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Why the Court Cards are so darn hard to read (and what you can do about it)

Several years ago I went to all girls dinner party where I didn’t know anybody except the host.

When I entered the kitchen I was horrified to see that nearly every girl there looked the same. They all had these Justin Bieber haircuts (circa 2009) and names like Kellie, Suzie and Tawnie.

So picture a roomful of women with hair like this:

Even worse, they all had similar, professional-type jobs and wore identical denim capri pants.

How was I going to tell them apart?

Upon my arrival, their laughter stopped and they immediately began murmuring quietly to each other, leading me to conclude that they all hated me and I was a complete failure at everything.

In retrospect, maybe I was just feeling really insecure that day.

After meeting each of them I promptly forgot all their names. But as the night progressed I got to know each of them a little better and realized that there were, in fact, some slight differences between them.

By the time I left they seemed like a bunch of individuals and not a mob of identical Bieber-haired Stepford wives.

So now you’re thinking well that’s nice, but what the f*&k does this have to do with Court Cards?

Here’s the deal: my theory is that the Court Cards are hard to learn and read because they all look so similar.

Almost every Tarot reader will tell you that the Court Cards can be a major pain in the ass. For years I felt this way – often crossing my fingers that I didn’t get a bloody Court Card!

Why?

Because when I taught myself Tarot, I never really got the Court Cards. Sure, I read all about them in my Tarot books, but I could never remember what they were supposed to mean and I always felt confused when one turned up in a reading.

But once you get to know the Court Cards (just like I got to know those Bieber beotches), they will start making sense.

Try this!

1. Choose a Court Card from your Tarot deck (for this exercise I am going to go with the Queen of Swords)

2. Get a general sense of what this card is all about. If you don’t know your Courts very well, look up the meaning in a book or google it.

3. Go deeper: think of your Court Card as an actual person and really get to know them.

*Download and print off this worksheet to get started.

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Here's how I did this for the Queen of Swords....

Court Card: Queen of Swords

Personality keywords: smart, judgmental, clear headed, speaks her mind, confident

Favorite hobbies: reading intellectual books and making to-do lists

Best asset: clear communicator

Worst character flaw: judgmental and bitchy

Possible careers: professor, teacher, translator, speech writer

Blocks/challenges: being stuck in her head and thinking too much

Goals & dreams: to get a PhD and establish her career, write an instructional book of some sort

Biggest fear: having to work at Burger King to pay her bills OR having to sit through The Notebook again.

So now you can see that a memorable, distinct personality is emerging. Whereas before you may have thought of the Queen of Swords was just another boring, Queeny card. NOT SO! Please feel free to share your own card and responses in the comments below 🙂

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Let’s talk Tea Leaf Reading & Tarot with Tabitha Dial

I have always been fascinated by Tea Leaf reading, so I jumped at the opportunity to talk with the lovely and amazing Tarot and Tea Leaf reader Tabitha Dial.

We talk about all kinds of fascinating issues, such as:

  • How to read your own tea leaves
  • Love symbols in your teacup
  • The challenge of reading for people you know
  • What if your intuition is wrong?

Tabitha’s website: tarotandtealeafreadings.com

Tabitha’s Etsy shop: https://www.etsy.com/shop/TarotandTeaReadings
February special: 10% off, discount code: LOVE10

Recommended Books:

Tea Leaf Reading for Beginners by Caroline Dow

Tea Leaf Fortune Cards by Rae Hepburn

 

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Asking YES/NO Questions with Your Tarot Cards

I am just going to come right out and say it….

The surefire way to get confused as f*ck is to ask your Tarot deck Yes/No questions.

In my opinion, Yes/No questions + the Tarot just don’t mix. The Tarot is an amazing tool for inquiring about things and making discoveries. But it is total shit at answering Yes/No questions.

I know, I know, it’s so tempting to ask. I do it all the time. Even though I know that Yes/No questions never really work well with Tarot, I ask them all the time….and I always end up confused and frustrated.

Why is the Tarot so hopeless at answering your Yes/No questions?

