queen of Wands
    caring, chaste, friendly

    What card sums up your personality?
    King of Swords
    -intelligent, kind but militant,

    What issues/areas do you specialize in?
    Page of Swords
    – vigilence, overseeing, ( my own definition- the secret service/spy)

    How can you best help me?

    The Hanged Man
    -trials, trouble, enlightenment

    What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    Knight of Pentacles
    determination, rectitude, responsibility

    How do you see our relationship?
    Nine of Pentacles
    -leisure, comfort, security, accomplishment

    What is your sense of humor? This one threw me off and I’m still trying to figure it out.
    Ace of Swords
    -creativity, creation, birth

    All in all, I’ve found my beginners deck and I love it! I also want to point out the swords suit is my favorite and that popped up more than once!

    1. Maybe your cards were trying to say their sense of humor was a optimistic one. Like they’d be the friend to say “Well on the bright side, we’re not dead”

  44. So… I’ve had my cards for a really long time. I decided to try to get to know them better with your suggestions. I’m confused and not sure how to take the answers. Could you please help?

    What kind of deck are you?
    8 of cups (reversed)- my initial impression of the card was desolation. With the man walking away to start his own journey, it feels to be a very lonely card

    How can you best help me?
    8 of swords- my initial impression of this card was shock. The violence shown and the person whom is blindfolded and bleeding out feels very dark to me.

    What is most important in a tarot reader?
    The sun (reversed)- this card has been popping up for me a lot lately, and I’ve only just picked up my cards again. I felt like maybe my cards were trying to make a connection here?

    How do you see our relationship?
    The ace of cups (reversed)- my first impression was that the chalice has been emptied. That there is nothing there.

    Am I wrong?

    1. I would read these cards as 8 of cups reversed: finding inner strength
      8 of swords: seeing your blind spots, being shown what prevents you from moving ahead
      Sun reversed: knowing your inner light is always shining, having inner confidence
      Ace of cups reversed: renewing of the inward well of emotion & love, not to be shared with outsiders.

      Remember reversals ate not necessarily negative or the opposite meaning of the upright card, especially when doing a reading like this I think they are more about looking at how your inner, secret self works with the energy of the card instead of your day to day facing the world self.

      1. I love that, Thank you for your insights, Joanna.
        I’ve been working with them a lot more, and we’ve been getting to know each other a lot better. I’ll be doing another session with these questions and maybe some others to get to know my cards better again soon. I have been feeling super connected to them lately. I started carrying them with me, and keeping amethyst and other stones with them in their resting place, so I think that’s helped some.

        It’s been great getting to know them again. I’ve missed their guidance a lot. 🙂

      2. I also had the sun reversed when i asked what i needed to know/learn about tarot reading this week…I just pulled one card.
        I like how Joanna looks at it:Sun reversed: knowing your inner light is always shining, having inner confidence… Thank you 🙂

        1. PS/ I had an old deck from many years ago…very yellow looking Ryder Waite (sp) ones…I dont like them so much now, but gave them a different job…First i told them they were being decommissioned lol…I was given another deck by an unusual person, and would not use those for ages until i super cleansed them etc (best deck now)…I just received another deck from someone and they have a gentle feeling…
          Funny how these decks seem to find me 🙂

  45. Hi! I’m new to the whole tarot card reading stuff and, I’m not sure if my cards were actually joking about this but…
    I asked it ‘What’s your sense of humor?’ *I couldn’t resist*

    The card I got was ‘Seven of Swords’
    I looked up the meaning of the card and it said ‘deception and betrayal’?
    I’m very, very confused.

    1. That’s the decks sense of humour. We consult tarot to find out the truth, this deck is saying jokingly I will deceive and betray you.

      Awesome sense of humour!

  46. In an effort to connect with my new tarot deck, I asked my deck what card best represents it’s personality. I got the Tower ! I’m just learning the cards and have been doing so more by my intuition..and thus far they’ve made sense. While I know what the Tower card means for a situation I’m not quite sure what it would mean in regards to a personality.

    1. Hmmm, interesting. Well, the Tower is very explosive, some might say orgasmic! As a Tarot deck personality it could mean that your deck will shock and surprise you with some of the things it reveals to you and that it has an explosive personality. hope that helps 🙂

    2. When I saw that you received the tower card for your question, I wanted to ask if I could have your deck! 🙂 I’m new to the tarot world and believe that you can’t lose sight of the question to truly get the answer. The personality of your cards is one that tears down strong holds, that makes the unreachable obtainable by leveling the playing field. It helps you see clearly the inner working of things by removing the outer shell. It looks like it’s ready to start by tearing down the brick and mortar interpretation of the cards. You got a good deck, run with it.

  47. Hello Kate! I’m pretty young and I’m new to all of this. Seeing as I doubt I could find a deck of tarot cards where I live or even being able to buy them, I decided to use playing cards instead. I understand that they won’t have the Major Arcana part like most decks and I feel insecure about trying all this. Is it okay if I use playing cards instead? I’ve read about people reading playing cards but I’m not really sure…

    1. Hey Deborah,
      You totally can use playing cards, but I wouldn’t recommend it at all only because you are new to this whole card reading thing. Reading playing cards is not easy because there are no images (picture -scenes) on the cards. But if playing cards really are your ONLY option, then you could give it a try – just don’t expect it to be easy! I don’t know where you live, but I think you may find getting ahold of a deck is way easier than you thought. Most book stores will be able to order one in for you if they don’t have it in stock and I order all my decks on amazon – I think the Rider Waite deck, which is the one I recommend to beginners is only $16 US. And if you ask around you may find that lots of people have a tarot deck that they got years ago and never used. Good luck!

      1. Thank you for your response! I think I’ll get the hang of it since I’m a rather determined person and I love a good challenge so my playing cards are practically begging to be tried out just for the challenge. Plus the playing cards will be much fun to work with since they actually came with my dad’s beer bottles. I already gave it a go and I think I did a fairly good interpretation for a beginner. I did a lot of research on it and on numerology so I get a bare bones understanding then I added my own interpretations.

        I tried it on a past-present-future reading thing for my cousin to see if my practice paid of and they were fairly accurate. Again, thank you for the reassurance!

        1. That’s fantastic, Deborah! Sounds like you’re a natural. I’ve been meaning to try reading with playing cards, but believe it or not I don’t have any….something to put on the christmas list (or pick up at the dollar store!)

  48. I’m terribly new to tarot. I downloaded a Rider Waite App 5 days ago and that was my first reading in my 27 years of existence. I just got an actual deck today, the Universal Waite deck. Meeting the deck was awkward, like a blind date, but when the date is cute and nice, but I didn’t know what to say. I feel nervous to talk to the deck. This post might just open things up. Thank you for posting this! Also, do you shuffle in between each question, or should I just keep flipping the next card on the top of the deck? Or is there some other way I should be doing it. Literally no idea what I’m doing at the moment. Thanks again!

    1. Hi Erin,
      Relax! Don’t be nervous with your cards – I’m sure over time you will loosen up with them, it just takes some practice.
      I usually shuffle between each question, although it really doesn’t matter. Most readers I’ve seen shuffle once, cut the deck in half, re stack it and then take from the top. But it’s up to you.
      Have fun and good luck 🙂

  49. Hi Kate!, I just want to thank you, this article really helped me gain a better understanding of my tarot (i was having trouble connecting with my deck) but thanks to this article i feel much more comfortable working with tarot 🙂

  50. I’ve been getting to know my deck more and asked the questions you suggested. I was pretty happy with the result

    What kind of deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    The Queen of Pentacles. I am a Taurean

    What areas of life do you specialise in? How can you best help me?
    The World

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    Knight of Wands

    How do you see our relationship?
    Ten of Pentacles

  51. Hi Kate,
    So i recently just ordered the Archeon tarot deck online and just got my cards in a few days ago. I started off with numerology guidance cards about a month ago and clicked amazingly with them right off the bat.. I also had ordered the Conscious Spirit Oracle deck and i clicked with them right away as well. However, the first day i got my tarot cards i had a dark dream about them and didnt understand why or what it meant. Couldnt really remember the dream however i did remember it being negative.. Today i asked my cards a few question to get to know them.
    Six of Cups(reversed)

    Two of Wands (reversed)
    -loss of interest, misgivings, straying from the path, disillusionment…

    Three of Pentacles (reversed)
    – lack of ambition, half hearted effort, negative assessment of importance.

    From what it seems my card deck really doesnt like me and i feel a weird energy when it comes to them. What should I do?

    1. Hi Victoria,
      I can see why you’d feel hesitant to work with these cards. I would cleanse them with sage or something and then wrap them up and give them a rest for a week. Then, get them out again and re-do this reading but don’t use reversals. Make sure all cards are upright. If you still get a weird reading and you feel funny about using these cards, just give them away and get a different deck. I’ve done that with lots of decks and sometimes it takes a few tries before you get it right. Good luck 🙂

  52. I’ve just bought my very first Tarot deck and I’m getting to know my cards but right from the very first time I held them I feel a lovely connection with them. It’s hard to describe but I feel a comfort from them. That was unexpected, is this usual?

  53. What kind of tarot deck are you?
    Queen of wands

    What card sums up your personality?
    King of Swords

    What issues areas of life do you specialize in?
    The Emperor (Reversed)

    How can you best help me?
    Seven of swords

    What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    Ten of Cups

    How do you see our relationship?
    Ten of Swords (Reversed)

      1. I had a deck once and the readings were confused and unreliable. It was a beautiful deck but just didn’t want to work with me. I cleansed it and passed it on to another who had great readings.

  54. Hi, I just had a quick question when you are going to ask the tarot about them do you shuffle the cards for each question? Or just once? I’m really really new to this lol sorry for the inconvenience

    1. Hi Astral and welcome!
      It doesn’t really matter. You can shuffle for each question if you want to or you can shuffle once and then draw all the cards in one go and lay them out. It’s up to you 🙂

  55. Hello. I am fairly new to tarot readings and interpreting them as well. My tarot deck is the Wildwood tarot, I chose this deck because of how in tune with nature I am. I asked the decks the questions and hope I can get some help of what the deck is trying to tell me.

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality? Five of Arrows/Swords-Frustration

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    How can you best help me? 8-The Stag

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? 3-The Green Woman

    How do you see our relationship? Queen of Arrows/Swords-Swan

    1. I took some time yesterday to get to know my deck and I’m confused by some of the cards… could you help? The 5 of swords card isn’t good, right? Is my deck mad at me? lol

      What kind of deck are you? 5 of swords card

      What do you specialize in? Moon card

      How do you see our relationship? Page of swords

  56. I read this article then I asked my tarot deck “what is your spirit”? And I got the nine of swords from the fellowship of the fools tarot, which displays a man putting a sword to a woman’s throat. I’m really freaked out right now.

        1. This is probably one of the best cards you could get for the reading! The high priestess is the Tarot reader, the keeper of sacred wisdom & feminine secrets. Very intuitive!

  57. Dear Kate,

    good morning, how are you. thank you for the article, i have done the same and introduced myself to my cards. and the answers somehow is confusing, maybe i am still not good at interpret them. i got:
    *who are you? king of wands
    *what are you specialized in? 2 of swords
    *how can u best help me? 6 of swords
    *what quality is most important for a reader? The Sun
    *how do you see our friendship or relationship? The Devil.

    i am really confused right now… dont know what my cards are telling me. 🙁 are you able to help me a little please? thank you so so much.

  58. Dearest kate,
    thank you so much for making such a wonderful place to share and learn, I am new to tarot reading but still not sure if I should use the whole 78 cards or just the major arcana, cos some people say its enough to use just the 22 major ones. whats your professional opinion? please advise me on this please thank you so so much.

    1. Welcome Lee!
      I know there are some readers out there who only use the Majors. That’s fine and actually not a bad way to begin learning as it’s way less intimidating learning 22 cards, instead of 78. However, I think you’d be missing out if you just stuck to the majors because the Minors are so wonderful and really help make your readings more 3 dimensional and down to earth. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with only using the majors for a reading, but I prefer using all 78 cards because I think it gives a more rounded, multi-faceted reading. Hope that helps!
      Good luck learning 🙂

      1. wonderful, thank you so much kate, i am so grateful to have fun you as a mentor, i will keep on learning slowly, get to know all the cards, i have so many questions, i think your website is a great place to get me started. thank you so much. have a good day.

  59. So my boyfriend bought me a great deck a while back, and I went through each card, read on them from the “newbie’s guide” and gave each a kiss and moved on to the next card. My family greets each other with a kiss all the time, so that’s what I did with these guys. Granted, I have yet to question the deck about who it is and all that good stuff (I just found this article) but I can say with certainty that my deck is full of nurturing smartasses. I *knock on wood* haven’t given a “bad” reading yet (thank goodness), and my deck seems to prefer past life readings, I get the most information and intuition from various past life spreads. This is where I learned my cards were smartasses; my boyfriend asked, “How many lives have I lived?” My cards said “One”, because he is currently only living one life. I just about died! He had to go back and ask how many lifetimes his spirit has gone through to get a real answer (somewhere around 10, apparently he was a lazy spirit), but I certainly feel my guys are caring and sarcastic, and so far we’ve meshed perfectly! I will still definitely try these questions out, perhaps they’ll reveal more about themselves…or tell me to let them sleep longer, either way…

  60. Thank you so much for this post! I did this after doing a “new deck” spread with my Aquarian Tarot and it confirmed what I previously received. I modified the questions a bit b/c I didn’t have your post in front of me.

