Halloween always feels like New Years to me – a chance to start fresh and set new intentions. It’s also a good excuse to bust out my Tarot deck and do one of those in-depth readings where I light candles, lay out crystals and get super witchy!
Hope your Halloween is cozy, magical and full of Tarot adventures 🙂
xoxo
Kate
Summer is almost here (only 5 days away!) and since last Summer was kind of heavy and drab, I have high expectations for this Summer.
I’ve spent the last 12 months pumping iron in my basement like I’m training for the apocalypse. To reward myself, I bought myself a scandalously skimpy bikini that I actually plan to wear… in public (!)
And I realized I was craving a Summer themed Tarot spread that was fun, lighthearted and a little bit sexy, so I came up with this…
Warning! The 4 Tarot spreads that I’m about to share just might make a Valentine’s Day fan out of you! Believe it.
Valentine’s Day – you either love it or hate it.
For me, Valentine’s is synonymous with trying out fun Tarot spreads, gorging myself on heart shaped chocolates and guilt tripping my husband into doing romantic things that he hates, like not reading the newspaper while we eat dinner together.
Whether you dread or anticipate Valentines (or just don’t give a f*ck), I’ve got four fun Valentine’s Day Tarot spreads for you to try:
Awaken Your Inner Sex Goddess!
This one’s my fave because it doesn’t matter where you’re at relationship wise, you can always up the ante in the sexy department…
I designed this spread for anyone who wants to have a more interesting romantic life, whether you’re single or attached (and let’s be honest, who doesn’t?!)
This is an oldie, but a goodie! I created this spread years ago for my e-book Tarot Card Spreads for Love, Sex & Relationships and it’s still a fave of mine 🙂
This spread is all about the relationship you have with yourself – the one relationship you can never get out of *shudder!*
How To Seduce Your Crush…
This is probably the most unethical Tarot spread I’ve ever created – and I love it! We all know that prying into someone’s private thoughts is wrong, but it doesn’t count on Valentine’s Day, right? 😉
I hope you’ve enjoyed these romantic and sexy Tarot spreads and I wish you a wonderful Valentines Day, full of heart shaped candies and bad rom coms ♥
xoxo
Kate
I sat down yesterday to give myself a Summer check-in reading, using my old Tarot spread from last year and… I just wasn’t feelin’ it.
2020 has been such a weird year and my needs and concerns are different now than they were last Summer (and I’m sure yours are too!). So I decided to revamp my old spread and change it up a bit…
It’s all pretty self explanatory, but there’s a couple of card positions I want to explain more:
Card #5 (The HEART of the matter) – This card will tell you how to connect with your heart and create more love and less fear in your life. It will also give you some ideas as to what is central and most important in your life right now.
Card #7 (What needs to be SEEN) – This is usually something that you aren’t fully aware of, yet is holding you back in some way. For example, I got the Five of Pentacles in this position, which I read as my tendency to isolate myself.
This card doesn’t have to be something that’s holding you back, though – it’s just something you need to be aware of.
Have fun with this spread! I hope you get lots of wonderful ideas, insights and inspiration ♥
Staying inside for long periods of time can be a blessing or a curse (usually both!) because it forces us to confront ourselves. Sort of.
There’s still The Internet and the myriad of entertainment possibilities like TV shows, movies, podcasts, porn, video games, books, picking fights with one’s husband, etc, that can serve as glorious distractions.
BUT….when you can no longer venture outside, eventually you must venture inside. And what better way to do it than with a juicy-fun Tarot spread?
So dust off your Tarot deck, light some smelly incense and let’s get witchy…
Quarantined? Practising “social distancing”? Already watched all the crap on Netflix? Don’t worry! I’ve got your back.
The bright side of a mini apocalypse is having more time to devote to your Tarot studies. So don’t stress! Instead, bust out your Tarot deck and let’s get to it…
I’ve rounded up my 7 favorite Tarot exercises that will help you pass the time AND transform you into a better Tarot reader!
This one is good for Tarot beginners but more experienced Tarot readers will find some helpful tidbits, too.
Here I share my favorite techniques for learning the Tarot card meanings – techniques that will help you engage with the cards and stop relying on Tarot books or boring memorization!
A mediocre Tarot reader asks her deck questions. A sensational Tarot reader lets her deck ask her the questions! Confused yet? Then read the full article and/or watch this video…
We all know the Court Cards can be a challenge. They’re kind of boring, nothings happening in them and they all look the same. But I discovered a funny way to get to know them (and remember them!) and I think you might just like it…
Have you ever noticed that some cards in the Tarot are kind of similar? Like the Two of Cups and The Lovers? Or The Emperor and the King of Swords?