Here’s my take on it – the Tarot is a reflection of the world around you. If you study your deck closely you will see that all the archetypes, emotions, everyday challenges and joys are all depicted in the Tarot.

Our world is complex, messy, interconnected and bursting with colour, sensation and vibration. We don’t live in a black and white world where everything is distinct, separate, clean and neat. And Yes/No questions are black and white.

But here’s a sneaky way to get your Yes/No questions answered anyway…

All you need to do is rephrase your Yes/No Tarot question.

For example, if I want to ask “should I seduce my 19 year old neighbor, yes or no?” I could rephrase it as “how do you feel about me seducing my 19 year old neighbor?” (in this case the you could refer to your higher self, the universe, your spirit guides – whoever it is your trying to communicate with via your Tarot deck)

Asking open ended questions when working with your Tarot cards will make for much better readings and less confusion.

Let me demonstrate this concept a little more….

Today I asked my Tarot deck “should I take a month off to travel around Costa Rica in 2015? Yes or no?” and I pulled the Seven of Pentacles from the Anna K Tarot deck:

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Anna K Tarot

I was confused at first. Does this mean “yes, but be patient” or does it mean “no, you should be focusing on work”?

So I rephrased my question and asked “How do you feel about me taking a month off to travel around Costa Rica in 2015?” and then I took another look at this card.

Suddenly, it all seemed very clear! A few months ago I planted some seeds (aka started some projects) and those “seeds” have taken root and are beginning to sprout. If I go away now, those shoots will die from neglect. I need to tend to my garden (garden = my life and my creative/business projects) first and once things are more established, then I can take off for a month. I need to be patient now – patient with my projects and business and patient because I will get to go to Costa Rica eventually, just not right now.

So not only did I understand that the answer to my question was NO, I could see the reasons why it was a no and what I needed to focus on in the meantime.

Here are some other ways to rephrase your Yes/No Tarot questions:

1. What is the potential of ___________________?
For example, “should I accept this job offer? Yes or No?” becomes “what is the potential of accepting this job offer?”

2. How would I feel if I ________________?
For example, “should I sell my house now?” becomes “how would I feel if I sold my house now?”

3. What would be the outcome of ____________ vs ____________?
For example, “should I marry Bob or Dave?” becomes “what would be the outcome of marrying Bob?” – draw a card – “vs marrying Dave?” – draw a second card.

Your turn!

What Yes/No question do you have for your Tarot cards? Try one of my alternate rephrases and see how it goes! Feel free to share all about it in the comments below 🙂

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Frau Grand Duchess Tarot by Jen Kruch

frau grand duchess tarot The Frau Grand Duchess Tarot is an atmospheric, collage style deck created by Jen Kruch. The deck has 78 cards, based on the Rider-Waite-Smith structure and was self published in 2013.

The deck comes with a little white book and pretty, silver pentacle charm (pictured left). The book features basic card meanings, including reversed meanings and a brief description of the celtic cross spread.

 

Likes:

  • Cards have a distinct retro vibe
  • Bizarre images invite contemplation
  • Mint green borders make me squeal with glee!

 Dislikes:

  • Roman Numerals (why did I never learn these?!)
  • Cards can sometimes be a bit confusing and disorienting

When I first slid these cards out of their box, I immediately fell in love with the pretty, lacy card backs. How the card backs look is so important to me and I like how they’re very light and understated.

The borders of the cards are mint green (or as my mother would say, “hospital green” because they used to paint hospital rooms that color). Anyhow, this is one of my favorite shades of green, so this little detail had me happy as a clam.

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The Hermit, The Lovers, The Sun

Artist Jen Kruch created these cards by cutting out images from 1950-70’s magazines. Just looking at these cards brings back so many memories! Not because I was alive in that era (I was born in 1981), but because I remember looking through my grandmother’s old magazines.

I distinctly remember the word “dainty” being used in ads for bras, douche bags, armpit  deodorant, you name it – daintiness was where it was at back then!

