I am using the Mystical Cats Tarot for this weeks reading (as per the results of my Facebook poll.) If you want to help me choose next weeks reading, head on over to my Facebook page and do the poll!
Have a good week and happy shadow-working 🙂
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Nov 20 – 26 Read More »
But I suppose if I wanted to be a minimalist, I would say there is actually only ONE thing I regret in life – ignoring my intuition.
Because in all those situations, my intuition was guiding me down the right path but I chose to ignore.
I was vacationing on a small island off the B.C. coast with my significant other and we had just finished a beautiful day hike along a remote beach trail. We were heading back to our cabin along an old, deserted logging road when we spotted a dude hitchhiking…in the middle of nowhere. Weird right?
He looked like an old hippy and at first glance seemed harmless.
A soft voice in the back of my heart said “fuck it, just keep driving” but my mind said “he’s probably a local hippy and hitchhikes all the time. If you don’t pick him up who will? This is the middle of nowhere! Be kind and helpful for once in your life…”
I asked my significant other how he felt about picking him up. He said “it’s your call”. Which is his way of saying if this shit goes south, it’s on you.
I’d never picked up a hitchhiker before. It was something I always considered dangerous but this was different. I was on a small island where everyone knew each other, I had my burly boyfriend with me and this guy just looked like a harmless local. How could this possibly go wrong?
So I pulled over and picked him up. Over the course of our 20 minute drive, I learned four things about him:
Needless to say, I spent the entire drive tightly gripping the steering wheel and praying he wouldn’t murder us.
(*please note: I do realize that statistically, very few mentally ill people are actually dangerous. And I don’t intend to portray people with mental health issues as “scary” people that should be avoided. This is simply my experience and how it felt to me at the time).
It ended well – we dropped him off at the ferry terminal and he thanked us profusely for the ride and left. But that is the LAST TIME I ever pick up a hitchhiker!
So what did I learn from this? Two things.
I experienced my intuition as a slight feeling of just wanting to keep driving. My intuition didn’t shout NO! DON’T DO IT! Instead it murmured just keep driving.
I think we often expect our intuition to be loud and clear. But intuition communicates through inklings and hunches, not bellowing orders.
Honestly, I have lost count of the times I’ve ignored my intuition for the sake of “being polite”. From my run in with a masturbator at the local pool (a story for another time!) to picking up this mentally unstable hitchhiker, I often favor courting danger over possibly hurting someone’s feelings.
This desire for politeness is a terrible affliction, especially when it overpowers our survival instincts.
When my friend Laura invited me to go to Costa Rica with her, my intuition said “yes! do it!” but my rational mind said “are you crazy? You need to save your money for a house.”
That time I ran into a pervert at the pool, my intuition told me “this guy is creepy. Leave the steam room now.” But my rational mind said “he hasn’t done anything weird, so relax.” 20 seconds later things got weird.
Your intuition sees past appearances and “facts” to the raw truth of a situation. And while it can sometimes seem like ignoring your intuition is the easiest option in the short term, it never is.
The next time your doing a Tarot reading, be aware that any intuitive information you get may be impolite and irrational!
If you choose to only communicate stuff that makes perfect sense and won’t make your client uncomfortable, you’re tossing a wet blanket on your intuitive flame.
For many years I shied away from communicating what my intuition was telling me during a Tarot reading IF that information might be upsetting or intrusive. This was a mistake!
For example, when I realized one of my clients was planning on breaking up with her dud boyfriend, I avoided saying anything specific about it because she hadn’t asked about her relationship (she’d asked for a “general reading”) and I didn’t want to pry. So of course the reading lacked spice and intrigue 🙁
But I’ve learned from my mistakes. Now I’m more likely to pass on the info my intuition is serving up like I did in this reading, even if it blows back in my face.
When was the last time you ignored your intuition and regretted it? Tell me in the comments below!
The last time I ignored my intuition….I picked up a hitchhiker Read More »
Here is your weekly Tarot reading using the Everyday Witch Tarot …with some added feline ferocity at the very end!
Have a good week 🙂
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Nov 13 – 19 Read More »
My Tarot forecast for the week ahead is looking very cupsy…..
Have a great week!
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Nov 6 – 12 Read More »
Halloween is almost upon us! Last year I was disappointed we didn’t get any trick-or-treaters but this year I’m glad because the price of Halloween candy is surprisingly high! This year I’ll probably turn off all the lights and eat chocolate bars alone in the dark 🙂
Happy Halloween!
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Oct 30 – Nov 5 Read More »
October is my favorite month and the Druidcraft Tarot is my favorite deck to use in October! Foster kitten update is at the end of the video 🙂
Have a lovely week 😉
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Oct 23 – 29 Read More »
Thank you to all who did last weeks Tarot Challenge 🙂 Your insights were enlightening and I wish I had you all sitting beside me the next time I do a tricky reading! This is my follow up to that reading (details have been changed for confidentiality purposes)…
True confession: my last Tarot reading client totally hated her reading.
Here’s another confession….it’s not the first time this has happened!
Not too long ago I did a reading for a friend of a friend. She wanted to ask about a new guy she’d just met. They were going on their first date on Saturday night, three days away, and she was pretty sure he was The One.
We asked the cards “what is the potential of this relationship? What could the relationship be like if they continue dating?”
I pulled three cards and turned then over one by one….The Tower, Five of Cups and Ten of Swords.
It didn’t bode well.
And while I almost never say things like this, but I went ahead and said “I don’t think it’s going to work out.”
She looked at me like I’d slapped her and said “but it HAS TO work out. He’s THE ONE and I NEED for this to work out right now.”