I call these similar cards sister cards and in this post I tell you what it means when a pair like this shows up in your reading and how studying the “sister cards” can help you deepen your understanding of Tarot.
This Tarot spread collection has spreads for special occasions like birthdays, Christmas and Valentines and weird stuff like a special spread for cat lovers. Plus, there’s even Tarot spreads that you will actually want to try, trust me 😉
View and download my Essential Tarot Spread Collection right HERE.
Well, guess what? I’ve created a new, sexy-smutty Tarot card spread just in time for Valentines!
Whether your single or unhappily married, there’s no time like Valentine’s to ratchet up the sexy factor. Inside of you lives a raging sex goddess (or sex god) whose just clamouring to bust free!
Full disclosure: this is the same Christmas Tarot spread I created last year. I know, I know! But I’ve got a major case of the lazies right now.
Lately all I’ve wanted to do is lie around and read and meditate and have hot baths. I like to think of it as the lead up to a phase of unparalleled creativity and productive focus, but we’ll see 😉
So my intention was to create a new Christmas Tarot spread this year, in the shape of a wreath. But I actually really like the one I did last year and so I’m sticking with that!
So I invite you to light some candles, take a few deep breaths, shuffle your cards and try my old Christmasy Tarot Spread!
One of the most challenging aspects of giving a Tarot reading to someone is doing it in a specific time frame – especially if that time frame is short, like ten minutes.
I was recently hired to read Tarot at a Halloween party, which is something I don’t do that often as most of my readings are done online. Since there were around 15 people wanting readings, I had to make these readings short and sweet and keep to my ten minute time limit.
If you’re interested in becoming a professional Tarot reader, being able to do “quickie readings” is a required skill, but it’s also something that many readers (including myself) struggle with.
So I’m here to break it down for you! I’m going to tell you:
My ONE favorite tip for keeping readings short and sweet
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THREE things that can derail a “quickie” reading and turn it into a long one (and what to do about it)
My #1 Tip for keeping Tarot readings short & sweet
Have a general 3 card Tarot spread that you use with everyone. If you’re doing a Tarot party, using the same spread over and over again will help you get into a groove and you won’t waste any time trying to choose the right spread.
Here’s the one I use…
The let go card represents what might be standing in your client’s way, what’s blocking her or what she needs to release.
What you need to knowis simply what your client needs to focus on right now – sometimes this card indicates a mindset or way of operating in the world that will be helpful for that person. For example, The Empress could be saying “take a relaxed, laid back approach to life right now and focus on nurturing yourself and your dreams.”
The upcoming opportunitycard can represent an action your client needs to take or what will help hermost right now.
You can be flexible and slightly alter the positions to suit whoever you’re reading for. I find that most people getting a quickie Tarot reading just want a general reading or they want a general reading about a specific topic (love life, career, health, money, etc).
If their questions are more specific, you can adjust the spread as needed, but I find this spread works wonderfully for all sorts of questions.
Tip: Practice using this spread beforehand and keeping it to just ten minutes! Just do some pretend readings for imaginary clients – it will boost your confidence and help you flex your Tarot reading muscles.
3 Things that can derail a “quickie” Tarot reading:
Whenever you’re trying to keep a reading short and sweet, it’s inevitable that you’ll encounter obstacles at every turn – little things that will threaten to turn your quick reading into a long, drawn out affair. In order to avoid them, you need to be prepared!
1. The chitty-chatty client
Every now and then you’ll get a client who’ll want to unload their life story prior to the reading or ask a million questions, or both! As the Tarot reader, it’s your job to act as a referee in these situations and not let this person run roughshod over your time and energy.
I once had a client who, after asking her “is there anything you’d like me to focus on during your reading?” took a deep breath and then launched into a convoluted story about her ex, kids and money woes which revealed very little except that she was overwhelmed, stressed out and confused.
In this situation, I had 3 choices:
Option A) I could have let her ramble indefinitely, wasting tons of time (not a good option!)
Option B) I could interrupt her and say “it sounds like you’re going through a difficult and confusing time and would like some clarity and guidance,” and then focus the reading on the question “what does she need to focus on right now to bring peace and clarity?”
This is what I call a compassionate response – it takes the client’s feelings into account and let’s her avoid doing the heavy lifting of coming up with her own question for the cards.
The compassionate response takes a bit of skill on the readers part because you have to quickly assess how that client is feeling and form a question around that.
This way of dealing with an overly chatty client is kind of like saying “okay, I get the picture, now leave the rest to me.”