    WHO ARE YOU? – The Devil, 8 of Swords, Knight of Rods/Wands
    o The Devil – You’re gatekeeper to my deepest fear, my darkest self, and my lunar energy.
    o Eight of Swords – You are me, the me that realizes that there is a way out.
    o Knight of Rods/Wands – you have a quiet determined energy to put things into action. You’re the leader/facilitator to help me charge ahead in my spiritual walk.

    o Ace of Cups – You’re here help me fill my own cup spiritually and emotionally.
    o Ace of Rods – You show me the seeds of action and magic. You help me connect to the seed magic within, to trust my gut, and to just go!
    o Wheel of Fortune – You help me to go with the flow and adapt to life’s changes. Which many are coming for me. In context of the two aces, you will assist me through the ups and down associated with dealing with inner self and what comes forth.

    o Six of Swords – You’re asking me to leave behind painful memories and ideals that no longer serve my highER purpose. I must trust In the goodness of the future and your role in it. You’re not here to hurt me or steer me wrong. Even in the depiction of the card, there is no child (as with other cards), because I am the one who you’re steering towards a brighter space.
    o Knight of Swords – you want me to approach you fearlessly and without trepidation. You also want me to slow down through the process at times when it’s appropriate to assess my situation.
    o Page of Cups – you want me to approach you with optimism, love, and an open mind. This relationship calls for me to let go and just be in this moment of loving spiritual connection to everything so that I may hear the messages being delivered to me.

  61. Hi Kate!
    I’ve been poking around your website and reading the comment thread to prepare for my first tarot deck. The Welcome to Night Vale set really drew me in with its designs and colors and after some back and forth with even while looking at other decks I kept coming back to it. I had a bit of back and forth with my deck and told it about myself while I shuffled between questions and got some great results!

    What kind of deck are you?
    Queen of Cups- This is a very empathetic deck that wants to help and guide those who need it or act as a mirror to help find the answers one needs within themselves to resolve inner conflict.

    What issues of life do you help with best?
    The World- I’m still a little floored by this, this deck seems to have a great handle of pushing people towards success and achievement and figuring out with knowing one’s place in the grand scheme of things.

    What qualities do you look for in a tarot reader?
    Ten of Swords- I thought this was a little cheeky from my deck, it definitely has a bit of a blunt sense of humor. It seeks a reader that can move on after the final blow is dealt in a string of misfortunes and grow from those experiences.

    How do you see our relationship?
    The Empress- Wow. Apparently the deck really see’s a lot of joy for the future, filled with creative expression and letting go of a lot of stress in the world around us.

  62. I find if you wrap your cards up really well and put them in a tarot bag they’ll be perfectly safe beneath your pillow 🙂 I used to worry about them bending but if you wrap them up nice and tight they can’t move. Of definitely recommend it!

  63. I) What kind of deck are you?
    The Emperor

    II) What do you specialize in?
    Knight of Swords

    III) How can you best help me?
    Eight of Swords

    IV) What is most important in a reader?
    Two of Wands

    V) How do you see our relationship?
    Queen of Swords

    Im pretty happy with this reading <3 I knew i picked the right deck 😀

    1. Hi kayla, im new in reading tarot. I am still trying to understand the meaning. I asked a question about the possibility of having a second child. I tried 2 times amd here are the result

      Trial 1: highest priestess, wheele of fortune and the devil
      My reading was that i have the luck to have baby, but i need to conquer my fear and i have to face it

      Trial 2: 4 pentacles (upside down), 10 pentacles and queen of wands (upside down)-> i couldn’t understand this at all. Can you help me to understand this? I tried to read this as i am being selfish for this. If i wanted to have a second child then the chance is there.

      To be honest, my husband and i are thinking of the living cost, As having another child isn’t going to easy. I really hope you can help me out here. Thanks a bunch

  64. I just bought the hermetic deck of tarot cards and i just want to know that i chose the right deck…. also when i shuffle them some cards flip out of the deck what does this mean

  65. Hi Katie, i did the Q and A questions and i wanted to know what you thought about them. I used the Rider Waite tarot pack. Im very new to this and really appreciate what you do here. 🙂

    1.What type of tarot deck are you? what card sums up your personality?
    knight of wands

    2.What card do you think suits my personality?
    kind of wands

    3How can you best help me?
    .nine of wands

    4.What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    three of wands

    5How do you see our relationship?
    seven of pentacles

    6.the hermit

  66. Hi Kate! Thank you for your article. This is very new to me! My deck seems very serious? Is it about helping me to recognize, face and confront my challenges and obstacles honestly? It was an unnerving reading at first but I wonder if it will help me to really face facts? Do you think it likes me?

    1. What kind of tarot deck are you what sums up your personality?
    * Knight of Wands.

    2. What areas/issues do you specialize in?
    * Devil, I drew a second card – Strength

    3. How can you help me? 10 Swords

    4. What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    * Empress

    5. How do you see our relationship?
    * Hanged Man, second card Devil.

    Thank you Kate, I’d appreciate your thoughts please?

    1. oh my god, we have the same question, i am not sure if my cards likes me cos he sees our friendship as the devil… really confusing. did u get ur answers?

    2. From the way you commented, none of the cards were reversed, and most of those cards mean you have situations where you build up alot of negativity, and it’s telling you to relax and quite possibly get laid.

  67. Hi Kate
    I came across your article and thought I’d give the Q’s a go….here’s my results…….

    Using a Hanson-Roberts tarot deck in the Rider-Waite tradition –

    Amazingly, after shuffling between each card, I drew all my cards from the major Arcana!!!

    Q1 – VIII Strength
    Q2 – IV Emperor
    Q3 – III Empress
    Q4 – XX Judgement
    Q5 – X Wheel of Fortune

  68. I have a mystical cats tarot deck. I really feel like the cats want to help me and they’re kind of a stern but loving deck..

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you?
    What card sums up your personality?
    Four of Earth

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    Fire Tom

    How can you best help me?
    Six of Earth

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    The Chariot

    How do you see our relationship?
    Good Kitty

  69. Hi Kate!

    I just received my new tarot deck, the witches tarot, and after meditating with it a few times and cleansing it I decided to ask it the questions you posted, here are the answers I got. I am a little shocked by a few of them and a little pleased by the others.

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    I got The Chariot
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    I got Death (This one I wasn’t so sure about?)
    How can you best help me?
    I got the Two of Cups
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    I got the High Priestess
    How do you see our relationship?
    I got the Paige of Swords (This one I wasn’t so sure about either)

    Any input would be appreciated! I am still very new at this and still learning!

    1. Thank you Sarah, for trying this exercise out and posting your cards 🙂 The Death card is about transitions, endings and transformations – I would say your deck specializes in advising you in times of change and transition and since you also got The Chariot, I’d say this is a great deck to use when you want advice about moving forward in your life.

      1. Kate,

        Thanks for replying to my post! What you said makes me very happy because that describes my life perfectly right now. I think this deck and I are going to work very well together and I cannot wait to learn more!
        Thanks again.

      2. Thanks for replying to my post! What you said makes me very happy because that describes my life perfectly right now. I think this deck and I are going to work very well together and I cannot wait to learn more!
        Thanks again.

  70. well, this is my first tarot deck, and after i cleansed it the first time, i decided to ask it the questions in the article and got these cards:

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    – Queen of Swords

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    -four of swords reversed

    How can you best help me?
    – nine of cups reversed

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    – four of pentacles reversed

    How do you see our relationship?
    -seven of pentacles

    From these cards im getting a kind of a strict tell it like it is motherly kind of aura;… but im not sure. Anyone got a clue about what the personality of this deck is?

    1. Thanks for sharing your reading, Sabanmoon! This made me laugh – your deck is indeed a strict, almost nunnish type. Don’t go asking it any questions about crushes or love life! LOL. Or it will slap you around for sure.

  71. Hi, love this post as I feel like my deck and I really needed it! I’ve had him (I sense, or maybe it’s just wishful thinking) for five years but it’s been kept wrapped in a box 🙁

    anyways, slightly confused as to whether it’s relevant to this drawing, but does it matter if some cars are reversed (for this reading only!)

    any who,

    1. Knight of wands reversed

    2. The sun reversed

    3. 7 of cups

    4. The sun

    5. 5 of swords reversed

    6. 9 of cups

    either way, reversed or not, these cards filled my with joy as I welcome my deck with open arms!

    1. Hi Kristin,
      Thanks for sharing your reading here 🙂
      To answer your question – it depends on whether you read reversed cards or not. I typically do not, but if a card is reversed it changes the meaning slightly. usually it means the reverse of that card or just a slight lessening of the energies – for example The Sun reversed might mean The Sun but only a little more tamped down than usual. Reversals are confusing, which is why I don’t usually read them!

  72. Hi Kate…
    I’m fairly new to tarot and new to your channel and website! Thank you for all that you do! I’ve been intrigued with tarot for a few years, and even tried to get into it before, but couldn’t… maybe the timing wasn’t right. Just recently I feel like I’ve had a shift in my life and I’ve been drawn to it again and am finding it very interesting and am actually having alot of fun learning all about it. Your site and videos make it even more fun because it doesn’t seem so overwhelming the way you explain it… thank you for that!
    I have all 3 of Doreen Virtues Tarot decks and just recently bought the Wheel of the Year tarot deck, which is more similar to the Rider Waite (spelling) and I thought it may be easier to learn from. I really like the pictures on them, but haven’t used them yet. Just kind of looked through all of them and wanted to see what I felt from them and I really like them. I’m so glad I came across these questions that you have here… it was interesting to see the cards that came up. 🙂
    This was really fun!

    1) What kind of a Tarot deck are you?
    The Lovers- This tarot deck is sincere and loving. And is all about sincere love and union and helping to choose between right and wrong.

    2) What card sums up your personality?
    The Devil- This tarot deck is Sensual and Magnetic. And will help to break free of addictions and shifting the mind’s perspective so not to feel trapped. I also pulled 2 cards for clarification and they were the the 8 of pentacles.. a love for work… and the queen of swords… the intellect and cuts through the BS… lol. So helping with finding and keeping a love for work without being addicted to it and also will help with not being too cold and/or too much in the mind… but getting to the point and being direct… no sugar coating.

    3) What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    The Queen of Pentacles- wealthy, gifted with a sharp business sense. This tarot deck teaches and specializes in how to be healthy in body and finances. And also specializes in grounding and calmness. 🙂

    4) How can you best help me?
    The Magician- This tarot deck will help with knowing how to take action and the power to manifest.

    5) What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    5 of Pentacles- Someone who has had some hardships that can understand how to rise above them. Someone that can be in solitude.
    Pulled a second card for clarification and got the Justice card- someone who is fair and balanced and who can weigh the pros and cons… and I’m a Libra… lol… the scales, fair and balanced. I think we’ll work well together. 🙂

    6)How do you see our relationship?
    Two cards popped out for this one… The Sun- Our relationship will be Successful, Trusting, Harmonized, Happy, Healing and Healthy! 🙂 Yay! And will bring Vitality! The second card was the Princess of Chalices- Our relationship will also be sensitive, creative, artistic, and inspiring!

    Thank you, Kate! This was really fun and insightful!! I’m going to copy and paste this and put it in my tarot journal that I’m going to start!

    Thank you again!
    Clifta Lenee

    1. Hi Clifta!
      Welcome 🙂 I’m so happy that you’re learning about Tarot and enjoying my site!
      Thanks for sharing your reading here – I enjoyed reading your interpretations and I think you’re a natural born Tarot reader 🙂
      I hope you come back to my site often for more ideas and tarot exercises.
      I am not familiar with the Wheel of the Year tarot deck, so I’m off now to do some googling….

      Happy New Year!

      1. Thank you, Kate! I’m hoping to become a tarot/oracle card reader. 🙂 I’m studying anyways.. lol.

        Yes… I’m loving reading your ideas and tips. They are really helpful!! And I had fun with questions for your decks. I asked another deck and I loved the answers that I got from it. 🙂

        Did you look up the Wheel of the Year tarot deck? Just wondering what you thought of them if you did. 🙂

        Happy New Year to you too!!

  73. I just did this exercise with my Mystic Faerie Tarot deck, and I’ve never been filled with so much bubbly laughter! Ha ha ha! At first, my deck didn’t know me so well, but I’ve found that over the few years I’ve had it, it has grown to know me really well. So, I thought I’d honor it by asking the deck about itself. The answers I got were so interesting!

    Q.) What kind of tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    A.) 5 of Wands. A deck of compromises and gifts.

    Q.) What issues/area of life do you specialize in? How can you best help me?
    A.) Knight of Pentacles. Energy to get things done! A down-to-earth, wise deck.

    Q.) What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    A.) 2 of Wands. Compromise. Teamwork. Drive. Friendship. A plan.

    Q.) How do you see our relationship, even though this may change in the future?
    A.) 6 of Cups. Thinking. Introspective. Good-will. Thoughtfulness. Emotion. Heart. Gentle. Mystical.