I feel the Frau Grand Duchess Tarot accurately captures the weirdness and charm of the 50’s, 60’s and 70’s – including awful details like mustard colored washing machines and plaid couches. Love it!

But how does it read? What is it like to work with?

Sturdy, glossy card stock gives this deck a high quality feel. The cards that are just a little bit longer than most of my decks, which pose a challenge to my “dainty” hands when shuffling my usual way.

While the deck follows the typical Rider-Waite-Smith structure, the cards themselves aren’t immediately recognizable. For example, when I pulled the Four of Wands (pictured below) I thought “what the hell is this supposed to mean?!”

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Four of Wands

But after some pondering and admittedly, looking up the meaning in the little white book, it made perfect sense – even the scuba diver made sense!

So this deck takes some contemplation to understand – which can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on what your in the mood for.

If you want to do a quick reading, it could be frustrating, but if you want to explore the world of the Frau Grand Duchess Tarot, these cards are wonderful for inviting meditation and reflection!

There’s something about collage-style Tarot decks – they remind me of dreams. Sometimes wacky and disjointed, but fascinating nonetheless. Reading with the Frau Grand Duchess Tarot lets you step into an intriguing, odd 1960’s-esque dreamworld where your imagination, memories and intuition are free to come out and play.

 Who will love this deck?

Intermediate to advanced Tarot readers, who already have a good understanding of Tarot, will enjoy the creative and fresh depictions of each card.

I wouldn’t recommend this as a first deck for absolute beginners, but if you’re looking for something quirky and intriguing, the Frau Grand Duchess Tarot is a delightful addition to your Tarot collection!

How to buy this deck:

Click here to purchase this deck from the artist’s site

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Knight of Coins, Justice, Three of Coins

 

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How do YOU see these Tarot cards?

Back by popular demand….the monthly Tarot challenge!

What would YOU do in this situation?:

Let’s pretend your giving a Tarot reading to Chastity Applebottom, a striking woman in her late 30’s, who was referred to you by a mutual friend. She plunks herself down at your reading table, all bouncy curls and cleavage, and says:

I just need some confirmation that I am doing the right thing. I got married a year ago to a man that I thought was my soul-mate – his name’s Carlos – but then about a month ago I discovered that he doesn’t really work as a traveling Loans officer, but is actually a Colombian drug lord and has been cheating on me with all sorts of floozies. He has this whole secret life that I wasn’t even aware of until now. Anyhow, I was going to leave him but then I realized that I would like to have a baby and I am getting too old to be putting it off. I’m almost 40. If I leave Carlos it may take me a year or two to find someone suitable to mate with, which could be too late. So I am thinking of staying with Carlos so I can have a baby. He’s not a bad guy – he bought me and boob job AND a Vitamix blender for my birthday. I think this is the best choice, really, but I just need to hear it from you to put my mind at ease.”

So of course you’re thinking run, Chastity, run! but you shuffle your cards anyway and this is what comes up:

reading - morgan greer tarot
From left to right: Ace of Cups, 10 of Pentacles, Queen of Pentacles.
Morgan Greer Tarot

Please note: this is an extra challenging Tarot challenge because you probably want to tell Chastity to run like the wind, yet the cards seem to be quite positive. So….

How would you interpret these cards? What advice would you give to Chastity? I invite you to share your interpretation in the comments section below 🙂

Tip: look at the cards and ask what do these cards seem to be saying to Chastity?

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How would YOU interpret this reading?

Are you up for a Tarot challenge?

Good!

Okay, so let’s say your giving a reading to a close friend (lets call him Xavier, because that’s a pretty sexy name).

He moans “my life is not going anywhere. I have been stuck in the same crappy job for the past 6 years, living in my parents basement and have been single for 3 years. I can’t seem to meet the right person, no matter what I do. It feels like I am not progressing in life and I have no idea why or what I can do to change things. Help!”

You shuffle the deck and this is what comes up:

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Now, how would YOU interpret these cards?

But here’s the “challenge”: How would you interpret these cards in a way that is uplifting and empowering, without being sugarcoated?