Option C) I could interrupt her and say “what is ONE question you have for the cards today?”
This is what I call a clarity question – it forces the client to quiet her mental chatter and drill down on what is truly important to her right now.
*Tip: if you’re short on time, this is actually a great question to open the reading with.
Either response B or C would be helpful here, depending on the client. Some clients might just use the clarity question to keep chatting, in which case you can move into compassionate response mode.
So I guess what I’m really saying here is don’t let your client ramble on and on before a ten minute Tarot reading. I usually allow ONE MINUTE MAX for preamble chit chat before I draw the cards.
2. BIG questions that can't be addressed in 10 min
I find that most questions or issues can at least be explored in a ten minute Tarot reading, even if you don't get super in-depth or come up with a solution/answer.
However, there are some questions that demand a longer period of time and there's just no way you'll be able to satisfy your client with a quick ten minute reading.
These include questions that are actually multiple questions in disguise or what I call questions within questions.
Here's an example: "should I accept the new job offer or stay in my current job? And if I should stay in my old job, should I ask for a raise or do anything else differently?"
For a complex, multi-layered question, you can simply take ONE aspect of their question and focus on that. In the above example, I would take the first part of the question "should I accept the new job offer or stay in my current job?" and just focus on that and let my client know we don't have time to cover all her questions.
Questions that carry a big emotional weight to them are also good to avoid when you're giving a ten minute Tarot reading.
For example, questions like "why did my marriage fall apart?","will my aunt beat cancer?" or "should I cut my sister out of my life?" aren't the kinds of topics you want to be diving into in a mini reading.
If your client asks an emotionally heavy question, you can sometimes transform it into a "light" question. For example, why did my marriage fall apart? can be turned into what was I meant to learn from my last relationship? Or even what can I do to move forward successfully?
3. Your own tendency to ramble on and on...
This is the one I struggle with the most! Sometimes when I'm reading Tarot there's a part of me that's watching myself (like in an out of body experience kind of way) and thinking oh for fucks sake Kate, get to the point! because it's hard for me to say something just once - I like to repeat myself and say the same thing but a bit differently.
Less is more. Be concise. This is especially important if you've only got 10 min to give a reading.
Another thing that's sometimes tricky is wrapping up the reading. It's especially difficult if you feel like there's still more you want to say or if you sense your client feels unsatisfied. But wrap up you must!
There's a couple good ways to wrap up a reading. I always like to quickly recap the key points of the reading, then I say "thank you for having me read your cards for you" as I gather up the cards and re-shuffle. If there's extra time (which there usually isn't in a 10 min reading) I might ask if they have any questions about their cards.
Get comfy wrapping things up. Practice doing pretend readings on imaginary clients and run through your wrap up procedure until it feels like second nature.
Make these 10 minutes really count!
Having only ten minutes to read someone's cards really forces you to focus on what's really important. When you're giving a "quickie" Tarot reading, ask yourself how can I make the most out of these ten minutes?
Don't waste time rambling about the past or blabbering endlessly about the future - save that crap for the 20 min readings! I find that focusing on the NOW and what your client can DO to make life more magical is what makes for a good ten minute reading.
A Recommendation...
If you're interested in doing Tarot reading at parties and events, a must-read book is Have Tarot Will Partyby Jenna Matlin (this is my affiliate link). She explains everything you need to know about party readings and really lays it out in a practical way.
Even though I've done party readings before, I never felt 100% at ease doing them. In fact, I've always felt a vague sense of terror while reading in a party atmosphere. But after reading Jenna's book I felt confident and excited about doing party readings. Shortly after reading her book I got hired to read at a party and for the first time I actually felt calm, relaxed and organized while doing readings. Yay!
I want to know...
What are the things that YOU struggle with when giving quick, 10-min Tarot readings? Let me know in the comments...
I recently had the bizarre experience of getting completely ghosted by a friend. One minute we were great buds and the next minute she was giving me the cold shoulder.
I have no idea why.
My first thought was what did I do wrong?Was it something I said? And then I backtracked and replayed our last interactions in my mind, looking for the pivotal moment when she must have thought yuck, I want nothing to do with Kate anymore!
At this point I realized I could drive myself crazy by guessing and speculating, so I decided to take a deep breath and create a new Tarot spread….because I know there are others out there like me who have been ghosted and thought WTF?
After trying out this spread, I felt calm, peaceful and ready to let this friendship go. It can be hard when someone disappears from your life and you don’t know why, so hopefully this spread will help you put it all in perspective and get clear on how you can feel better about this whole shit charade!