    This made me smile so much and was so much fun. Very centering. Thank you! 😀
    I asked the cards if they wanted to say anything to you, and the 9 of Swords jumped out! Wow. Hmmm… Only you know what that means for you right now. (:

    1. Hi Kat,
      Thanks so much for sharing your reading here, it looks like you had some fun!
      I enjoyed reading your answers 🙂
      I have no idea what the nine of swords means for me….jeez, couldn’t you have picked a better one? 😉

      Happy Tarot Reading,

  74. i loved this article, i’ve been practicing tarot for the past two months, asking tons of questions about my life, it’s about time i ask my tarot about who she is!

    what card sums up your personality?
    the devil, then i picked out a clarifying card and got the world.

    i wonder what that could mean? any thoughts, kate?

    what issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    six of pentacles.

    here to give people the knowledge, resources and tools to help them grow both physically and emotionally and achieve life goals/prosper in self-development

    how can you best help me?
    two of pentacles.

    encouraging me to take risks and be open to change, even if it’ll lead to the unknown. to help me stay out of comfort zone and avoid being stagnant. explore the amazing opportunities out there!

    what quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    eight of swords.

    to be honest, no matter what. don’t sugarcoat things just because it’ll sound better. don’t hide from the world. by giving the truth, it’ll allow room for growth and much learning.

    how do you see our relationship?
    the star.

    our relationship will be positive. we’ll bring calmness and light into each other’s lives. there may be days that are confusing/overwhelming but at the end of the day, we know that we have each other. we’ll provide each other comfort and a sense of renewal.

    1. i thought about the devil/the world combo some more and this is what i’m thinking..

      my deck is extremely knowledgable about addictions/hang-ups that people can get into, maybe she herself has had a dark past and by being honest with herself, breaking free and nourishing herself with positive forces, she’s found peace of mind and wholeness. she’s quite the wise tarot deck due to past experiences.

    2. Thank you so much Honey for trying this out and posting your results and ideas 🙂 It sounds like your deck is an intense and powerful one! I like you’re idea that she has experience in moving past addictions – I think that sounds about right.
      Best of luck with your deck in the days to come – I bet you’ll find your readings improve now that you’ve done this exercise!!!
      Happy Tarot Reading,

  75. Hi Kate!

    Love your site – I’m getting so much information from you and as a newbie trying it out at tarot… I really appreciate it!

    I have a question for you – what’s your view on second hand/used tarot cards (very good condition, and an out-of-print edition)? And how would you suggest to clear/clean/connect with the deck?

    Thank you so much!

    1. Hi Joanne,
      Welcome! I’m glad your liking my site 🙂
      There is nothing wrong with used Tarot decks – I have a couple myself. Just make sure you clear them, here are a few ideas on how to do this: – for a used deck you will want to do more heavy duty clearing, so just knocking on the deck isn’t enough, you may even want to wipe down each card with a cloth that’s been dipped in salt water. I usually sage the cards and then leave them on the windowsill overnight to let the moonlight clear them. To connect with the deck, try this:
      Good luck and Happy Tarot Reading!

      1. THANK YOU for the quick response!! Really appreciate it!!

        The vintage deck I’m looking at is the first edition of Mythic Tarot. As a new reader, I actually got the Crystal Visions to get me started, and I love them… they’re beautiful. Interesting story – I was actually at the store going to get the Shadowscapes but was really drawn to the Crystal Visions. And for some strange reason, I somehow forgot to bring my wallet that day so I actually had to go home without buying any the first time around. So I did some research online and saw your YouTube reviews and that’s how I decided on the CV! 🙂 Hehehehe so thank you!

        And though I’m happy with the CV deck.. I kept thinking about the vintage Mythic Tarot! A friend of mine has that deck and she had done a lot of readings for me with it in the past – it’s absolutely beautiful and I really feel connected to it for some reason (and the new edition just doesn’t do it for me!)

        By the way, I’m wondering if sometimes you find it hard to read for yourself?

        Thank you again Kate!


  76. I got my deck today, too and I was so happy and felt really great holding it in my hand.
    It’s so beautiful.

    I asked those questions, too, although I’m not sure it really likes me?

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    I got the Nine of Swords. I’m not 100% sure how to interpret this, but maybe that it’s not quite sure about itself either?

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    Eight of Cups. It knows how to handle change, I guess.

    How can you best help me?
    Five of Cups. It can help me to not focus on the past, but on the future.

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    Queen of Swords. I liked this one especially. To always be honest. I try to be honest all the time, even if it’s not a nice thing I’m saying.

    How do you see our relationship?
    Five of Wands. I’m not sure here either, but I guess we will give each other strength when facing hardships.

    I feel like we both have a long way to go, although I’m already in love with it.
    Thank you for this website, it’s really helpful and great!

    1. Hi Tea!
      Thank you so much for sharing your reading results here 🙂 The Five of Wands might indicate a need to be clear and calm when you approach your deck, or it could even be warning of a conflict between the cards you want to see and the cards you get (this is a common issue I struggle with too!!!)
      You might want to do this exercise again in a few months to see how your relationship with your deck has changed.

  77. Hello, Kate!

    I smell my tarot cards and tell them how pretty and amazing they are…(I really love how they smell like).

    Just purchased a Crystal Visions tarot deck. I love it! The artworks are beautiful and colorful. Although, it didn’t give me a great initial reading last night but at least I know that it will not sugar-coat things for me.

    I super like my original Rider Waite deck though. Looking at Pamela Colman Smith’s photo, I thought she was talented and her artworks are really amazing. Perhaps, I’m an oldie at heart.

  78. I) What kind of deck are you?
    The Tower.

    Rude awakenings.

    II) What do you specialize in?
    Five of Cups.


    III) How can you best help me?
    Seven of Wands.

    I can teach you how to stand your ground.

    IV) What is most important in a reader?
    The World.

    I want to belong to a Master.

    V) How do you see our relationship?
    Ace of Wands.

    A potential spark.

  79. Thanks for this lovely post! (:
    I recently got my first Tarot deck, the original Rider-Waite.
    Honestly, all the other kinds of decks seem not nearly as good as it!
    When I first got mine and held it, I was completely filled with joy! I knew we’d be great companions.
    Here’s the reading:

    I) What kind of deck are you?
    Eight of Wands.
    Really a go-getter, haha. I took this as meaning it has tons of energy and loves to quickly resolve questions well.

    II) What do you specialize in?
    Three of Wands.
    I guess it’s centered towards achieving goals, optimism, and moving on from the past.

    III) How can you best help me?
    Four of Wands. (So many wands!)
    It can best help me with positive closure and appreciating what I’ve accomplished so I can move into the future.

    IV) What is most important in a reader?
    Knight of Cups.
    To be passionate and creative! Which is a lot like me, haha.

    V) How do you see our relationship?
    The Hierophant.
    I suppose this is like a teacher-student relationship. My deck’s wisdom is guiding me through my path.

    I also asked it if I could start practicing with it, and I got the Four of Swords reversed!
    Guess it desperately needed a break, so I let it rest, haha.

    Any feedback you have would be cool to hear! Thanks again for such an endearing post, I’m a big fan. (:
    Have great day!

  80. Hi there! Glad I came across your website, I’m just getting started on my spiritual journey and I’ve had a Rider-Waite deck I believe and when I first attempted to work with them I think I was already a little apprehensive about using them only because I was anxious to learn how to use them and I just wasn’t exactly sure how, so eventually I just stopped using them until I became more comfortable with reading them, they made me nervous and a little intimidated like I should start with something more simple but I think I’ll try what you mentioned and try getting to know the card deck and definitely sage them. I also just purchased my goddess guidance oracle card that I love and were so excited about. Is it the same to use the oracle deck or angels cards with the same tarot spreads? Do you interpret them the same way? Also , how do I figure the best spreads to use for this goddess deck I’m not really sure.

    1. Welcome C’Hera!
      That’s wonderful that you’re just getting started with Tarot 🙂
      I love the Goddess Guidance cards – that’s one of my most-used decks!
      Yes, you can use the same spreads for both Tarot and oracle cards, you don’t need to make any changes.
      I can’t really say as there are particular spreads that would be best to use with the Goddess Deck – it really just depends what you want to read about. But I tend to ask more spiritual questions when I use that deck, so perhaps a more spiritual spread would work well, like this one: and this one:

      Happy Tarot Reading!

  81. Hello, erm how do I put this I am a male in my 40’s I am a typical blokes bloke, football, drinking having a laugh with the lads type person, but for some unknown reason tarot cards just popped into my head from out the blue?? I’m not going through a bad time or anything, if anything I have great mates and great family, job etc.. And all I do is laugh.. Can’t believe I’m saying this ( that is with no offence ) but I got my first set a tarot cards today and seem to be fascinated by them even bought a silk scarf to wrap them in, I have not done a reading yet as I getting use to handling them etc ( make them my best mate ) have I just said that ??? Is their reason why this has happened?? And no not told my mates yet but I will..

    1. Ged, your comment really made me smile – I don’t know why but I find this really funny! Not funny in a ha-ha-ha way (although I did laugh) but interesting/funny. I know lots of guys that are into Tarot but none of them are really the typical guys-guy type, so your comment has intrigued me! I think it’s wonderful that you’ve followed your urge to explore Tarot even though it is a bit out of character for you and I suspect your going to make an amazing Tarot reader. I hope you come back to my site again for ideas and stuff – best of luck to you and let me know how it goes!

      PS – oh, and I don’t know the reason why you’ve been called to learn Tarot but my guess is your attracted to the mystical, mysterious side of it 🙂

      1. Nice one, well I was going out tonight with my girlfriend and a few mates to watch a gig in our local park ( I’m from liverpool in the UK ) but whilst I was getting ready I got my cards out and stuck them by the TV and put on YouTube and one of my favourite bands called oasis, I was actually talking to my cards saying things like ” love this group had many a good time listening to these over the years ” I then played other groups I love like the stone roses and the prodigy and happy Monday’s etc , etc etc.. Anyway I decided to to do the quick 7 card spread and to cut a very long story short I was amazed by how correct they actually were I mean they were just spot on it was in nice way a bit freaky.. Still haven’t told the lads though lol..

        1. Sorry to be a bore but I have no ideas what is going on with me, today I found some vids on something called reiki healing and have requested information on classes around my area, the thing is this link on YouTube was basically my old life when I was younger as grew older I became more calmer but still the old me is in here somewhere so maybe some guidance from somewhere is helping me out ( I don’t know ) but I do like it..

  82. Hey, Kate! Thanks for the wonderful ideas, I haven’t thought about some of these things. Some of them I was doing and I thought I am the only one crazy … like kissing the deck, lol. But what could I do, I love it so much! 🙂
    You should defenetely try sleeping with a deck under your pillow or just in the bed with you, you won’t ruin the cards. I put mine in a bag where I am usually holding them and because they are hard stack they would bent really hard. Sometimes I find my decks under me when I sleep with them but there is nothing wrong with them. Just choose a bag which will hold them tight! You get these really vivid dreams when you sleep with deck and it’s like it’s talking to you. If you put a particular card in front and you want to work with it it’s like you are doing meditation in the deck in your dream, but it’s just more vivid. You literally wake up with more knowledge for that card than you had the previous evening before you went to bed.
    Best wishes,

    1. Hi Thunder,
      Thanks for sharing your experiences here – it’s been a while since I slept with a deck near me – although I sometimes put The Star on my nightstand so I see it when I wake up and I’m reminded to just chill out and relax! But your comment has made me want to try sleeping with my cards again 🙂

  83. I love this article. I never thought to tell my deck things, but I do often kiss it and thank it so it seems only natural to take my appreciation a few steps further. I love your approach and your website. Thank you for doing what you do, it helps me on my journey as a professional reader! <3

  84. thank you for this! i’ve always felt a positive energy from my deck but i’ve never really talked to it or asked it about itself. for the question “What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?” I got Four of Wands, and for “How do you see our relationship?” i got the Lovers haha! I’m glad to find it’s as attached to me as I am to it 🙂

  85. Hello Kate.
    I always wanted to buy a tarot card and learn to read it… I got one as a gift about a month back….but since the time it’s come by post(was bought online) ..I never opened it and never got connected to it…. I am really very keen to open and start reading,as soon as I make myself ready there is a distraction and I don’t get an opportunity to even open the deck and have a look or feel 🙁 what m I doing wrong, what is the first thing you do when u get ur card.isthere any process or ritual or anything to get connected to it….
    Feeling frustrated …as if missing something…please help….

    1. Hi Sangeeta,
      The first thing I do when I get a new deck is I make a pot of tea and then sit on my couch and slowly go through the deck, just looking at it. Then I do something to clear the deck – like placing it on my windowsill in the moonlight overnight, wafting sage smoke over the cards or just by placing a quartz crystal on top of the deck overnight. Then once I’ve done that, I give myself a reading!
      Don’t overthink it – just open your box and look through them – good luck 🙂

  86. I got my tarot off of a friend who was given it but it didn’t match him and I felt drawn to it. I did my first tarot reading today after having my deck for about a month. They’ve been sitting in their box in my backpack next to my desk at home and I pulled them out today and showed me something interesting, but I was shuffling them and asked them if they liked me, just if they liked me. They launched a 10 of cups at me. I think they like me. Lol. Thanks for the tips on my deck.

  87. I bought my first deck on Saturday and I feel that we immediately connected. I did two reading on myself and they were dead on concerning the past and present. I always have them with me, at all time. I take very good care of them, they’re my best friend. I did your test today on how to know my tarot cards and these are the answers I got:

    What is your personality?: I got The World.
    What qualities do you value in your reader: I got eight of Pentacles.
    How do you see our relationship?: I got Ace of Cups.

    Yeppp… I’m very connected to my cards. And I feel they are to me too.