*Please note that I am not using any particular spread, so you can interpret these cards any way you like.

What advice would you give Xavier?

Feel free to share your interpretation in the comments below – I can’t wait to see what you come up with!

In one week, I will post my own interpretation here. But remember there are many, many ways to interpret this reading – there is no one “right” way. So put on your Tarot reading glasses and go to town!

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How to Answer a Specific Question with a Tarot Card

Picture this: the candles are lit, Nag Champa incense is wafting about the room, a cozy fire is crackling in the background (or if your like me, your “fireplace” dvd is crackling in the background), and your hunkered down at your dining room table, giving your best friend a Tarot reading…

Your friend asks something typical like “Is Gary my soulmate?”

You roll your eyes, draw a card and…WTF?! It’s The Heirophant.

“F*ck!” you think. “What on Earth does that mean?!”

the hierophant tarot card meaning
Card image is from The Rider-Waite Tarot Deck published by U.S.Games Systems, Inc.

Of course, you know exactly what The Hierophant means all on its own, but you have no idea what it means in relation to the question being asked.

Reading Tarot can sometimes feels like deciphering hieroglyphics. All you want is a clear answer and instead you end up feeling more and more confused!

This actually used to happen to me ALL THE TIME. And if I am being 100% honest with you, it still happens every now and then 😉 But luckily I have gotten my shit together and come up with some handy dandy ways to get around this annoying issue.

 

Tip #1: Put on Your Glasses

Have you ever heard that expression “looking at the world through rose-tinted lenses”? You want to look at the confusing Tarot card through situation-tinted lenses. Let me explain…

When you get a Tarot card that just doesn’t make sense, picture yourself calmly sliding on a pair of glasses, like Corey Hart in his Sunglasses at Night video…

Now imagine that these are magic glasses that will help you see the Tarot card in light of the particular issue.

So for the reading I mentioned earlier, you would put on your “soulmate searching” glasses and ask “in regards to finding one’s soulmate, what message does this card have for my friend?”

 

Look at the Tarot card:

Let go of the traditional card meaning for a sec and just see what pops into your head. Notice what symbol your attention is drawn to. Doing this gives your intuition a chance to come out and play.

Example: When I do this for The Hierophant (above), I suddenly notice that there are two identical pillars, two identical monks side by side and two keys crossed. This makes me think aha! soulmates! but then there’s that pesky Hierophant coming between them. So I might say that there is soulmate possibility, but there is a powerful force keeping them apart right now.

But what if The Hierophant had come up in a reading about career/life purpose?

As I slide on my magic glasses, I notice that this card really exudes authority and tradition. This could suggest your life purpose is to be an authority figure of some type, but it may require years of formal study. Or it could mean your life purpose will be intimately intertwined with spirituality.

 

Look at the “traditional meaning”:

Now that you’ve unleashed your intuition, it’s time to indulge your intellect! Take a look at the traditional card meaning through your magic glasses and see how it relates to your question.

According to the little white book that came with my Universal Waite Tarot deck, The Hierophant means “marriage alliance, captivity, servitude, mercy and goodness, inspiration, the man to whom the querent has recourse.”

So how could I bend this definition to shed light on the question “Is Gary my soulmate?”

Well, well, well! I might say that marriage to Gary would make sense in a socially acceptable, conform to society kind of way. Perhaps she really wants Gary to be her soul mate because marriage to him may solve many of her problems. But ultimately, this will make her feel trapped. This doesn’t really answer the question, but it does suggest that rushing into marriage isn’t necessary.

 

Here’s my demonstration of how to read a Tarot card in many different contexts:

 

Tip #2: Practice Looking at Each Tarot Card in Many Different Ways

Let’s take The Chariot. What might it mean if it came up in a reading about career? About love? About health?

Typically The Chariot is all about moving forward, success, etc, but what if it appears in the “things that are blocking me” position in a reading?

Doing this will require you to really ponder each card, its symbols and even look up the meanings in your book. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box. Consider both the negative and positive aspects of the card.

the-chariot-tarot-card-meaning
Card image is from The Rider-Waite Tarot Deck published by U.S.Games Systems, Inc.