She was pissed!
So I said “okay, let’s take a closer look at each card and what it could mean.” I broke down each card individually and all it’s possible meanings – both negative and positive.
The Tower shows that this relationship could shake her to her core and create many changes in her life. Which could be a good thing, but the miserable cards accompanying this one suggest otherwise.
The Five of Cups represents dwelling on what isn't working. If it was surrounded by some neutral or positive cards I would say it symbolizes a need to change one's mindset and look for the good. But since all the cards are dreary, I really struggled to put a positive spin on this one.
The Ten of Swords can signify betrayal, feeling utterly powerless and/or a tendency to think things are worse than they really are. All the cards together seemed to be saying stay away! Run! Run!
The cards were clear as day, but here's the frustrating part:
She was absolutely unwilling to hear anything that didn't support her fantasy that this guy was The One.
In the end I kind of gave up and said "I could be wrong. The cards could be wrong. Perhaps this will work out wonderfully. But this is just what I'm getting from these cards in front of me."
After all, my reading isn't The Last Word and I always encourage my clients to take what I say with a grain of salt.
When it was all said and done she thanked me for the reading, said I'd given her lots to think about and left. But I could tell she felt unsatisfied, like when you go to a restaurant and order french fries and the waiter brings you steamed tofu.
Or when you crash a wedding party only to find out it's a "dry" wedding. Or when Chris Hemsworth only takes his shirt off once, at the very beginning of Thor, and you sit through the rest of yet another boring superhero movie, hoping for a glimpse of ab that never comes. Okay, you get the point.
And nothing feels worse than being the cause of someone else's disappointment.
As a Tarot reader, I want to deliver. I want to give someone the goods, the nitty gritty, the juicy details they've been longing to hear. I don't want to be a wet blanket or a brick of steamed tofu. Noooooo!
But I also don't want to just make up a bunch of happy crap if the cards are saying something else. I don't want to be a Debbie Downer but I also don't want to be dishonest.
So this leads me to two important questions that every Tarot reader will eventually ask:
Let's start by tackling question #1
My biggest mistake was doing a reading that focused heavily on The Future, by asking about the potential of a relationship that didn't even exist yet.
Anytime we focus a reading on the future, we dis-empower ourselves because we assume the future is set in stone and that our actions and thoughts have little influence. And that's crazy!
Some better questions might have been:
These questions would have made it easier to steer the reading in a more empowering direction, even if she got the same three crappy cards.
But even if I did everything right and delivered the perfect reading, she may still have hated it...
Nothing triggers insecurity in a Tarot reader more than an unhappy client, but it's important to distinguish between a genuinely crappy reading and a reading that just didn't mirror your client's hopes.
In my case, I was confident in my reading skills. I knew the reading I gave was solid. But I did wonder....should I have delivered the information in such an upfront fashion? Or should I have been more gentle?
But what if it had been a bad reading skill-wise? Should I have offered her a refund?
Luckily, I've never had a client ask for a refund and I've never felt the need to offer one. But if I did feel like I delivered a terrible reading - and my client seemed unhappy - I wouldn't feel comfortable just sending them on their way.
However, I once read this on a Tarot reader's site: "Tarot readings are free. I charge for my time."
So I think it's up to the reader to do what feels best for them.
If you're new-ish to reading for others, a bad experience can have a powerful effect on you. Even if you're more experienced, the feeling that your client didn't love their reading can be de-motivating and make you question if you're really fit to be a Tarot reader.
Set an intention: Before each reading I set the intention that whatever comes up during the reading is exactly what that person needs to hear at this time. This allows me to let the reading go once it's over and not think I should have said this or I shouldn't have said that.
Have good boundaries: It's helpful to remind yourself that your role as a Tarot reader is to interpret the cards as best you can and help your client find ideas and solutions. It's NOT your job to fix their problems or tell them what they want to hear.
Learn from your bad experiences: Whenever I'm not happy with how a reading went, I ask myself what I could have done differently (like I did above). This isn't about regret or beating myself up, it's about learning and growing as a reader.
My client hated her Tarot reading (and here’s how I dealt) Read More »
While this weeks reading wasn’t bombarded by crazy cats, there is one very polite little girl kitten who shows up at the end 🙂 For this reading I’m using the Everyday Witch Tarot…
Have a great week!
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Oct 16 – 22 Read More »
Okay, I promise you that next weeks reading will not be video-bombed by meowing cats! Promise. And to my Canadian viewers – Happy Thanksgiving!!!!
Have a wonderful week 🙂
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Reading for Oct 9 -15 Read More »
This is a true story, although names and details have been altered slightly for the sake of confidentiality…
A friend of a friend – let’s call her Sarah – came to me all in a flap! She was so excited because she’d just met someone who seemed like the perfect guy – handsome, sweet, witty, rich and worldly. They had an instant connection and she agreed to a date with him on Saturday, just three days away.
She was pretty certain they would end up marrying and having babies, but she wanted to see what the Tarot cards had to say about it.
Her question was what is the long term potential of this relationship?
I shuffled and drew three cards: The Tower, Five of Cups and Ten of Swords.
I gave her my take on these cards and she was NOT happy. She was very disappointed in the reading and even though I tried my best to find a silver lining and steer things in a positive, empowering direction, it was nearly impossible!
I will share my experience of this reading in next weeks post which will be called My client hated her Tarot reading (and here’s how I dealt), but first I want to hear your take on these cards…
How would you interpret this reading? What advice would you give to Sarah? Please post your answer in the comments below 🙂
I can’t wait to read your response!!!
xoxo
Kate
Tarot Challenge: How would YOU interpret this reading? Read More »