      1. It’s the Gilded Tarot. I ask my deck yesterday how beast they would help me and I got 7 of cups and 6 of cups. Which for me means: sensible approach in making decisions, harmony and guidance

  88. I recently picked up a tarot deck from a thrift shop. It was just a brown box bound with 30ft of tape haha. A bought the mystery box and found a tarot deck inside missing 7 cards. There is definitely something attached to it, or it’s just a heavy deck, with a dark presence. I haven’t thought about tarot in a long time, but I love this deck already, and don’t want to change a thing. I am Christian, and although it is definitely less than “nice” I feel like it has added on to me, something I have been lacking.

    1. What cards are missing? Perhaps that is the message to you and why you feel attatched, but to something dark and heavy ( your words) without exploring any further; subconsciously you are picking up the vibe on what is missing or conversely taking up too much space in your life. It is a thought. Really interested to know which cards are absent. Blessings.

  89. Hey Kate! Namaste!

    I found out about your site on monday and today I got myself a tarot deck! You did inspired me a lot. My deck is the “complete kit” mini cards and purple box with 78 cards, but I did bought a 22 major arcana (only) Rider-Waite tarot too.

    So I just did some questions to my mini-purple-deck to get to know it better, I’ve introduced myself to it too, so, you know, we get to know each other. Since I’m new on this, I’m still learning what it told me hehe.

    Q1 “What kind of deck are you, wich card sum your personality?”
    A: Wheel of Fortune. Am I correct to say it has a great sense of responsability and likes to take control of the situation?

    Q2: “What areas of life you are specialized with and how you think you will help me?”
    A: 8 of pentacles.
    I think it’s saying that if it don’t know the answer it will work to find out and that it wants to help.

    Q3: “What quality is more important to a tarot reader?”
    A: 8 of wands.
    I think it’s saying that I have to be dinamic and have understanding of the people/situations.

    Q4: “How do you see our relationship?”
    A: 7 of wands. Wich in my deck is a cat being shot with 7 arrows o.O! And besides the book says that “faith overcomes every obstacle in life”, I got the impression that my tarot deck was telling me that it is afraid of something (Dont know what) and wishes I take caution. What you think? Should I consider what’s the book says or what I “think” the card says?

    Q5: “What can I do to asure we have a good relationship?”
    A: 10 of cups. And that made me very happpy since the picture in the card is a couple holding hands and smiling. Gave me the impression that it was telling me that if we work together and trust each other everythingt will be alright. That I must trust it.

    The experience was quite enlightening! Thank you very much for sharing this ^_^

  90. Still trying to connect with Tarot deck. After an attempt to connect with the deck by asking it questions about itself, and not getting a good response, I did the exercise where I set out each of the suits from 1 to 10. I then looked at each card individually then recorded my intuitive feelings for each card in my journal. I then wrote underneath this, the meanings listed in the handbook, and highlighted the meanings that were correct. I seem to have more accurately read the Pentacles with the Cups suit coming a close second. When I laid all four suits out on my coffee table, I seem to intuitively pair up Pentacles with Wands and Swords with Cups when looking at the cards collectively. Not sure why this is so. I am still getting a “tingling” vibration each time I handle the cards and when I look at each card. I think the deck is still trying to communicate with me, only I haven’t yet become attuned to them. Actually when I was in the shop, this particular deck chose me and not the other way around. Very interesting and a good challenge

  91. This was a fascinating and joyful process. Thank you for introducing the idea to me. I’m new to this and am still learning the basic meanings. I decided not to look up all the card meanings and just use my gut to guide me.

    I’m using The Gilded Tarot by Ciro Marchetti and Barbara Moore. The method I used was to simply focus on the question lightly in my mind and shuffle the deck until a card pops out. In the case of the first question, two cards popped out. I hesitated to select both but decided that’s what the tarot would like for me to see.

    Question 1: What kind of tarot deck are you?
    Cards: Justice and The Sun

    Instantly, it felt very good to see both of these cards pop out. For the Justice card, I hear “I’m the one who knows how things really are, regardless of appearances. I weigh and consider all options and angles before I give advice.” For the Sun card “I’m also a warm and care free personality that is connected to all that is. I’ll remind you that you too are part of the divine matrix.”

    Question 2: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    Card: The Devil

    So, okay I was like. Really? The debil? Geez. Then I realized this is about something else. I heard “I’m good in recognizing what causes hang ups, addictions and distractions. I can expose when there’s too much of a good thing going on and help you see it too.”

    Question 3: How can you best help me?
    Card: The Chariot

    This was an interesting card indeed! I imagine the tarot saying “You are ready for movement but you’re not yet in motion. You have all that you need to proceed on your journey. I am the catalyst to get you into motion and take those first, grand steps.”

    Question 4: What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    Card: The Lovers

    If you know the Gilded Tarot deck this picture is like RAWR!. It made me smile. Tarot says “Feeling love and passion for the process and how you connect with others. You love the endless possibilities that being a tarot reader can bring.”

    Question 5: How do you see our relationship?
    Card: The Magician

    For some reason, I felt humbled and warmed when this card popped out. Tarot says “Every thought, inkling and hope you’ve had about communicating with the ether has brought me to you. You have manifested me and have embraced me to your reality. We have all the elements needed to proceed on this journey. We are just starting. You have so many ideas and it is my pleasure to inspire you along the way.”

    You know, this is the first time I’ve written anything about tarot down. I don’t like writing but I did like this! Thank you again for introducing this idea to me. I’ll be stalking your web site regularly because the information is good and you are hilarious!

    1. Hi Lisa!
      Thank you so much for sharing your reading results here – I enjoyed reading it and how you interpreted each card – especially The Devil and The Lovers 🙂
      I do know the Gilded Tarot and yes, The Lovers are very RAWR! LOL.
      I am really pleased that this exercise inspired you to write some stuff down – that’s fantastic! You might enjoy part 2 of this article: – it gives you some additional questions you can ask your deck.

      Happy Tarot Reading!

  92. Hi Kate,
    I am just learning how to read my tarots. I have the Cosmic deck. I had gone and asked my deck the questions you recommended, as I seem to have difficulty in understanding what they were saying. As I was shuffling the deck, I said that I was going to ask them some questions, and their response was to flip out the Nine of Swords.. Looking at the card, I felt that it was telling me that it reluctant to participate in the activity.
    My Response: Come on now, I want to really get to know you
    Deck response: flipped out the Princess of Wands. (I think it means that it still wasn’t happy, but will comply)

    Question 1: What’s your personality?
    A: 10 of Pentacles
    I felt that it was saying that they are sensitive, imaginative, artistic and rather theatrical, not unlike myself

    Q2: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: They flipped out 5 cards – The Heirophant, The Star, Seven of Wands, The Emperor and Two of Cups. I felt rather confused here.. Not sure what this means.

    Q3: How best can you help me?
    A: The Devil
    I got the feeling that the deck is telling me that they are rather cheeky, but also indicates that I should listen carefully to what they are telling me, even if it means that they will occasionally give me a poke in the ribs if I need it

    Q4: What do you expect of me as a Tarot Reader?
    A: 3 cards flipped out- Nine of Swords, Seven of Swords and Five of Cups
    again, not sure what this means..

    Q5: How do you see our relationship?
    A: Seven of Pentacles
    I didn’t feel positive with this response. Felt that they were saying that they were reluctant to work with me at this time

    Q6: What can I do to connect with you?
    A: Queen of Pentacles
    Felt that the deck was telling me to be more creative and not to “over-do” it.

    Not certain if I was reading the cards right, however it was the feeling I got from them at that point in time. (09.02.15)

    1. I’m new to tarot and very well understand some cards, but I like to help people out so heres what I think.

      A1: I always think that the 10 of pentacles represents financial stability and connected to te home and family. Perhaps family property. Perhaps, the cards are really focused on home, family, and money.

      A2: This is an interesting set of cards. I see a combinati0on of “social” cards such as the heirophant, which means social structure, seven of wands, which means protecting your beliefs, and two of cups, cups being emotional and social, in htis case meaning emotional harmony between female and male/duality, or love. The emperor however represents being sturn and male energy which makes sense with the seven of wands. The star means hope so… perhaps yopu’re not very good socially, which makes you weak and shrink back, but you need to be positive and try to act. You would know better than me, though.

      A3: The devil represents self-imprisonment by negativity, lust, and greed, a perfect representation of the concept of the devil, and if I was right about the second answer, it may mean that you NEED to have more desire, and improve your sex life.

      A4: These are not happy cards. I imagine that this means that it thinks you will have frustration, fear, and trouble, but that you just need to step back, take deep breaths, ad take a good clear look and good approach at it. Don’t panic, and think calmly. Thats what the sword cards mean.

      A5: I think this one means “Patience! Patience! Patience!”.

      A6: You need to BE a queen of pentacles. Be methodical, hard-working, and patient. I think you were pretty wright about that one yourself.

      Thats my interpretation! 😀 Good luck!

  93. Thanks, this is awesome advice. I’m very green, so I’m still learning all the meanings. On your YouTube channel, you talk about involving your spirit guide, could you enlist the help of other entities as well? Such as Purson?

    1. Hi Dexter,
      Can you clarify what you mean by Purson? I’m not sure what you’re talking about!
      Glad you found this helpful, though 🙂

      1. I looked it up. Purson is a demonic entity who rules legions of demons in hell. There are many interpretations of “spirit guide” I assume you’re what people call “new age” and don’t so much believe in demonology.

      2. I looked it up. Purson is a demonic entity who rules legions of demons in hell. There are many interpretations of “spirit guide” I assume you’re what people call “new age” and don’t so much believe in demonology. Purson also gives lots of knowledge, and familiars.

  94. I just started tarot recently and I tried using the questions for my deck. The deck that I am using is Dark Fairytale Tarot by Lo Scarabeo. I shuffle the deck each time when I ask a question and my original intention is to pick the first card of the deck. Not sure if I’m a bad card shuffler or what, but 1 card seems to keep falling out in the middle of shuffling when I have to pick 1 for the answer to the questions.

    Q: What Kind of a Tarot Deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    A: Knight of Swords. From what I interpret, the deck is courageous, righteous and hasty. It speaks the truth hastily in a way that even if it is harsh, it knows that it is the right thing to do.

    Q: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: Two of Swords. The card is usually associated with confusion in solving problems, so I guess that it will be able to help in the area of decision making.

    Q: How can you best help me?
    A: The Hanged Man. I am not really good in interpreting things, so I take it that it can guide me when situations get messy and are held in suspension where decision making and actions play important roles to getting out of the mess.

    Q: What is the quality the most important in a tarot reader?
    A: Six of Cups. Happiness. The joy felt when reading tarot and enjoying the moments when interpreting the cards altogether! Apparently this is the only card that did not fall out while I was shuffling.

    Q: How do you see our Relationship?
    A: Ten of Swords. I might need a little help here interpreting this as I am not sure what it means. I looked up quite a few sites and am still on confusion. But from what I think, the deck probably isn’t used to me maybe because I just got it 2 days ago and I might need to bond with it more so that our relationship will improve.

    I had fun with the deck while asking these questions. I think it took me quite some time to intrepret and have these thoughts processed into my mind. Thanks for the guide!

    P.S. I might need some help about the interpretation of the last question!

    1. Hi Kanako,
      I’m glad you had fun with this – thanks for posting your results and interpretations!!!
      Honestly, I am stumped by the 10 of swords in that position, too. You could always ask “please clarify this” and draw a second card for clarification.
      Try that and see how it works 🙂

      1. Hi Kate,

        I tried redrawing another card asking for clarification and I got Nine of Swords. I can see why I get Ten of Swords now. The Nine of Swords is a symbolism of fears and nightmares.
        I’m a person who’s afraid of the unknown and I tend to stay in my comfort zone pretty much. It could be possible that I myself may be afraid of my own tarot deck in a way due to past trauma of spiritual incidents.

        Is there any possible way to improve my relationship with my deck?

        1. Hi Kanako,
          That’s great that that worked for you and you got some clarity!
          I think if you acknowledge your fears (by journalling about them, maybe) they won’t have such a hold on you. Also, get clear about what you might be afraid of and how you will counteract that. So for example, if you worry that negative energies will come through the deck and sap your energy, then make sure you practice some clearing and grounding techniques (like burning sage and doing a brief meditation) before your readings. This will help you feel safer and more relaxed, which will in turn improve your relationship with your deck 🙂
          Good luck!

  95. Hello Kate, thank you so much for this exercise! I feel that it has helped me get to know my deck quite a bit. I’ve just started learning the Tarot and I’m using the Mystic Dreamer deck by Heidi Darras (companion booklet by Barbara Moore). I’ve tried interpreting the deck’s answers:

    Q: What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    A: 6 of Cups – Sweetness, kindness and innocence. It brings with it memories of happy times in the past. I’ll admit I went “Aww!” at this one! I can kind of relate to it (if I were a suit, I’d be Cups – most likely Page of Cups as a Court card).

    Q: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: 10 of Wands – I was confused about this at first. This card means victory, but there is too much workload and there is a need to lighten it. After looking up its meanings on other sites, I take this to mean letting go. Rather helpful as I often get emotionally attached to a lot of things.