Example:
The Chariot:
Career – advancing quickly
Love – triumph, success in romance
Health – health is improving, but keep things balanced
Block – too driven, need to slow down and relax
Negatives – too focused on “success” and getting to the destination, parts of the self being in disagreement (especially if the horses are going in different directions)

 

Tarot is meant to be flexible. When you first learn Tarot, its all about memorizing the specific card meanings, and this can put you in a rigid frame of mind. But as you develop your reading skills, the challenge is in using the context to bend and grow the card meanings.

This exercise helps your mind get used to looking at a Tarot card from all angles and contexts.

 

Tip #3: Don’t always expect your Tarot cards to give you a clear answer!

Sometimes a Tarot card will be the doorway to discovering your own solutions and answers, but it will not be the answer itself.

The images on a Tarot card may lead you on a trip down memory lane, steer you into a particular train of thought or an idea may be sparked. So don’t go chucking out your cards if they don’t make sense right away! Be willing to explore 🙂

Let me know what you think!

What happened when you tried out this technique?

Do you have a favorite trick for reading a Tarot card in a specific context?

Tell me in the comments below!

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Are you a Tarot beginner? Start here!

Learning Tarot can be an overwhelming experience. So many decks and books to choose from, it’s hard to know where to start. If you are feeling in need of a little guidance, I made this video just for you!

6 Steps to Learn Tarot:

Step 1: Get a Tarot deck.

rider-waite-smith-tarotI recommend The Rider-Waite Tarot deck. Read my detailed review right here.
My favorite version of this deck is the Universal Waite Tarot (check it out on Amazon).

 

 

Step 2: Get a good Tarot book.

I love A Magical Course in Tarot by Michele Morgan and Learning the Tarot by Joan Bunning. Both books are excellent resources that you will want to have in your library!

learning the tarotmagical-course

 

 

 

 

For more information about what Tarot decks and Tarot books to get, check out my article Best Tarot Decks & Books for Beginners.

 

Step 3: Don’t get overwhelmed!

Learning Tarot is like peeling an onion – there are many layers. No matter how much you think you know about Tarot, you can always learn more. So don’t attempt to learn everything all at once. Pace yourself, relax and have fun with it!

 

Step 4: Download my free audio tutorial

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In this 16 minute guided exploration, I will walk you through all the steps of giving yourself an intuitive one-card Tarot or Oracle card reading.

Go here to get your free download 🙂

 

Step 5: Make your very own Tarot journal!

tarot-journalAll you need is a blank notebook, some colored pens and maybe some stickers if your into that sort of thing.

Your Tarot journal is your space to write about each Tarot card – what you think it means, any impressions you get, keywords, etc. Or, you can take a more specific approach to Tarot journalling and write about particular topics, as I suggest right here.

Check out my article Make Your Own Tarot Journal…And Boost Your Tarot Reading Skills for some ideas on Tarot journalling.

 

Step 6: Learn the Tarot card meanings

Learning the meanings of the 78 cards in your Tarot deck will be lots of fun when you use my 7 Tips for Learning Tarot Card Meanings.

Grab your “Tarot Cheat-sheet” right here. This list of all the Tarot card meanings will be handy to have on hand as you learn Tarot!

You may find that learning the Court Cards is harder than you thought. If you struggle with this, have a peek at my article & video: Learn the Tarot Court Cards Once and for All!

 

Further study:

buddhaHow to Read a Tarot Card with Intuition
Learn how to develop your intuition and how to use it to interpret a Tarot card.

3 Ways to Connect with Your Deck
Your Tarot readings will improve dramatically once you feel a true bond with your cards. This exercise is a must-do whenever you get a new deck!

 

I want to hear from you!

If you are a Tarot beginner, what do you find is your biggest challenge in learning Tarot? If you have been reading Tarot a while, what helped you the most when you were first learning? And what advice do you have for beginners? Tell me in the comment section below 🙂

 

 

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