    Q: How can you best help me?
    A: Queen of Swords – It knows a lot from personal experience and chat with anyone about almost anything. It has the ability to see the big picture surrounding a problem and can tactfully but forthrightly give a solution. It apparently loves to help and share what it knows. I felt like my deck was being really cool (like the emoji with the sunglasses on) while telling me this. I didn’t expect such an answer after 6 of Cups, but I think we’re going to be good friends 😀

    Q: What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A: Ace of Swords – It thinks a reader needs to have the gift of knowledge and understanding, and to be able to communicate something with clarity and the right words. Well said; I can’t think of a better answer than that!

    Q: How do you see our relationship?
    A: Judgement – I find this difficult to interpret and would greatly appreciate some insight. Right now I’m guessing that my deck and I are going to get through challenges together, or maybe have epiphanies/awakenings/reflections together. Maybe opening ourselves up to new possibilities.

    That was really fun! It’s strange yet nice to know that my deck seems similar to me in some ways: it *might* be emotional, but is capable of and willing to give advice. In fact, it feels like a better version of myself because I have so much to learn from it (like letting go). I’m definitely learning to appreciate it more.

    It’s so interesting to read the answers others got from their decks. Again, thanks for this post, Kate. I would love to know your feedback on what I got! 😀

    1. Your comment was inspiring! 🙂 I just bought my first ever deck of tarot cards, and I hope to have a connection with my deck like you have with yours.

    2. Hi Summer,
      thank you so much for sharing your reading here – I somehow missed it when you first posted, hence the late reply!
      I love how you have interpreted your cards. I see Judgement as indicating a new, fresh, exciting phase of life, so perhaps this is a journey you will take with your Tarot deck.


      1. Thank you for the insight, Kate! Tarot has certainly changed the way I look at things now – it’s like a breath of fresh air.

  96. Hi Kate,
    Great article!
    I only just got into tarot reading, as I was clearing out my grandmas garage with her and found a set of them with a book. Not sure how it got there but I took it home anyway (asked my nan first though haha) and the cards seemed to just feel right when I picked them up. I’ve already don’t a few past, present and future tellings to family with them and strangely, the past and present were true! I think these cards just clicked with me somehow, but still, I’m carrying them around like a little baby 🙂

    1. Hi Millie,
      That’s wonderful that you’ve found a deck you really click with – and so cool that you found them in your Grandma’s garage!
      Best of luck to you as you develop your reading skills 🙂

  97. Hi there!
    I came across your site when I was searching in google ‘how to have a better connection with tarot’- so I did the excercie and my results were pretty interesting. I want to say, that at first I was scared and like ‘OMG WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?!’, but then I done some reading and it wasn’t that bad 🙂

    1)Q:What kind of deck are you? What kind of card sums up your personality?
    A: 8 of pentacles (r)
    Well… it is a lazy deck of cards:D (I have a black cat tarot deck). When they want they will do the work, but just like cats they are moody and lazy and like ‘oh damn, do I have to? allright, let’s do this”

    2)What kind issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: The world.
    I got the impresion. “well in anykind my dear, just ask!’

    3)How can you best help me?
    A: 8 of cups (r)
    Well… I guess in relationships, with those broken hearted. Divorces, couples who broke up or suffer in any kind of way. Even feeling emotionally left.

    4)How do you see our relation ship?
    A: 6 of swords (r)
    “speak to me darling! think before you speak! cealr your mind, and tell me up to the point what do you want!” as any question should be 😛

    I then added 3 more questions but put the cards in the deck and I got

    1)What is important in a tarot reader?
    A: 8 of cups (r)- again, being calm and don’t push so hard, just chill

    2)How can I help you?
    A: 2 of wands- and again, speaking with the cards or even to the cards and I hear them saing “Believe in me and yourself! I’m unique! Work with me! I’m wise I know things, I’m an individual! Trust me I;m a tarot deck” 😀 or even I would say ‘make up your mind girl’

    3)How would you feel if I held you on my knees while meditating?
    A: The star
    Well… I think that I don’t have to say much about it 🙂

    Thank you so much for this exercise now I know what has been blocking my relationship with my tarot 🙂

    1. Daria, I am so glad you enjoyed this exercise and that you found it helped your connection with your deck 🙂
      I loved your interpretations and the questions you added at the end! I am actually writing a part 2 of this article right now and it should be up on my blog in a week or so – there will be more questions to ask your deck.
      Thank you so much for commenting 🙂

  98. Really enjoyed reading this article. My deck and I have been together for I believe six years. It is high time i use some of these tips. I also have a question that may seem odd. So I bought a deck for my friend and there energy clicked like that and there energy was in sync pretty well. I went to hold his deck to feel the energy and it felt just fine but when he held mine he told me it was cold and rejecting. Is that normal?

    1. Maybe your friend picked up those vibes because your deck is so in tune with your energy that it doesn’t want to work for anyone else. It really did reject him!

  99. Hi, Kate. I’m new to your site, but I just had to say how helpful this article is!

    I’ve decided I want to get ‘serious’ about my relationship with my deck – not just using it to ask the same questions over and over about things which are, honestly, kind of dumb – but to actually use it for the original purpose for which I bought it, as a divination tool. I just did your spread tonight (and, you know, it’s funny…I had never thought to look at my deck as its own little entity with its own energy before reading this blog) and this is what my deck told me:

    Mythical Goddess Deck by Holloway and Skaggs

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality? – The Fool
    This is a happy deck, maybe kind of crazy – no holds barred (my Fool card shows a woman dancing on top of a table with her breasts out…she looks pretty happy to me). I take this to mean my deck is down for whatever; there would not be any question I could throw at it and it would not take a stab at, lol.

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? – High Priestess
    All about matters of the subconscious, the intuition, revealing secrets, looking behind the veil, connecting with the divine feminine. She’s all about getting to the ‘true’ heart of a matter, not just what is on the surface.

    How can you best help me? – Passion/Knight of Cups
    Given the imagery on the card, I think the deck is telling me it can help me work through emotional blockages, getting into the heart of the matter, identifying any deep rooted emotional problems which are preventing ‘flow’ and subsequent emotional growth.

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? Wheel of Fortune
    I haven’t the foggiest clue what my deck is telling me here. I try to read intuitively, so I don’t consult the LWB too much. I have a picture of the goddess Lakshmi here, and I’m not sure what she is saying. Perhaps it is important to interpret readings through all three eyes together (our two eyes and the third eye).

    How do you see our relationship? Creativity/Queen of Swords
    Not sure again. I have always seen myself as the Queen of Swords (if I had to pick a court card). Again, going by the imagery, perhaps my deck is telling me they are helping me to open my third eye. The figure has a flower at her throat, which tells me she is probably someone who speaks wisdom. Yet, her mouth and eyes are closed. She isn’t speaking anything. Only her third eye is open. I do not see how this relates to our relationship, but I may do another reading on that as well.

    I’m so happy I did this reading. Knowing the personality and ‘niche’ of my deck now gives me a clearer filter through which to interpret readings, something I had never even considered before. Thank you again, Kate!

    1. Hi Nikki – welcome to my site! So thrilled that you enjoyed this exercise so much and thank you for sharing your results 🙂 I know from experience that having a clear sense of your decks “vibe” or personality does really influence what kinds of questions I ask and how I interpret the cards – so glad you noticed this too!
      Happy Tarot Reading,

  100. My q&a session was going well until my last question: How do you see our relationship?

    My deck answered with the 6 of pentacles. Pretty much called me selfish.

    Then, for fun, I asked it what it thought of cats. It responded with the Page of wands. Saying they’re free spirited

    I asked if we could be friends, but I think it’s too soon for that because it came back with the 5 of wands – disagreement.

    My deck is not happy with me. I’ll try again in a few weeks.

    1. LOL! The 6 of Pentacles could also mean that it’s a helping relationship – your deck gives you advice/insights and you receive it – so not necessarily a bad thing! But I suppose it depends on what deck your using and how this card is depicted.

  101. So, I have tried to connect to my deck twice, a week apart and I keep getting cards that aren’t to happy with me.

    Try One:
    Page of Wands- This is a spiritual deck
    6 of Disks – This deck has a generous personality
    8 of Swords- It specializes in restrictions of life
    3 of cups- It can help me best with friendships
    (R) Ace of Pentacles- Frugalness is the best quality in a tarot reader
    (R) Judgement- Our relationship is Cautious

    Try two:
    (R) The World- Lack of closure, lack of compleion
    The Chariot- Control, victory
    (R) 3 of Cups- An affair, stifled creativity
    (R) 3 of Disks- Disregard of skills
    (R) Justice- resistance to change
    8 of Swords- Isolation

    I also asked if it was in a better mood, after I tried to cleanse it and a card came up revered.
    When I asked why it was in a bad mood five cards came up
    Queen of Wands- determination
    (R) 8 of Wands- delays and frustration
    (R) 10 of Wands- Taking on to much
    Page of Cups-Messenger
    Emperor- Authority

    I think my deck hates me or it is just mean.


    1. Lucas Tyrrell

      Try not to use it too much. Or how much do you use it? How are you trying ot connect with it? Are you using it on just yourself?

  102. Hi, Kate! Let me just say that the techniques you’ve provided were nothing short of helpful! I loved them and will give my Enchanted Tarot Deck the TLC I believe it deserves.

    However, when I “dated” my Tarot Cards, the answers from it came out rather negatively, which is odd because I go to great lengths to properly take care of them. The answers were quite shocking, really. All this time I thought the Cards were happy with how I’ve been treating them.

    What kind of Deck are you?
    The Lovers (Reversed) – Probably it’s a deck that’s heartbroken, in an emotional wreck and wants to part ways with its owner.

    Which Card best represents your personality?
    Princess of Cups – Caring, Young, Vibrant, Messenger, Innocent, Pure

    Which area of my life can you best help me in?
    The Chariot (Reversed) – During the times that I feel like I’ve lost self-control and discipline.

    What quality is most important for a Tarot Reader
    – Three of Coins (Reversed) – I’m lost. Poor growth? Mistakes? Unwillingness to change? Poor foundation? Lack of Interest? Boredom?

    How can I help you?
    – Four of Hearts (Reversed) – By leaving it. It’s clear that my Deck hates me, which is really, really odd because I haven’t been getting any negatives vibes from using it. Might just be because I’m a beginner or something, but no. And I do treat my cards with a LOT of respect, even to the point that I wash my hands before each Reading to make sure my hands are clean all the time. I do have a tendency to ask more profane… or prying questions regarding people I’ve met along the way. Am I discouraged to ask such questions?

    1. Hi Dan – here’s my advice: don’t worry about this reading right now. Re-do this exercise again in 2-3 weeks and see what comes up. I doubt your deck hates you! The Lovers reversed could also mean clearheadedness – un-influenced by mad passion. I don’t read with reversals so I don’t know about the other reversed cards. Let me know how it goes for you,

  103. So I used the “Get to know your Tarot Deck” spread with the Crystal Visions Tarot and came up w/ 2 Pentacle cards & 4 Major Arcana. Pretty powerful and gives me a direction on where to put my focus on with types of readings and advancing professionally in the future reading Tarot.

  104. Hi Kate, I’m using the Steampunk Tarot by Barbara Moore, and illustrated by Aly Fell. I asked my deck these questions and I got, in order, 10 of Pentacles, 2 of Wands, 3 of Wands, Death, and The Tower. I’m using the book it came with, but I would like to know what you think.

  105. This is awesome! I asked my cards what type of deck they were and I got the eight of Pentacles which said it was a time of focusing all its energy to make sure everything was perfect. Thank you so much

  106. This is such a good idea! Thanks a lot.
    I too got some really interesting answers
    1. What kind of tarot deck are you?
    The letters- happy, a contract or invitation, informing of news or events that will shortly arrive.
    2. What areas of life do you specialise in?
    The mountain- big rock solid events in life, obstacles to be surmounted relevant to important affairs!
    3. How can you best help me?
    The book- the unknown give knowledge on any situation all aspects of life, research, things that have not yet happend and patience.
    4. What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    The sun- optimism, good will, a positive outlook
    5. How do you see our relationship?
    The ring- joy in relationships! A bond or relationship that is not about love, strong bonds and happiness.
    I was using titanias fortune cards. 🙂

  107. I just received my deck yesterday, the Gilded Tarot. It is my first deck and I am just learning the Tarot, something I have wanted to do since I was a child. I had read your article and really liked the idea of asking my deck about it’s self. I have only spend about 2 hours with my deck so far, looking at each card and reading the booklet. I decided to shuffle my deck and ask the questions you suggested. This is my very first attempt at interpreting the card, with the help of the booklet of course!! Here are my answers:

    1. What kind of deck are you, what sums up your personality? 8 of Cups, easily distracted but ready to focus… cleans up messes

    2. What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? 7 of Cups, choices, opportunities, decisions, finding inspirations. Acknowledgment of distractions that lead us astray.

    3. How can you best help me? 10 of Swords, starting a new cycle in my life.

    4. What quality is most important in a tarot reader? Reversed 2 of Pentacles, disorganized, too many obligations, instability.

    5. How do you see our relationship? 5 of Cups, sacrifice, need for support and healing.

    Kate if you have time, I would absolutely love to hear your thoughts on the cards I received. I am planning to ask these questions again in about a month when I have spent more time with my cards and have a better understanding of them.

    1. Hi Carol,
      Thanks for sharing your reading here – I really enjoyed reading your interpretations, my only suggestion is that 2 of pentacles reversed could mean that an important quality in a reader is the ability to focus. Two of pentacles is about multitasking so perhaps in this instance, 2 of pentacles reversed could mean being able to just focus on one thing.

  108. Hi Kate!

    Thank you so much for creating this exercise! I bought the beautiful druid craft deck last week and just took some time out now to get to know my deck. I had the most wonderful time cannot wait to start doing some readings with it. It was just what I needed to get me started. I had so much fun and can’t wait to do the same with my Crystal visions deck.

    Best wishes

  109. This is seriously one of the most useful exercises I’ve done to further my understanding of the tarot. Rather than viewing my decks as variations on the standard RWS themes, I’m finding that each has a unique voice. One deck gave me all Cups cards when I tried these questions – it’s now my go-to deck for emotional conundrums. Another gave me Wands cards, The Moon and The High Priestess – I use that one for creative work.

    But here’s the really incredible thing: these decks are now giving me AMAZING readings. Like accurate and meaningful whole-other-level readings! I feel so much more attuned to the wisdom each deck has to offer, and I’m seeing things in the images I might never have otherwise seen. It’s helped me establish a genuine, intuitive relationship with my cards.

    Thanks, Kate! You’re like the tarot whisperer! 🙂

    1. Brie, that is so awesome to hear!!! I am really glad this exercise helped you transform your readings – thanks for letting me know 🙂

  110. This only gives me further confirmation that my deck and I are not meant for each other. I don’t know if there’s a way to repair our relationship. I admit to being repetitive, unserious and even humorous when I read my tarot, and it seems the more I did it the more unsatisfied my deck was. It is my first deck and I admit to only have learned about it recently, mainly by the hands of a half-assed guide book.

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    Nine of Sky (swords.)
    Anxious, sad, low esteem, feeling used. I feel I may have encouraged this by being sarcastic about my deck, asking her over and over the same questions as if I was not satisfied with the initial answers.

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    Two of Fire (Wands.)
    Helping you understand your path. I want to encourage you to make the right decisions, and present to you possible outcomes and opportunities. (I wrote as if speaking as the deck, it just seemed right.)

    How can you best help me?
    Eight of Sky (Swords.)
    I’m choosing to interpret it as my cards feeling unable to help and communicate with me effectively. My deck feels trapped and lacking in confidence.

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    Four of Earth (Pentacles.)
    A conventional, traditional interpretation.

    How do you see our relationship?
    Four of Sea (Cups.)
    Unsatisfied. Discontent. Bored.

    I think my deck is fed up with me and wants to move on. I do feel a sort of connection with my deck and feel sad to let it go, but I do not read the cards in a most conservative, conventional manner, and that seems to be what my deck wants. I think I’m going to try and trade with someone, even though I have been advised against second-hand decks.

    1. Hi Brandi,
      Before you trade your deck, you can try cleansing it by fanning it out on your windowsill overnight, letting the moonlight cleanse any negative energy. Or, you can try putting it in a bag with some crystals overnight. Sometimes that makes a difference – it sounds crazy but its worked for me!
      Then, if your deck is still acting like a total bitch, I would trade it 🙂

  111. Hi , I just got my deck a couple days ago and my spirit guides lead me to mine through my dream , and it has already tuned in with me as when I was meditating my crown and third eye chakra connected to it. I read your deck is a part of you and that it should be treated with respect and to talk to it and what not tuning in to it was a beautiful experience

  112. What kinda deck are you?

    2 of Wands

    I’m a deck full of intuitive insight
    here to help you on your journey to become
    a skilled Tarot Reader.

    How can you best help me?

    4 of Wands

    I can help you build a solid foundation on your natural
    intuitive abilities and talent for reading Tarot. I can
    get you to your desired destination point of initial success
    reading for others.

    What quality is most important in a Tarot Reader?

    The World

    To have complete confidence in your skill
    to read for others through study and practice.

    How do you see our relationship?

    3 of Discs

    As a team working together to help
    you develop your talent to become
    a skilled and confident reader.

  113. So, after a nice 30 minute meditation session with my Fairy Lights Tarot cards, I decided it would be best to ask the deck some questions. I disagree with a lot of the booklet readings and do not feel that is what the cards are saying to me, so I will say my own interpretations.

    What card best represents you?

    I view this card as a more different perception than a king, for the king is outside, wielding a sword, with his castle in the background. From this card, I felt that this deck takes initiatives and is not like the stereotypical deck (or king, in this case). The cards are very protective, and when other people are around, unless I meditated heavily, I have always had a bit of an issue using them, so perhaps the cards are very protective of me.

    What problems do you help best with?

    I love this card. It makes me so happy upon seeing the woman in pink. Right away, I felt that this card meant love and acceptance. There were beams of lights shining on the card, and it made me think that this deck will be used to look at the bright side of anything, which is funny, as that is exactly how I try to be. In all, I feel like this deck will help with happiness in general.

    What quality is most important in a reader?

    This card depicts a girl-like made out of water, while these three butterfly-like fairies surround her. They look very inquisitive, like they want to get to know this water creature. I felt that this meant the reader should be inquisitive about the world and try to understand it, but also, I saw it as the elements of water and air combining. I felt that this meant to combine intelligence, emotion, wisdom, and imagination, and that is how you will make a great tarot card reader.

    How will our relationship be?

    This is such a bright and radiant card, and I knew it was a great sign. We were meant to be together, just like the sun is meant to sustain life. What is interesting about the card is that there are two babies holding hands, and it looks as if they are in the womb. In a way, it made me feel as if the cards and I have a relationship so strong that it compares to that of twins.

    This deck is beautiful. I love it so much. I’m happy it puts up with me. 😛

    1. Nick, what a wonderful reading 🙂 I enjoyed reading your interpretations and thank you so much for posting them here! I don’t know the Fairy Lights Tarot, but now I am going to have to go check them out 🙂
      Happy Tarot Reading,

  114. Sooooo I just used these questions to touch base with my first ever tarot deck (second time using it for a reading, though, and OH MY GOODNESS this deck has a lot to say. This was probably the most intense reading I’ve ever participated in. Which is saying something. I am using a deck called “The Tarot of Trees”, since I tend to follow a very nature intensive branch of wicca and druidism.

    Q: What kind of Tarot Deck are you? What card best sums up your personality?
    A: Inverted Judgement –
    Inverted Judgement serves as a reminder that in every decision that you face, you have at least some element of control. While you may not be able to control the initial events that happen to you, it is important to remember that what is within your control is how you react to these events, and what you create and build out of them. So this deck basically sees herself as being a deck that helps take control and and build off of situations that the Universe presents.

    Q: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: The Devil Inverted –
    The Devil Inverted symbolizes detachment, breaking free, and reclaiming power. Again, this deck specializes in taking control of your own life and breaking free from the things that bind you, whether it’s the people in your life or the situations happening around you.

    Q: How can you help me best?
    A: Ten of Wands –
    The Ten of Wands is a signal for you to cut back, lighten your load, and let others help you, especially when you are taking on more than you can handle. So this deck can help me by taking on some of my burdens and trying to help me maintain my strength.

    Q: What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A: The Hermit –
    The Hermit represents someone who is always wandering, searching, and learning, as well as a time to think, reflect, and take stock but not to act or make big decisions. The Hermit can also represent the need to isolate or withdraw yourself from a situation to gain better understanding. However, it can also represent the need to return from solitude and share what you’ve learned. So in a way, The Hermit can be a wizened mentor, counselor, guide, or elder that is willing to share what she has learned. If that’s not a perfectly direct answer, I don’t know what is.

    Q: How do you see our relationship?
    A: The Magician –
    The Magician symbolizes someone who is the master of her own destiny. Something needs to be accomplished, and The Magician has the tools to complete the job. In fact, The Magician is so effective it is as if she uses magic to accomplish her tasks. This card can be used to describe energetic, dedicated individuals or a person who is focused and practicing hard. This card tells you to focus your energies, and apply and assert yourself, because nothing is beyond your power and there are no boundaries or limitations that you cannot overcome. Again, if this isn’t a straightforward answer, I don’t know what is.

    Q: I feel that you are a feminine deck, and the name Willow came into my mind when I looked at you after sleeping with you by my side. How do you feel about that?
    A: The World –
    The World can represent rebirth, new beginnings, and opportunities, including on an emotional and spiritual level. It is time to get out into the world and see what opportunities exist. The emphasis is on the positive completion of cycles. Completeness, accomplishment, peace of mind, fulfillment, satisfaction, success, and wholeness.

    Just… wow. I love my deck.

  115. Hi Kate! I stumbled across your site after googling “how to understand tarot” on google yesterday. I just got my first deck & a book on spreads, but am confused about how to interpret/understand some of the answers. I’m excited to figure it all out. I have the travel version of The Rider & am waiting for a deck that really caught my eye to be delivered. Maybe I’m putting a bit of a positive spin on the answers I just got, but I’m still learning.

    What kind of Tarot deck are you? Justice
    I take that to mean it’s a fair deck.

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? Strength
    Maybe it will help me get things done. I currently have some pretty big issues & decisions to make, while I try to figure things out. I took this as it telling me that it could give me the courage to do what’s best.

    How can you best help me? Ace of Cups
    It can help me be happy. Help me wade through life & find the things I need to feel content

    How can I help you? Eight of wands.
    Take action, maybe. Like don’t just sit on the info I’ve been given, do something about it

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? The Chariot
    Little hazy on this one. My booklet says triumph & vengeance. I guess maybe it’s saying it’s good to be strong & fight for what you believe in. I don’t see a deck ever telling someone to be vengeful. That’s just bad karma.

    How do you see our relationship? The Magician
    Again, not too sure. I think maybe it’s saying we will be good together.


    1. Hi Ashley,
      Thanks for sharing your reading here, I really enjoyed reading your interpretations! I really like your take on things.
      That’s funny your book associates The Chariot with “vengeance” – I’ve never really seen the Chariot that way, but perhaps it could also mean someone who charges forward, despite obstacles – so in a tarot reader, this might mean moving forward with a reading and focusing on success even when “negative” cards come up? Just a thought.
      Thanks again for your comment 🙂

    2. Hi Ashley! It’s been a month since you posted this and I don’t know if you’ll see my reply or not, but just for the record I wanted to throw my opinion out there about the chariot. I’ve never seen it about vengeance that much but I guess I can see how that might apply to this specific card. From my understanding the Chariot is about taking opposites and making them work for you, if anything at least for a short while, until you accomplish your goal what ever that may be.
      In the usual traditional imagery as I’m given to understand it, there are two horses a black and a white along with a charioteer (the person driving). The driver keeps the horses on the same path which is No easy task since the horses representing opposite energies are basically designed to move in differt directions. The charioteer, the two horses, and even the chariot itself, serve a purpose in accomplishing whatever goal they are trying to achieve.
      In how it may apply to your question, and this is just speculation on my part since I can’t see your cards, I would assume it’s saying the most important quality of a tarot reader is the ability to either pull yourself together completely for a short while and use all aspects of yourself or your resources to your fullest advantage while (im assuming) reading the cards.

  116. Hello there,
    I have had my tarot cards for quite some time. I actually owned a few other decks but I could feel it wasn’t the right time for me to have them so I gifted them to the ones I felt connected with the decks. I was unpacking some things from my garage recently and without looking for it I came across my old radiant rider Waite deck. After clearing my deck and sleeping with it for a few days I asked her these questions. She replied:
    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?:
    A: III Empress
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: SIX of Pentacles
    How can you best help me?
    A: SIX of Swords
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A: SIX of Swords
    How do you see our relationship?
    A: Knight of cups

    1. Hi Chelli,
      Thanks for sharing the outcome of your reading here 🙂
      That’s cool you got 6 of Swords twice! And three sixes!
      Good luck rediscovering your cards,

        1. Well, in the Tarot it is usually about being helped in some way, or it can be about offering a helping hand to helping others. Put all three 6’s together and see if you notice any similarities.

  117. hey there kate, i’m a 17 yo boy from Venezuela (Latin America) and i love what you do. I suscribe to your Youtube channel and i been fascinated since then. my exp. with tarot became since i was little but i didn´t know till the past year about been a tarot/oracle reader. i have read tarot since last year when i buy my first tarot deck The nechronomicon tarot. since then, i have bought 3 different decks (and one of them was given to me as a gift) including the rider waite tarot, the new oracle of delphos and the marseille tarot (gift from another person). Well, here is the deal: i did the test to my tarot/ oracle cards. and this is the results:

    The new Oracle of Delphos (Oracle Cards):

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?:
    A:The determination
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?:
    A:The triumph
    How can you best help me?:
    A: Singular Love
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?:
    A: malice
    How do you see our relationship?:
    A: Melancholy

    Rider-Waite Tarot:

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?:
    A: Queen of Cups
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?:
    A: King Of Cups
    How can you best help me?:
    A: Ace of Wands
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A: The Magician
    How do you see our relationship?
    A: The Empress

    Nechronomicon Tarot:

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?:
    A: Temperance
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: King of Pentacles
    How can you best help me?
    A: Five of Pentacles
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A: Nine of Wands
    How do you see our relationship?
    A: The Lovers

    Spanish Tarot or The Marseilles Tarot (Spanish Edition)

    What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    A: Five of Cups
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: Queen of Wands
    How can you best help me?
    A: King of Swords
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A:The Hierophant
    How do you see our relationship?
    A: Five of Swords

    Thanks BTW, you give me a reason to learn more about tarot.

    Pd: i consider myself as a not normal teenager, i really like to learn about anything. i also like to read a lot. i was easy for me to read the Rider waite tarot because is all about symbolism :D. anyways thanks love ya.


    1. Hi Adrian,
      Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing the results of your Tarot reading 🙂
      That’s great to hear that you are learning about tarot and oracle card reading and I am really pleased that you are finding my site/videos helpful.
      Good thing your not a “normal” teen – the normal ones never fare too well once they’re out of school 😉
      Best of luck with your Tarot studies and I hope my videos and articles continue to inspire you!!!


  118. Heya Kate! I recently purchased my first deck of tarot cards. The deck that caught my eye the most was Luis Royo’s Dark Tarot deck. From the moment I saw this deck it seemed to fit my personality. I was browsing the internet and stumbled across your site; at which point I became rather intrigued about getting to know my deck. I ended up giving your exercise a try and found it to be really helpful. I’m still rather new though and feel my interpretations might not be the right ones. I know you’re probably busy but, if you have some spare time I’d love to hear what your interpretations of my deck’s answers are. It would be deeply appreciated!!! 😀
    Q: What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    A: Knave of Chalices
    Q: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    A: Knight of Chalices
    Q: How can you best help me?
    A: 3 of Chalices
    Q: What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    A: The Hanged Man
    Q: How do you see our relationship?
    A: Knight of Chalices
    Q: How would you feel if I started to meditate with you in my hands or on my chest close to my heart? (I asked this question because, I really enjoy meditation and figured it was something I could do with my deck on a heart to heart level as weird as that sounds lol)
    A: 2 of Chalices (When I seen the card for this it made me feel really warm and happy. I’m not sure If you’re familiar with this deck but the image it presented made my heart really melt. I even started to feel tears of joy and I’m not one to shed tears often. Along with a strong feeling where my third eye rests).

    I do apologize for the lengthy post =/ lol. Unfortunately, I don’t really know anyone else who is experienced in this sort of thing. I hope you’ll have time in the near to distant future to give your interpretation of the answers my deck provided. Also, thank you once again for such an interesting exercise Kate! I do feel some sort of a bond with my deck now and the answers it keeps providing me have seemed rather positive the more I ask it. You’re the best! 😀

    1. Hi Zac,
      Thanks for commenting 🙂
      I just checked out the Dark Tarot and wow! I really like it! Very sexy-gothic. I have put it on my ever growing list of Tarot decks I want to get.
      Glad you feel more of a bond with your deck after doing this exercise – you definitely want to pay attention to the strong feelings you get when reading – like feeling emotional and being aware of your third eye.
      As for interpreting your cards – I don’t do this in the comments section, if I can help it. I am going to be offering a “Tarot Interpretations” service on my site (very soon!) since I am getting overwhelmed with interpretation requests – so if that’s something you would be interested in, let me know 🙂
      It sounds like you probably have some strong feelings as to what your cards mean, anyway – but if some of them really confused you, check out this article:
      Hope that helps!!!


      1. Ha, I’m glad you like the deck Kate! I’m also pleased you had time to respond. As for the interpretation of the cards I’ll gladly scope that link out. I kind of figured it gets overwhelming with a constant influx of requests asking for interpretations. I completely understand! A “Tarot Interpretation” service on your site would be epic!!! That would definitely be something I’m rather interested in. 😀 Thanks for the link by the way; any bit of help is always deeply appreciated! I’m not sure how soon you’ll have that service up and running. But, I’m sure it’ll pop up in the mailing list I presume.
        Thanks Again,

        P.S. It was an honor to have heard from you! 🙂

  119. I have two decks, I bought one with a friend during High School.. It was a manga style tarot cards ( I realllly liked the art so I bought it D:) and bought another deck a few years later ( I guess maybe 2-4 years ago? ) which is the Archeon Tarot. I feel guilty for not using them though and recently took them out and occasionally talk to my deck ( I know weird of me D: ) like I’m sorry for neglecting you 🙁 .

    What type of tarot deck are you? what card sums up your personality?
    Three of cups
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    King of Cups
    How can you best help me?
    Herald of Sword
    How can I best help you? ( I liked the idea from Kelsey! so I included this as well.)
    Six of Wands
    what quality is most needed for a tarot reader?
    Nine of Swords
    How do you feel about our relationship?
    The Magician

    I don’t know how to interpret this but, hopefully I will be able to in the future as I’ll start connecting them from now on.

    Thanks for this idea 🙂

    1. Hey Jess,
      Thanks for sharing this! I was struck by the Nine of Swords being the card that represents what is most needed in a reader. I thought hmmmm….what on earth could that mean?! Then it came to me that 9 of Swords has to do with worry (and one’s thoughts spinning out of control) and as a Tarot reader, people will often consult you when they are worried about something and you may also consult your cards when you are worried. Therefore, understanding “worry” and how the mind behaves when it gets into this mode is something that will help you as a reader.

      Good luck getting to know your cards and I’m sure they won’t hold a grudge with you for neglecting them 😉

  120. I enjoys this exercise! I asked my Housewives Tarot and this is what I got;
    – What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    – Ten of Cups
    – What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    – Two of Wands
    – How can you best help me?
    – Judgment
    – What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    – nine of wands
    – How do you see our relationship?
    – Page of swords

  121. What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality? THE STAR
    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? KNIGHT OF GHOSTS (cups)
    How can you best help me? JUSTICE
    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? PAGE OF GHOSTS (cups)
    How do you see our relationship? QUEEN OF PUMPKINS (pentacles)

    my deck is the halloween deck. it’s a very positive deck, seems to favor the cup cards an awful lot. lol

    1. Looks like you got some awesome cards here, Amanda! I love the Halloween deck – I don’t have it myself, but I have had readings with it and its such a cute deck.

  122. Hi Kate !

    I’m a complete newbie in tarot and as I want to know my deck (which is The Wild Unknown Tarot -a pure wonder !-), I just tried the questions :
    – What kind of a Tarot deck are you? What card sums up your personality?
    – The Chariot.
    – What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    – IX of Swords.
    – How can you best help me?
    – Daughter of Swords. (In this tarot, the court cards are a family : father, mother, son and daughter.)
    – How can I best help you ? (Like Kelsey, I found it rude not to ask !)
    – The Lovers.
    – What quality is most important in a Tarot reader?
    – III of Pentacles.
    – How do you see our relationship?
    – VIII of Pentacles.

    I’m not sure to completely understand -oh wait, no : I’m sure I don’t understand anything with these answers but I had a great time ! 😉
    I wrote the whole down in my journal and I’ll try to give an interpretation tomorrow.

    Thank you for this great idea !
    And greetings from France, btw !

    1. Welcome, Elodie! Thanks for sharing your reading here 🙂 I know sometimes the cards we get don’t make much sense, but once you sleep on it and journal about it, I am sure it will all come together!

  123. I found this page very helpful! I was looking for ways to get to know my new tarot deck, since I got it earlier this month, and wasn’t finding anything very good until I found this page very very late last night lol. So I asked my deck the questions and got these answers. 🙂

    Q1 – What card sums up your personality?
    A1 – Knight of cups

    Q2 – What card do you think suits my personality?
    A2 – Five of cups

    Q3 – How do you see our relationship?
    A3 – Death and Four of swords

    Q4 – What kind of deck are you?
    A4 – The Hierophant

    Q5 – What areas of life do you specialize in?
    A5 – Two of cups

    Q6 – How best can I help you?
    A6 – Queen of wands

    Q8 – What quality is most important in a tarot reader?
    A8 – Nine of pentacles

    My deck is the Anne Stokes Gothic Tarot, and (from what I got as answers) my deck is a bit girly, with a slightly sassy attitude. 😀

  124. I tried this with my Deviant Moon Tarot deck and got one hell of a pretty intense and exciting reading:

    What card sums up your personality? The Magician: Apparently this deck is quite powerful and well rounded

    What area of life is your specialty? The World: Sounds to me like this deck specializes in guidance relating to bringing one into harmony with the universe and fulfilling your life path.

    What quality is most important in a tarot reader? The Queen of Swords: I thought this was interesting. I’ve heard that The Queen of Swords represents tarot readers quite often. I believe here it means being able to see things clearly, cut through the crap and get to the heart of the matter so to speak, being discerning.

    How do you see our relationship? The Star: I was so excited when this card showed up in this position. Through working together we will manifest enlightenment, hope, understanding and guidance for those who need it.

    I think I will have to do this exercise with all of my decks now. Thanks Kate so much for this post, it was a great deal of fun. 🙂

    1. Thank you Sarah for sharing your reading here! I love your interpretations and I would be quite pleased if I got the star as well. Have fun getting to know all your decks this way 🙂

  125. Hi Kate!
    I love your website and your tips and videos. My mother used to do Tarot and stopped a very long time ago, and in the past two months, I’ve been looking for a deck to choose me, not for me to choose. The other day I was in one of the Spiritual shops around my area and a deck immediately caught my eye. I have never seen it before, and it was the only set like it in the shop. When I touched it, I felt an immense amount of heat and got dizzy briefly, and I had a sense of urgency to leave with it right away. I interpreted this as a deck finally choosing me and I’m very excited. Last night, I started playing around with the cards, feeling the edges, and letting the deck rest around my crown chakra (for some reason I just felt like it wanted to be there). Since I’ve bought it, I’ve been falling in love with the pictures, art, and general look of the cards, but I’m finding it hard to connect the pictures with the meanings provided in the small white book. Will this be something that comes? Or is my deck starting to reject me? I’ve read online it’s a deck more fit for expert readers, but I’ve always been a crash-course kind of person and it makes sense I felt chosen by a picky, expert deck. I just want to make sure I am doing all I can to make my cards happy as they help me embrace and grow even more in my spiritual side. The deck is the “Ramses, Tarot of Eternity” deck. I love it and was drawn to it, but a lot of people online don’t seem to like it. I feel like that’s another connection between us. Any advice?

    1. Hi Jade!
      I hadn’t heard of your deck before so I just looked at it online and I think it looks lovely – I love love love the Egyptian theme! I can see why you feel a connection to these cards. I would recommend setting the book aside for a few weeks and just interpreting the images on your own. I wrote a blog post on how to do this:
      Just because the book meanings don’t make sense doesn’t mean your deck is rejecting you – it just means you aren’t meant to rely on the book – go with your intuition, creativity and explore what the images on the cards mean to you on a personal level.
      Hope this helps!

  126. Kate, I find your website very interesting. I have been using tarot cards for many years now. I started at the age of 10. I have had the same deck and I believe we are fond of each other but I do like your ideas of treating the deck. I will definitely try that. I am currently trying to find ways to dig deeper into myself and possibly find some more inner abilities that I may have and not yet found. I feel like there is something more to me, so I look forward to reading through your blogs more. I do have a question for you about tarot decks though. My older sister who introduced me to tarot passed away four years ago and I made sure to obtain her deck of cards at this time. I will not use them, but I was curious to know if there was anything special that I should do with them? Ive just been holding on to them. I am very interested to hear your take on this matter. Thank You for your expertise. This is all very enlightening. Jessica=)

  127. So I slept with my deck and I did the exercise and these were the responses, I’m also a relatively new reader, who has yet to figure out the meanings of the cards

    What kind of deck are you- the fool ( my feeling is it’s a new beginning, carefree and adventurous,wants to take those on a journey or a quest to self exploration & finding the answers, I also felt like a companion on the road to self discovery.)

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    How can you best help me? This one I got 3 of swords, which initially confused me so I did it again and got the 3 of swords again, then I pulled a second card and got the 8 of cups… I’m guessing… It specializes in heartbreak, loss, & betrayal? Along with the 8 of cups, dealing with disappointments in love, and learning to let go?

    What quality is most important in a Tarot reader? The 4 of swords jumped out, immediately I got meditative, that rests and really ponders and contemplates the cards, I also pulled out the queen of wands, but I put it back bc I didn’t get any impression except creative and following my passion/ heart.

    How do you see our relationship? This one was the one that I don’t understand at all, and scared me a little, I got the 9 of swords…. Could it mean that I’m fearful or that it dismal? Does my deck not like me?
    Well I asked it and the Justice card jumped out…. Could you perhaps give me Insight into the last one? The 9 of swords worries me…

  128. Dear Kate,

    When I was in high school I learned from a very good friend how to read my cards and connect emotionally too them. (I found sleeping with them in a case I hand made for them very emotionally binding) However, I stopped using them for a time when I was going through a huge life change. Now that I want to pick back up my interest in the art I find I just don’t connect with them like I did before. This goes past the emotional connection because I still feel the love and bond with them. I want to get a new deck that represents me and who I am now but, I feel like I would be betraying an old friend. Do you have any recommendations on how I should go about this transition? I want my old deck to know my love but be ok with using a new one. Can I transfer the essence of my old deck to the new one?

    1. Hi Austin,
      Good question! I think you should definitely get a deck that reflects where you are right now. Once you get your new deck, you could always do the same things that helped you connect to your old deck. After you work with your new deck for a while, you will start to feel more connected with it. You can retire your old deck and bring it out later on – you may find you feel more of a connection with it later on. Or, if you feel comfortable with it, you can always gift your old deck to a friend so you know that it can be enjoyed and not languishing in your drawer!
      Good luck 🙂

  129. Hello Kate,

    First of all, I am so glad I found your site! Your posts are really helpful and insightful. I’ve been meaning to learn about Tarots more, and your site has been providing me the beginners knowledge that I need. I hope that in time I can master Tarot.

    I have a question: I bought a beginner’s set a couple of years ago, it includes a deck and a book that teaches you about tarot and the cards. However, I don’t find the deck visually pleasing at all. I lost interest in the deck because of its graphics.

    Is that bad? Should I find another deck which I feel I could like more?

    Thanks in advance 🙂

    1. Hi Jolene!
      I am delighted you are learning stuff from my site 🙂 Thank you for letting me know how helpful its been to you.
      If you don’t like the Tarot deck you have, give it away and get a new one that you do like! There is no point trying to learn Tarot on a deck that just doesn’t do it for you. Some decks that are good for beginners are Robin Wood Tarot, Universal Waite Tarot, Morgan-Greer Tarot, Crystal Visions Tarot – once you find a deck you connect with, I can guarantee your Tarot skills will improve dramatically.
      Good luck!!!

  130. so I tried asking my tarot deck questions… and idk what to do, I wan gifted them today so I thought it would be nice to get to know each other.

    What type of tarot deck are you? what card sums up your personality?
    -Four of pentacles

    What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    -queen of pentacles

    How can you best help me?
    -seven of pentacles

    (I thought it rude not to ask) How can I best help you?
    -two of cups

    what quality is most needed for a tarot reader?
    -King of wands

    How do you feel about our relationship?
    -four of cups

    Can you help me understand the answers, please. I use the deck mystic faerie… I think I annoyed my deck asking so may questions, and meditating with it for an hour before hand….

    1. Hi Kelsey,
      I am delighted that you tried this exercise with your new deck! – but no, I cannot help you with the answers. That part is for you to do! Spend some time meditating on them and journalling about them. And I can guarantee your deck is not annoyed with you for asking it too many questions 🙂


  131. Hi Kate
    I have just discovered your website and videos and just love all the wonderful information and enthusiasm for tarot that’s generated! Thank you! I had stopped using my Cosmic tarot years ago, as I’d got spooked by it all at one time and locked them away. I now feel I didn’t really know enough about it at the time.
    Somehow though, after nearly 10 years, they seem to ‘Call’ to me and when I did go hunting for them and touched them again, it was weird, like finding an old friend and the energy was amazing! Anyway, what I was wanting to ask is this, as I’ve now bought a couple of other decks as I too love the beautiful illustrations on tarot cards.
    Is it possible to connect with several decks all at the same time or is it better to do it one by one as you learn how each one speaks to you? 🙂

    1. Hi Claire!
      I am thrilled that you are enjoying my website 🙂
      Yes, you can connect with several different decks at once – you don’t have to work with just one deck exclusively. Many readers will actually read with multiple decks simultaneously, which I don’t usually do, but you can. If you are doing the exercises in this article and are fairly new to Tarot, I would recommend getting to know one deck at a time – work with it exclusively for a little bit (like a week) and really get a sense of it, then you can switch to a different deck and try the same.
      I have the Cosmic Tarot as well – I love it but I have to admit the images can be pretty harsh and disturbing, so i can understand where your coming from!
      Happy Tarot Reading 🙂

  132. Getting to know my Tarot Deck 🙂

    Me: So, Tarot. What kind of deck are you? What really sums up your personality?
    Deck: The Magician – need I say more?
    Me: (rolling on the floor, laughing!!!)

    Me: What issues/areas of life do you specialize in?
    Deck: Queen of Wands – girl talk
    Me: (had to laugh again)

    Me: How can you best help me?
    Deck: The Fool – time to take that leap of faith into new beginnings!
    Me: (some song about a magic carpet ride in my head….from the 60’s or 70’s?)

    Me: What quality is most important in a Tarot Reader?
    Deck: Wheel of Fortune – be centered without distraction, ride the winds of change…
    Me: (singing, “why don’t you come with me little girl….on a magic carpet ride….”)

    Me: How do you see our relationship?
    Deck: Three of Swords – I got a bone to pick with the skeletons in your closet. You REALLY need a new “wardrobe”.
    Me: I think I found my new best friend! Love ya Deck! 🙂

    I’m kinda new at this whole Tarot thing, but I feel like the cards are REALLY responding well 🙂

    Any feedback on my interpretations? Anything helps 🙂

    1. I love that your having so much fun with this! Isn’t it weird how, when you ask your deck these questions, you get a real sense of it’s personality/sense of humor? We are so used to asking the cards about ourselves and this exercise is totally different. I love your interpretations 🙂

  133. Kate!

    How did I miss this fabulous post? Any way, I love your ideas and those of your readers. Also, although, evidently, this post is almost a year old, it’s absolutely perfect for me today!

    I’ve been feeling a little off in my whole tarot practice–feeling like I’m not reading accurately, am a bit off in my connection with my decks, not understanding the subtle and not-so-subtle differences in different artists’ interpretations, etc.

    So, late (late!) last night, I gathered my decks (only have about 25, not hundreds, like some collectors), and with the cats’ (only two of those) help, and asked myself which of my decks do I feel are most “reliable.” A couple came to mind, so I picked one (DruidCraft) and asked what is going on with my tarot life?!?

    I got the Princess of Wands, which, in this deck, always lets me know I’m trying new stuff, but probably forcing it a little, and have stepped too far out of my comfort zone. With that in mind, I realized I wanted to read (at least for a while) only from decks that support me, not from decks that challenge me too much.

    From there, it was easy to identify nine decks that I feel really solid and safe with–even a couple of more edgy ones, like The Phantasmagoric Theater–and just ONE that I want to study more (Tarot of the Sidhe).

    I put the rest of the collection away in the “tarot attic” for the time being, and now have just nine decks to love and (re-)connect with, using some of your techniques.

    (Wow. Lots of words in this response.)
    Hugs (and thanks),
    jme(who has just used her limit of parentheses for the day!)

    1. Thanks for your comment, Jamie – its a good thing I re-posted this on facebook – I have so much content on here, its easy to miss something. Let me know how you find working through this with your decks – I find that it really helps me understand the character of each of my decks. I am really curious now which 9 decks you chose. I really enjoy your enthusiasm for Tarot – it totally inspires me 🙂

  134. Thanks for such informative tips. I already use a few, but the others sound like a fresh, New approach I’m wanting to try. Kate, do you have the “Messenger Oracle” by Ravynne Phelan? This is a deck that I bought, looked at, and thought, it’s fine. Boy, was I wrong. I connected with it so quickly, or I should say, it connected with me! It is extremely accurate and is a favorite now. I wondered if you have it, or if anyone else does and has had a similar experience. Thanks again for all of your knowledge here!

    1. Hi Deborah,
      Good to hear you enjoyed these tips 🙂
      I don’t have the Messenger Oracle, but its been sitting in my Amazon shopping cart for a while now – it really looks like a fabulous deck. I can see myself getting it soon!

  135. Still getting aquainted with the Morgan Greer,It has that 70s theme that I like about it.Asking the deck questions and meditating on it sounds like great ideas.I will give it a try.I wished I would have known about this beforehand.Thank you so much for the info Kate.

    ~Scott Lagos. 🙂

    1. Your are very welcome Scott! When I started doing this with my Tarot decks, I noticed that my experience with each deck totally changed for the better – so have fun with it!

  136. I bought a copy of the Druid Craft Tarot, and tried working with it for a bit, but for some reason, I could not connect to it. I re-introduced myself to it and I got some interesting cards. It’s personality is the 3 of Pentacles:the Spirit is creative and hard at work mastering its craft (so to speak :-D) It sees our relationship as: The Hermit, I see it as my guide and showing me the way to go within and truly begin to understand myself. What areas are its specialization? 4 of Pentacles, helping me to create stability in the material plane and caution me about holding onto resources and having a “poverty mindset”. Finally, the most interesting response it gave me was to the question of “what quality is the most important in a tarot reader?” it gave me the 10 of Swords! I believe it is telling me that there is always hope even in the darkest of situations, and we can choose to react to hurtful things in a positive and hopeful manner. Interesting Spirit indeed!

    1. Marcie, I love your interpretations of these cards, especially the Ten of Swords. It will be interesting to see if your relationship with this deck changes after doing this reading with it.

  137. I was given my first deck yesterday by a friend. It’s the Faery Wicca Tarot. The impression I get from it is: Unfamiliar friends. I’ve just begun the research to get to know how to use tarot, and how to use this deck. It is not a beginner’s deck, and I’m at the very start of this adventure. I found an old crystal (my younger brother got it when he was little and he gave to me, after “growing out of it”) and I’m going to see how that works. I was drawn to this deck, though it does not feel like it is totally “me.” But that has yet to be seen. We just met! haha

    1. That’s wonderful, Emily. I hope you have fun getting to know your new deck – I don’t know that particular deck, so I will have to look it up, it sounds like my kind of deck 🙂 I have lots of decks that aren’t really “me”, but I still enjoy reading with them from time to time – its like having tea with a friend who you can’t totally relate to, but its a fun time anyhow.

  138. These are very very helpful tips and suggestions!!! I’m young, probably the youngest poster on here seeing as i’m only sixteen, but i found after separating my deck (The Faeries’ Oracles by Brian Fround and Jessica Macbeth) into different categories of what i thought they should be in (whether it be color, the type of face, whether there’s loads of objects or only one being on the card) i felt not only grounded, but connected with my deck. Then after simply just shuffling the deck and just sitting with it for a few minutes, i found myself over whelmed with emotions that i just didn’t understand. Why should i feel the urge to cry like that? XD It was a very great experience though.

    1. Erica, that’s good to hear that your into tarot/oracle cards. I don’t know many young people that are into this stuff, so that is so refreshing! Thanks for sharing your emotional experience with your cards – it sounds like you really made a powerful connection to your deck 🙂 I don’t have that deck, but I do have Brian Froud’s other fairy deck – the Heart of the Faerie – just got it the other day and it has a very unique vibe to it.

  139. Wow! Thank You. Got such a great response from a deck i just bought today (Morgan – Greer). The personality of my deck is Page of Swords. Sharp, eager intellectual and driven. Its area is Nine of Rods. The qualities the deck looks for in me is Two of Cups and our relationship is the Star. One of my favorite cards!!!
    Thanks again <3

  140. Hi, Kate!

    I asked my deck the above questions! I was happy to learn more about my deck and it’s unique personality. Unfortunately, some answers confused me – I got the two of pentacles for areas of specialization. I am a beginner, so I attempted to interpret it as best as I could, then drew the ten of pentacles for clarification (still not as clear cut as I had wanted it to be). May you please help me to decipher this?
    All in all, I had a great time getting to know my deck. Are there anymore questions I should ask to learn more? I love to hear!
    Thank you so much for the suggestions!! 🙂

    – Taige

    1. Hi Taige,

      The Two of Pentacles is all about balancing two things and the Ten of Pentacles often indicates successful business and finances – so I would say that deck may be particularly helpful regarding questions around business and juggling work with family or leisure time. Since both cards were pentacles, and pentacles has to do with money, health, and home – I would say that your deck specializes in those areas.

      Hope that helps!

  141. AWESOME! I just tried all of your suggestions with the Vampire Tarot by Nathalie Hertz that I have in my possession for at least 10 years and have never used because it intimidated me! OHMYGOD!!!! I LOVE THIS DECK NOW!!!! I understand what it’s trying to say to me and my querent, and boy do I have a different perspective on things!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!

    One thing that I have added on my own when meditating on the deck is that I become the individual in the card and I listen to what I hear/say/feel around me. This really puts a different spin on things and I have gotten to know my cards even more.

    1. I love that idea – entering the card! I have tried that before and have gotten incredible insights. I actually forget to do it, so thanks for the reminder, I think I will start trying that technique again. I’m so happy my tips helped you connect to your deck!!!! Thats awesome that you were able to get a better understanding of an old deck you’ve had a while.

  142. Thank for the wonderful tips Kate! I haven’t tried the juicy questions with my Tarot deck, I will give it a try! Sleeping with decks is my favorite thing by the way, I don’t put my deck under my pillow directly, I place it beside my pillow together with my teddybear (yes, I’m 25 and I still sleep with my teddy!) alongside with my Selenite heart. I meditate and visualize an energetic connection with my deck (of course visualizing the energy coming from the universe and then circulating between us to nourish us both and strengthen our bond) to let us communicate easily during sleeptime, and I talk a bit ’till I fall asleep. This is a bond enhancer in my opinion, since our higher self is much more active and free while our mind is asleep, this brings more clarity and attunement to our relationship. 🙂

    1. These are wonderful ideas, Deniz! I love how you visualize an energetic connection with your deck – I am going to try that tonight – I had never considered my higher self communicating with my deck during sleep – but it makes total sense. This makes me want to start sleeping by my deck again!

  143. Trina Dela-Curva

    use a natural container box to hole the cards, like a nicely lined rosewood box and then you can place it under your pillows on the bed. It does not have to be directly under your head. you can place crystals and or sage inside with the

  144. Hi Kate l love the suggestion you make about asking the deck questions, it´s the first time l head this, but going to try, thank you xx

  145. Nahanni Faith Hartwood

    Hi Kate,
    These are fantastic ideas! I had honestly never thought about asking my decks questions about themselves before. I am definitely going to give that a try 🙂
    Thank you!

      1. My deck is smart.
        What kind of deck are you? 3 of Wands reversed
        What sums up your personality? The Moon
        What issues/areas of life do you specialize in? 2 of Pentacles reversed
        How can you best help me? 5 of Pentacles reversed
        What quality is most important in a tarot reader? Sun reversed
        How do you see our relationship? King of Pentacles

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